So I'm trying to take LHCF's advice and date multiple men at once. (So far, I'm just at two men. Lol.) Anyway, here's my story about a guy I've been talking to for about 5 months.
So yea, we've been talking for 5 months long distance. We met last summer and went on a few dates. Before I left for the summer, he made it clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship nor was he ready for a LONG distance relationship. I was like ... okay ... then don't call me after I leave. I don't need anymore male friends; I'm looking for something serious. I was very serious when I said don't call. Why'd this fool call me later that day?
Anyway, as the months progressed, he would call about 2-3x a week saying that he "wants to get to know me" and that "he likes me" and that "he plans to visit me". Then he mails me a $30 gift for Christmas and again talks of seeing me again. That was the last time I heard from him.
Fastforward to yesterday, a month of not hearing from him, I call him. He sounds excited, happy, and surprised. I ask why he hasn't called; he says he's been really busy. I ask why he hasn't visited; he says he's been really busy. I cut to the point and ask him if he's dating anyone; he says he recently met someone: BINGO! Anyway, I chew him out for not having enough respect for me to tell me he's moved on; he says he hasn't moved on and that he still likes me. I chew him out about the gift and the so-called plans to visit; no cursing, but I was upset. Anyway, he eventually says "hey, let's talk about this later in the week." I say "no". Then he hangs up on me. I call back telling him how rude it was to hang up on me; he again says let's talk about this later; I say no. He says "I love you but I don't feel like talking about this now." He hangs up on me.
After that, I immediately blocked his number on my phone and deleted him from facebook. I emailed him a respectful message stating that he should've respected me enough to tell me he had no intention of visiting me and to tell me he is dating someone else. There was no point in sending me a gift. (He said on the phone that he sent it because I'm a special friend.) There was no point in saying he wanted to get to know me.
Now I'm feeling bad and I don't know why. What just happened?
So yea, we've been talking for 5 months long distance. We met last summer and went on a few dates. Before I left for the summer, he made it clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship nor was he ready for a LONG distance relationship. I was like ... okay ... then don't call me after I leave. I don't need anymore male friends; I'm looking for something serious. I was very serious when I said don't call. Why'd this fool call me later that day?
Anyway, as the months progressed, he would call about 2-3x a week saying that he "wants to get to know me" and that "he likes me" and that "he plans to visit me". Then he mails me a $30 gift for Christmas and again talks of seeing me again. That was the last time I heard from him.
Fastforward to yesterday, a month of not hearing from him, I call him. He sounds excited, happy, and surprised. I ask why he hasn't called; he says he's been really busy. I ask why he hasn't visited; he says he's been really busy. I cut to the point and ask him if he's dating anyone; he says he recently met someone: BINGO! Anyway, I chew him out for not having enough respect for me to tell me he's moved on; he says he hasn't moved on and that he still likes me. I chew him out about the gift and the so-called plans to visit; no cursing, but I was upset. Anyway, he eventually says "hey, let's talk about this later in the week." I say "no". Then he hangs up on me. I call back telling him how rude it was to hang up on me; he again says let's talk about this later; I say no. He says "I love you but I don't feel like talking about this now." He hangs up on me.
After that, I immediately blocked his number on my phone and deleted him from facebook. I emailed him a respectful message stating that he should've respected me enough to tell me he had no intention of visiting me and to tell me he is dating someone else. There was no point in sending me a gift. (He said on the phone that he sent it because I'm a special friend.) There was no point in saying he wanted to get to know me.
Now I'm feeling bad and I don't know why. What just happened?