You bring up a good issue Poohbear, but that's exactly why I haven't ruled out the possibility of relaxing again - even after all of these years without a perm and all of the hard work I put into transitioning.
The other night, I went to an awards show and and after party, so I decided to blow dry and curl my hair for the evening. All I can say is by the time I got home, my hair was wide & HORRIBLE!!!!!!
Matted all in the back from being in that sweaty club I guess (shoulda used my Sedu
). And I knew that the only way that I could get a comb through it was to wet my entire head, which I was going to do anyway since I had to wash it. But that's the thing...I cannot get a comb through my head unless it's wet and full of conditioner, or unless it's been flat ironed or pressed. This is sometimes a problem because I HAVE TO wash my hair in sections and sometimes, even parting my hair to simply get those sections is a work out all by itself. And sometimes, I just don't feel like wetting my whole head just to get it to look orderly.
erplexed But I have to because if I wait too long to wet/wash/detangle my hair, I start shedding and losing hair by the handfulls...
In southern Cali, I do not have to worry about the weather, so its easy for me to wash and twist up my hair in the morning and step outside with a head full of wet hair. But if this was November in New York - I don't think so! Factor in the cold weather on top of the humidity and with a Natural head as long, thick and dense as mine, I'm either doing one of 2 destructive things. That's either using too much heat to combat humidity & fit my big head & hair under a hat, or I'm just plain old sick all the time for having wet hair in 18 degree weather. That's how I envision it anyway.
When I was relaxed, I had healthy hair. I began transitioning when I moved to Cali and started getting my roots pressed between touch ups. Wound up going all the way with NO regrets. I felt completely liberated becoming a natural because I didn't remember what my natural hair state was like, and I was in love
. But that's just me and I'm entitled to change how I feel about it. So I can't knock the relaxed heads one bit, or even challenge them for that matter. I've been on both sides of the fence and know first hand that there are pros and cons to both styles.