HoneyDew
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That is wild.
I know so many people that love way before they ready to get married.
Good for you to have met so many men like that, though.
Why won't he tell me he loves me?
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That is wild.
I know so many people that love way before they ready to get married.
Good for you to have met so many men like that, though.
Farida
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You said yourself in your OP that you're not sure if you love him.
If both of you don't know how you feel what good will come of him telling you he loves you?
He will tell you when he is ready.
Also, knowing someone for 4 years isn't the same as dating someone. So he can't be expected to fall in love faster because you know each other.
And these weird men telling you they love you, they don't love you. They love the idea of you.
I knew for real my DH loved me when I would break down in tears and be a complete mess and he was there even when he didn't want to be. Other men haven't seen me like that, so for them to tell me they love me, no matter how well they know me, I take with a grain of salt.
Don't push the issue. Let things flow naturally, as time goes by it'll be evident on how he treats you.
If both of you don't know how you feel what good will come of him telling you he loves you?
He will tell you when he is ready.
Also, knowing someone for 4 years isn't the same as dating someone. So he can't be expected to fall in love faster because you know each other.
And these weird men telling you they love you, they don't love you. They love the idea of you.
I knew for real my DH loved me when I would break down in tears and be a complete mess and he was there even when he didn't want to be. Other men haven't seen me like that, so for them to tell me they love me, no matter how well they know me, I take with a grain of salt.
Don't push the issue. Let things flow naturally, as time goes by it'll be evident on how he treats you.
tiara76
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words don't really mean anything, in alot of cases neither do actions...
feelings do...they are impossible to hide for the person feeling them no matter if they try to and impossible to not feel if you are in tune to whoever you are with....you know when somebody loves you or not
a man can tell you all day every day he loves you...spend money on you and do all the right "actions"...and you still don't "feel" it
while another doesn't have to say a word at all, they can even tell you they don't love you.....and you just know they do
pay attention to your feelings, hone your intuition...all intuition is
is tuning into other people and picking up on them and everything is communicated on feelings
in this situation....the only reason I would advise not to say "I love you first"
is only because you probably don't
say what you mean , mean what you say
can't do that if you don't even know how you feel and have to depend on somebody else's "words" to determine if do or don't love them
feelings do...they are impossible to hide for the person feeling them no matter if they try to and impossible to not feel if you are in tune to whoever you are with....you know when somebody loves you or not
a man can tell you all day every day he loves you...spend money on you and do all the right "actions"...and you still don't "feel" it
while another doesn't have to say a word at all, they can even tell you they don't love you.....and you just know they do
pay attention to your feelings, hone your intuition...all intuition is
is tuning into other people and picking up on them and everything is communicated on feelings
in this situation....the only reason I would advise not to say "I love you first"
is only because you probably don't
say what you mean , mean what you say
can't do that if you don't even know how you feel and have to depend on somebody else's "words" to determine if do or don't love them
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Denise11
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That man is NOT going to ask you to marry him, he doesn't even love you. When a man loves a woman, he will say it, and everyone will know it. He's playing with you, and just having a good time.
MissYocairis
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vkb247
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We have been together for 6 months and I am not sure if I am in love.
He is not sure if he loves you either. This is normal. Give your relationship time to grow.
I want to be in love with him but I just don't know and I don't think I will know until he tells me that he loves me.
If he is with you and things are going well then I see that as an indication that he wants to love you too but he probably doesn't know either. Nothing wrong with that. I don't understand why you say that you won't know until he tells you. That statement alone makes me think that you don't love him. JMHO
I have asked him "do you love me?" twice and he has failed to give me an answer. I also asked him, what would you do if i said I loved you? He challenged me by asking what kind of question is that?
Why do you ask him if he loves you? ITA agree with the other ladies who say that it is too soon and you are rushing things. I am also wondering why you are asking someone if they love you when you don't even know if you love them.
His actions would lead me to think that he does love me but then why won't he tell me?! Stop worrying about it. Sounds like you might just worry yourself into ruining a good thing. Sit back and just enjoy the ride.
Ladies, what should I do? Relax.
Should I take a risk and tell him I love him and hope for the best or just continue the agonising wait. No don't tell him something you don't know to be true. Why are you agonising over this? Is this your first relationship? Why are you in a rush?
Knowing him, part of me thinks that he doesn't want to tell me until he's 100% sure
That's a good thing. Would you want him to say it if he was 30% sure? and that he may not even say those words I so long to hear until he proposes. Why do you long to hear it before you know if you even feel the same way :dontknow: We are no where near marriage by the way. This is why you really need to relax
Has anyone else felt that they can't know they are in love until he tells you first? I have never felt that way. Love happens in its own time and you will know when the right time comes.
He is not sure if he loves you either. This is normal. Give your relationship time to grow.
I want to be in love with him but I just don't know and I don't think I will know until he tells me that he loves me.
If he is with you and things are going well then I see that as an indication that he wants to love you too but he probably doesn't know either. Nothing wrong with that. I don't understand why you say that you won't know until he tells you. That statement alone makes me think that you don't love him. JMHO
I have asked him "do you love me?" twice and he has failed to give me an answer. I also asked him, what would you do if i said I loved you? He challenged me by asking what kind of question is that?
Why do you ask him if he loves you? ITA agree with the other ladies who say that it is too soon and you are rushing things. I am also wondering why you are asking someone if they love you when you don't even know if you love them.
His actions would lead me to think that he does love me but then why won't he tell me?! Stop worrying about it. Sounds like you might just worry yourself into ruining a good thing. Sit back and just enjoy the ride.
Ladies, what should I do? Relax.
Should I take a risk and tell him I love him and hope for the best or just continue the agonising wait. No don't tell him something you don't know to be true. Why are you agonising over this? Is this your first relationship? Why are you in a rush?
Knowing him, part of me thinks that he doesn't want to tell me until he's 100% sure
That's a good thing. Would you want him to say it if he was 30% sure? and that he may not even say those words I so long to hear until he proposes. Why do you long to hear it before you know if you even feel the same way :dontknow: We are no where near marriage by the way. This is why you really need to relaxHas anyone else felt that they can't know they are in love until he tells you first? I have never felt that way. Love happens in its own time and you will know when the right time comes.
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Ivy_Butter
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I haven't read all the responses, but it seems to me you are trying to rush love. You said yourself you are not in love with him so it shouldn't be surprising that he isn't in love with you. Relax and let it happen naturally.
Denise11
New Member
It's only been SIX MONTHS!erplexed AND, she's been pressing him!
Six months for a man is not the same as six months for a woman. He already knows if he does or doesn't. That's why he won't even give her an answer. He could easily say "I don't know"! He's not a baby, he's a man. He can talk.
sky_blu
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IMO, you should never have to ask anyone if they love you or not. They will say it at their own time if they love you. You also shouldn't say "I Love You" with expectations of hearing it back. 6 months isn't a long time to be dating but there isn't a set time period for you to fall in love.
ccd
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Well, you've only been together for 6 months so I wouldn't stress it.
I wouldn't say I love you first, wait a little longer and see...
If you feel in your gut that he's not into you like that, it's better to move on.
Good luck!
OHhhh Man!!! OT......your girl's hair is SickSickSick!!! Love it...ok sorry OP
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