Why are Cancer Men so emotionally unstable?

twistyone said:
OMG, THIS is my Cancer man!!!! I was wondering if he was abused as a child or something cuz it just makes no sense for someone to NEVER open up completely! Lie,shut down, and be selfish in the giving of himself. He'd go broke giving his last, but ask him to express his feelings and he'll come up missing-and DON'T hurt him little feelin's(big baby).
When I met him my horoscope said Aquarian women & Cancer men should NEVER hook up & boy was that the truth. He's a good friend when he's in the mood & the lover I've loved most and we have been JUST friends for several years now and he hasn't changed-treats me the same, but at least my heart doesn't take a beating-I too have learned ignore him.
OP, thanks for this thread to remind me that it wasn't me-I don't have it in me to coddle a grown man.
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EXACT SAME EXPERIENCE. Mine's is July 8th.

Also, I'm scorpio. The dynamic is that he feels "safe" with me unless i'm stinging...I feel safe with him unless he's pinching. We're both secretive and hate secrets being kept from us. We both have pisces that are very close to us...too much damn water...too much emotion...
 
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LOL my closest male friend is a cancer and he got the withdrawal thing down to a T and the not teling the truth by omission wantig to protect me lol....the thing is I'm a cancer too but I'm the opposite I don't withdraw....I think lol...but the funny thing is our chinese zodiacs match together he's monkey I'm rat and we do mesh really well together but it has been a learning experience....I have to learn to be more patient cuz I like to push and 'air out the laundry' right then and there....which isn't always good cuz I have a bit of a temper but I'm learning and hopefully things will....get steamy-er in a while :sekret:
 
ebonybelle said:
it sucks because i have a SHARP tongue and a temper when i dont get my way...and you know they dont budge so :wallbash::wallbash::wallbash:....lawd hammercy :look:
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This is me too but my cancer has super powers that make me uncapable of serving him him a good dose of telling him hes nothing but worthless space and that he should just do me a favor and go jump off a big buliding:grin:

I think that pisses me off the most I have no problem telling people that their existence is soooo not needed to me or anyone else

the worst part is he knows it so he happily does his crab dance around me
 
this one puts up a fight.....has ME looking blasted crazy.



BKVincy said:
This is me too but my cancer has super powers that make me uncapable of serving him him a good dose of telling him hes nothing but worthless space and that he should just do me a favor and go jump off a big buliding:grin:

I think that pisses me off the most I have no problem telling people that their existence is soooo not needed to me or anyone else

the worst part is he knows it so he happily does his crab dance around me
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ebonybelle said:
this one puts up a fight.....has ME looking blasted crazy.
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Yeah i think thats a typical man thing though
Men in general know how to switch things up and make you look like an absolute nut case
Im still trying to figure out how they do that one
I had an ex that would have me so confused i would barely remember my name when he was done
 
MissNorway said:
I wouldn't call it drama per se.
My SO is a Cancer, he is not very emotional, but he will shut the world out when something is heavy on his mind. We are in a LDR so I just give him space and wait till he comes around. It does not bother me.
He has so many great qualities that I have never experienced in another man, so i have no problem with him being aloof.
Cancers are very family oriented, caring, great lovers. I have never experienced them being selfish or liars, but I suppose i varies from person to person.
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I am going to have to back up MissNorway and say my husband is a Cancer and he is fantastic. None of this stuff. I am a Cappy, so I am the moody one in the relationship.

To be fair I have 3 male cancers in my life: my hubby, a good friend of mine and my boss. My boss is not overly emotional but since its work . .. who knows.
The friend falls into the category you are all talking about and it can get annoying but he is loyal and would give you the shirt off his back.

My husband is just the sweetest nicest guy I know. Not at all selfish, never whiny, and just a happy gregarious person . . . very uncancer like. He is also sensitive but it tends to be more along the lines of being tuned into my moods and that kind of sensitivity I will take.

So all you ladies who are going to put off going out with a guy because he is a Cancer. Get to know him first... signs are one thing but there are lots of other things that shapes a man's personality.
 
I agree. My SO is the sweetest guy.....caring, in tune with my feelings...but he is sensitive....and now that i know he is...i will take better precaution not to say things that might offend him..because he doesnt ever try to offend me.

