Women are now paying for their own engagement rings

[FemmeFatale]

I read this article with crazy face..everyday the standard gets lower and lower.

http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/10/wom...-engagement-rings.html?mid=twitter_thecutblog

 

[Mortons]

Do dudes have no pride at all? I would fel like a less than partner if I didnt give my woman a ring of my own that I provided for her.

 

[Ganjababy]

That is just ridiculous. Utterly.

 

[DarkJoy]

I cant even read the aricle. The thread title alone made my want to punch some lazy good for nothing wannabe husband. WTH??!?!

ETA OK, read the first paragraph. These women are dumb. Desperate. and...yea...dumb! Who would agree to that? You want me to bear your children, be the breadwinner and still to the dishes, laundry, cook and nurse your sorry behind when you got the flu...? but I get that on layaway cuz I gotta buy my own damn ring? No thanks

 

[Sosa]

Good for them...couldn't be me.

 

[wigsnatcha3000]

There's no such thing as a one size fit all relationship plan. It works for them and that's great.

 

[barbiesocialite]

I wonder if Nene Leakes paid for her own ring? I'm not sure Gregg can afford a 15-carat diamond.

 

[missjones]

If you can't afford to get me a ring with your own funds, I don't want your broke...self



Vain moment

 

[Jasmataz]

I'll take a "cheap" ring that he can afford before I pay for my own engagement ring.

 

[FemmeFatale]

If you can't afford to get me a ring with your own funds, I don't want your broke arse.

Vain moment

You're not ready to marry me or anyone if you're looking to the woman to foot the bill for the engagement ring.

Dudes looking for "help" aka a come up. Smh.

 

[Honey Bee]

 

[LiftedUp]

But given that an increasing number of American women are the primary breadwinners in their families, helping foot the bill for a fancy rock seems only fair.

This oh so "fair" world that we live in

 

[1QTPie]

That's nice for them. It wouldn't work for me, I'd rather not have a ring if that's the case. My SO is broke (most days,) but he still bought the ring. All in all though, it's not about the ring. Their focus is misplaced.

 

[faithVA]

If I buy the ring, it is just a ring. It is not an engagement ring.

 

[barbiesocialite]

That's nice for them. It wouldn't work for me, I'd rather not have a ring if that's the case. My SO is broke (most days,) but he still bought the ring. All in all though, it's not about the ring. Their focus is misplaced.

This. rings can be upgraded at a later date. It's the principle. A man showing his investment in a wife and the future marriage.

 

[FemmeFatale]

That's nice for them. It wouldn't work for me, I'd rather not have a ring if that's the case. My SO is broke (most days,) but he still bought the ring. All in all though, it's not about the ring. Their focus is misplaced.

I think it's very telling. These men have no pride and will stick their hand out for anything these days. Ninjas on the comeup is what I call them.

I need a man that would lie, steal and kill for me and his kids, not ask me for handouts.

 

[FemmeFatale]

I'd take a ring with my birthstone over doing that. And lord knows I hate the amethyst, lol.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

Someone told me they think their sister did. With her history she probably did. No thanks

 

[Kindheart]

I Don't think so ..nope nope nope

 

[biancaelyse]

DH bought me the samll ring when we 1st married. We were young and that was all he could afford.

He gave me the big one years later when we were more established.

 

[vtoodler]

Feminism is a double-edged sword.

In moderation, it's good.
However, too much emasculates/feminizes men--and not in a good way.

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[naturalmanenyc]

I guess it depends on what's important to the woman. If he can't afford the 3 carat diamond then I guess she will chip in or buy it.

Is downgrading not an option? My former colleague (Jewish woman) wanted a 3 carat diamond. Her fiancé could not afford the stone she wanted so he bought a 3 carat stone with visible inclusions. DH noticed in the elevator since she was showing her ring to everyone who came close enough to see it. It's not D, E or F in color and it's has visible inclusions but it's 3 carats.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

Feminism is a double-edged sword.

In moderation, it's good. However, too much feminizes men--and not in a good way.

Well it gets men thinking they don't have to do anything. And its getting worse with each generation.

 

[DrC]

I wonder if Nene Leakes paid for her own ring? I'm not sure Gregg can afford a 15-carat diamond.

I've never watched that show. I thought her husband was a millionaire?

 

[FelaShrine]

I wonder if Nene Leakes paid for her own ring? I'm not sure Gregg can afford a 15-carat diamond.

I think Bravo paid for that

 

[barbiesocialite]

I've never watched that show. I thought her husband was a millionaire?

evidently she has more money bc she's noted she's now the breadwinner and is insisting on a pre-nup.

good for her, i guess. she seems happy.

 

[Ms Red]

No. Just no. I'd take the smaller ring and upgrade later even if I could afford to pay for it. It's the principle.

 

[Ganjababy]

Only a VERY thirsty woman would do that.

 

[MarcustheWu]

You know, when people talk about men contributing financially in relationsips, people like to talk about fair. People do not like to talk about how fair it is for women to work full time and still be the primary people to take care of children, the home etc. A lot of things in life are not fair, esp. for women, and yet when it comes to men contributing financially, everything becomes about fair.