I feel there would be less single women around if pride did not get in their way. You see someone you like go for it! Don't listen to others telling you will look like a fool.
-Well, if that were true, then a LOT of women in the 1950's would have been single, because most women back then did NOT pursue/chase men at all.
In fact, doing simple things like "TEXTING" a guy (if there were such a thing) or coming up to him first would have seemed scandalous and risquee for a woman to do that back then .
I've been in situations I wanted to make my feelings known to a guy and due to friends advice I don't cause I think it will make me look desperate, next thing you know that guy gets snatched up!
-Trust me, a guy can't get "snatched up" if he doesn't want to.
If he's getting "snatched up", it could be because the guy (unbeknownst to you) already had somewhat of an interest in the woman to begin with.
I don't think feeling desperate is a bad thing
-Well....feeling desperate
IS a bad thing imo.
Plus, most women advise against pursuing a man simply because IT.DOES.NOT.WORK. period. Plus, how do you know that when you pursue him, that he really likes
YOU? Trust me, I've been in this situation before, and nothing feels worse than unrequited love.
I've approached a guy on the train, called I like out the blue got his number from a friend, considered traveling to a 3rd world country to meet a guy, confessed my feelings to male friends. All those things did not work unfortunately. but I will continue to approach a guy I see and I really want to talk to it does not hurt to try.
It does not matter what it takes I just want to make sure they know I'm interested. After rejection I back off unless I feel there's still hope I'll keep in contact with them. Men are always changing their mind so there's always hope if they are single I think.
TRUST ME...it does
NOT take much for a man to "think" that you're interested. ESPECIALLY if he's already interested in you.
I've known guys who
thought I was interested in them, and I didn't do anything really. I just smiled and was always friendly! Yet, they swore that I must have had an interest in them. Go figure. So trust me, if a man is interested in you...you will NOT have to do much in order to give him the "signal" that you're interested.
So yeah, if he hasn't gotten the "hint" yet, then he's more than likely not that interested.
Most men will go after what they want especially if the woman seems friendly, open and engaging. You don't have to ask for his number, ask him out, or chase him down in order for him to know that you're interested. IF you have to do these things, it's more likely that he's NOT interested.
OP, you should check out this thread I made a while ago discussing a book entitled:
"The Rules". A lot of what's in that book can be viewed as pure "fluff" and should always be taken with a grain of salt, but let me tell you...SOME of what's in that book is actually really true about men.
And if you read the various responses from many women in that thread, you'll see that the majority stated that chasing a man
did NOT work for them.
I'm not saying it doesn't work (because obviously it works for SOME women), but I would err on the side of caution and recognize that chasing usually doesn't work for women.
Am I missing something?
How did Kate chase after Prince William? I didn't know that bit of news!