A lesson learned.

madamdot said:
So all you ladies who are going to put off going out with a guy because he is a Cancer. Get to know him first... signs are one thing but there are lots of other things that shapes a man's personality.
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I have 3 Cancer's in my life: my older brother, his wife and this guy who I am kind of dating/ kind of just friends with... :look:

So I know all about the moodiness, the walking on eggshells and the distance b/c (being a Taurus) growing up with an older Cancer brother, I was actually the bully! :lachen: B/c appearantly as a Taurus we have a way of being very literal and frank and to-the-point in a way that hits Cancers at the heart. Which is what I'm really learning with the guy I'm dating. I think my brother is a little tougher b/c my mom is a Taurus too (so he got it from both sides! :grin:) and....my dad is a Leo so he grew up in a very "no-nonsense" kind of house but this guy I'm seeing....:lachen:

He's a sweet-heart and tries to pretend to be a bad-a#% but since I've got a life-time of experience with Cancer behavior, I know the deal and I think that freaks him out sometimes. (Maybe takes away from his mysterious nature?) Either way, they can be on their own little planets at times, but they are the best to have around when you need someone to support you.
 
that is just how they are, and some of them can be dangerous too. I had one cancer bf in h.s. and he was such an annoyance that i had to attack him to keep him away from me, but still i came outside of school one day and he was across the street lol!!! (creepy) he denied it but i know it was him. even up until now he still asks people about me psycho.
 
dkbeauti said:
Ahhhhhh, Virgo women unite!:grin::grin::grin:

Anyway, when dealing with the Cancer man
......keep in mind he is a "crab", and a crab will move about, side to side, back and forth, however he wants, whenever he wants; it's hard to predict his movements(he loves me, he loves me not).

......but the main thing to remember is that a crab is "hard" on the outside....that's his shell, his protection..... but "soft" on the inside, which is why he's so emotional.....

And if he goes into his shell, you can't coax him out, not matter what...so there's no use trying.....that's where he will hole up and hide until he feels safe enough to come out......

And in terms of trying to "get away" from them, remember, crabs have claws!
And once they have you in their grip, it's almost impossible to shake yourself loose...... but by the same token, they can open up those claws and "drop you" whenever they get ready....and grip you right back up in a snap!

........unless you stay out of their reach.......



dk
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imma Virgo and this entire post had my cracking up... using the crab characteristics :lachen::lachen:!

but i'll be damned if its not the truth... :ohwell: and i usually dont "fall" for this astrological stuff

my SO now is a cancer and its so weird because hes like your typical "tough" guy but say the wrong thing or let something happen, his emotional side comes out and i never know how to react. im not really the type to baby anyone so i think that is where we clash.

and then this keeping the distance thing! OMG it drives me up the damn wall :wallbash::wallbash::wallbash::wallbash:!!! UGH! but then when he comes back after taking his 2 day break or whatever, its like 'Oh baby, I love you... you're so good to me... blah blah blah'.... man, that just irks my g**damn nerves.


my sister was dating a cancer also and he drove her crazy as well with his emotions. they were both cancers so i can only imagine... :nono:
 
LMAO. This post is sooo funny. I am a Cancer and a lot of this applies to me. I think Cancers are the best to have a friends (not just because I'm one). I have plenty of male friends that are Cancers and they are so comfortable to be around, giving, funny, and sweet people. The withdrawal thing is a coping mechanism and serves as protection. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes it takes A LOT of patience to deal with a Cancer, but I think with the type of people they are for the most part, it's worth it. I've noticed that people just seem to be drawn to Cancers and can't shake them no matter how hard they try.
 
wow..there was this cancer guy that I was interested in but I couldn't figure out if he was...well you know...HOW U DOIN'...he has so many female traits..more so his moods..not talk, walk or anything along those lines. I use to think..this Kneegro must be on his monthly...it was too much...I kept it moving!!!
 
sylver2 said:
i couldn't understand him. He would shut himself off from people including me for days, weeks at a time ..no word no nothing.
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Describes my Exes to a "T"...they are moody as hell! :wallbash:

ebonybelle said:
and they kinda sneaky.....
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Yes! They are soooooo secretive! Trying to get them to open up, is like hitting a nail with a brick wall :wallbash:

ebonybelle said:
mines doesnt drank like that.....i just want to cuss his arse outta and call him a cry baby biish...but i know he would hibernate for a year if i did that
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:lachen:

dkbeauti said:
Cause they will distance themselves from you for no justifiable reason and like you said, it's just out of the blue!

Did you find it hard to get him out of your system?
I'm going through that now, trying to get him out my system
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Yes! It's been 4yrs and I still have feelings for him :sekret:

sylver2 said:
Yes i m still fighting trying to get him out of my system. everything u said is so true. Draining!!!!! but lawd he was fine!!!
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ditto

sky_blu said:
Hey I love Aries men. They can be sensitive but every sign is sensitive to me Im a Sag :look: That might be the only sign I can get along with.
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Aries men are hard on the outside, but soft on the inside too. I've dated 2 of them for 2yrs+

Princess Tam Tam said:
It just annoys me that he doesn't give me attention like other guys. One minute he's all over me like butter on toast next minute he ignores me for days. I hate that. :sad:
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Yep! :yep::yep:
 
I feel bad now, I'm a cancer female and have a way of not contacting people for weeks, or months. I haven't contacted people from a hometown in a year.:ohwell:
I'm literally hiding my shell.Amazing!
 
What about the EXs? Why can they never let go of their EXs? What's the deal with that? It's so frustrating.
 
ebonybelle said:
thats all :ohwell:

any stories?

I mean when they get mad they just shut down...
if you "hurt" them they just shut down.....for days...

i dunno if i can deal with all these girlie traits :lachen:
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Oh lawd. My son is a cancer. And, he does these things. I dunno why they do it. He's only 14.
 
Brees_hair said:
wow..there was this cancer guy that I was interested in but I couldn't figure out if he was...well you know...HOW U DOIN'...he has so many female traits..more so his moods..not talk, walk or anything along those lines. I use to think..this Kneegro must be on his monthly...it was too much...I kept it moving!!!
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Well, as the mother of one, I can say they are truely SENSITIVE. I mean...my son was always sensitive. The thing that makes him most uncomfortable? Saying "goodbye" to those he loves. From the time he was a baby, he couldn't handle saying goodbye to my mother when she'd come for a visit. They get sad when it's time to go. And, they sulk a bit. You have to bring them out of it.
 
Smuckie_Slick said:
Oh lawd. My son is a cancer. And, he does these things. I dunno why they do it. He's only 14.
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Why put myself in a situation to get hurt again, in fact why do I even want to bother with the person that just hurt me. I need time to assess the situation, make sense of it, and come out when it's safe.
Plus I don't want to have to hurt them either.
There are many other reasons but no way for me to put it in words.
 
Paradox said:
Why put myself in a situation to get hurt again, in fact why do I even want to bother with the person that just hurt me. I need time to assess the situation, make sense of it, and come out when it's safe.
Plus I don't want to have to hurt them either.
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It sounds logical. And, it is. I am glad for this thread. It gives me insight. Wow.
 
tatambabyy said:
i thought i was the only on having problems with cancers. they are soo damn moody and when they dont get their way...forget about it! the world will end. and im a sag. so my bluntness is hard for him to handle. not to mention that i like to do me, no holding me down!
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Don't blame it on the mama! :lachen: But seriously, now that you mentioned it, my son (a Cancer) gets offended sometimes by his grandfather (my father) who is a Sag.

These signs are crazy.

I'd just say that they are born that way. My son will give you the shirt off of his back. He frequently wants to give to me, to sacrifice for me....BUT, he does have a selfish side and it's just natural to some degree. And, I'm abrasive...I'm a Taurus...I am a control freak and it's stressful for the Cancer man at times because they are ultra-sensitive to how their loved ones perceive them.
 
blaqbarb said:
LMAO. This post is sooo funny. I am a Cancer and a lot of this applies to me. I think Cancers are the best to have a friends (not just because I'm one). I have plenty of male friends that are Cancers and they are so comfortable to be around, giving, funny, and sweet people. The withdrawal thing is a coping mechanism and serves as protection. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes it takes A LOT of patience to deal with a Cancer, but I think with the type of people they are for the most part, it's worth it. I've noticed that people just seem to be drawn to Cancers and can't shake them no matter how hard they try.
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I am cancer too..this is true.
 
mzlatisha said:
I'm CUTE!! shoot i am hard catch...He liked me first. ;)
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Tee hee!
I guess that explains my situation, I'm not cute at all!
For Virgos, I think that is definitely true, I don't think there is nothing you can do except be you, it is best if they like you first.
 
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