Why are Cancer Men so emotionally unstable?

[sylver2]

GOSH, this is sooooooo my Ex (Cancer man, of course!)

They leave you standing there scratching your head like, "Okay,what just happened?"
Cause they will distance themselves from you for no justifiable reason and like you said, it's just out of the blue!

Did you find it hard to get him out of your system?
I'm going through that now, trying to get him out my system; I actually feel sorry for him.
Of course I won't let him know that, because that's exactly what he wants! It's always "Woe is me"......

It's nerve wracking....they will drain your energy.

But, damn, they make the best lovers!

dk

Yes i m still fighting trying to get him out of my system. everything u said is so true. Draining!!!!! but lawd he was fine!!!Look just like Bryce Wilson and sizzled in the bedroom..damn!

 

[sylver2]

DING! DING! DING!

Just saw this...I'm a Virgo, too!

Makes it hard to just leave them alone, cause all we wanna do is love, nuture, and support......we are the "earth/mothers" that's our sign;
and of course we gotta analyze these moody men and try to make sense out of what they go through, cause to us, they're just not being logical most of the time.......and this particular Virgo trait only serves to drives us when dealing with these types of men!


dk

sigh..stop speaking the truth

 

[DayStar]

you gotta have patience...as a Taurus we are suppose to be able to deal with their moods...and for the most part i can but sometimes im like

Me too...I am a Cancer and I am sensitive and moody so if I run into a Cancer man Ima

 

[sylver2]

I wouldn't call it drama per se.
My SO is a Cancer, he is not very emotional, but he will shut the world out when something is heavy on his mind. We are in a LDR so I just give him space and wait till he comes around. It does not bother me.
He has so many great qualities that I have never experienced in another man, so i have no problem with him being aloof.
Cancers are very family oriented, caring, great lovers. I have never experienced them being selfish or liars, but I suppose i varies from person to person.

mine wasn't a liar. he seemed selfish somtimes. I just can't keep puttin up with tht. it gets tired after awhile.. waiting until he comes around, shuting me and the world out. i can't deal with it. i guess it wouldnt have been to bad if it was an LDR like yours.

 

[Theo]

OMG!! i jus got out of a relationship with a cancer man. i couldn't understand him. He would shut himself off from people including me for days, weeks at a time ..no word no nothing. He was soo self centered to. Always about him him him.
He was the greatest lover though. one week he would be soo loving, so emotioinal, talking about us,having kids and the future. nex week he would turn his phone off..wth! i let him him get away with a lot because he lost his parents..but evrything done was because he lost his parents..he used that every chance he got and loved to use the 'u don't understand'. i swear i think he was mad because he got with me and found out i could relate to parent loss. he was very to me
but lawwwd he was fine!!

Don't know how I missed this post. This is soooo true. In fact, I haven't heard from the ex that I referenced in the last post for like a few months now. He stayed disappearing. I just stopped caring after awhile. He lost his father at a young age and "we" decided that's why he was emotionally unavailable early on in the relationship. Huge mistake cuz I think thats how he manipulated me. But I could only take so much. I broke up with him several times, each time I tried, all these emotions would just come out. I'm like...where was all this emotion last week??? All of a sudden he loves me, and needs me in his life. I'd get happy because I'd think we were getting somewhere, next thing I know, he had folded himself up into his moody little ball again... MIA.... couldn't have gotten in contact with him even if I were dying of a heart attack and he was my only ride to the hospital. Annoying!

 

[sylver2]

Don't know how I missed this post. This is soooo true. In fact, I haven't heard from the ex that I referenced in the last post for like a few months now. He stayed disappearing. I just stopped caring after awhile. He lost his father at a young age and "we" decided that's why he was emotionally unavailable early on in the relationship. Huge mistake cuz I think thats how he manipulated me. But I could only take so much. I broke up with him several times, each time I tried, all these emotions would just come out. I'm like...where was all this emotion last week??? All of a sudden he loves me, and needs me in his life. I'd get happy because I'd think we were getting somewhere, next thing I know, he had folded himself up into his moody little ball again... MIA.... couldn't have gotten in contact with him even if I were dying of a heart attack and he was my only ride to the hospital. Annoying!

same exact thing

 

[Theo]

GOSH, this is sooooooo my Ex (Cancer man, of course!)

They leave you standing there scratching your head like, "Okay,what just happened?"
Cause they will distance themselves from you for no justifiable reason and like you said, it's just out of the blue!

Did you find it hard to get him out of your system?
I'm going through that now, trying to get him out my system; I actually feel sorry for him.
Of course I won't let him know that, because that's exactly what he wants! It's always "Woe is me"......

It's nerve wracking....they will drain your energy.

But, damn, they make the best lovers!

dk

YES. They are DRAINING. After awhile I was just tired. It did take me awhile to get him out of my system because I cared about him a lot. He could be such a sweetheart sometimes, so generous, very humble, fun to be around. We would just sit and be homebodies together. But let me say or do the wrong thing... *flip*... goes over to the other side of the bed. Won't look at me, won't face me, won't talk to me... but "nothing's the matter."

After awhile I would be like, just go home. Don't sit in my space and give ME the moody treatment.

 

[BKVincy]

or how about when they cut you off and then slowly creep back in on some" can you please find some time for me from your busy schedule"
im like dude wasnt you the one that gave me my kicking rocks

 

[*ElleB]

OMG!! i jus got out of a relationship with a cancer man. i couldn't understand him. He would shut himself off from people including me for days, weeks at a time ..no word no nothing. He was soo self centered to. Always about him him him.
He was the greatest lover though. one week he would be soo loving, so emotioinal, talking about us,having kids and the future. nex week he would turn his phone off..wth! i let him him get away with a lot because he lost his parents..but evrything done was because he lost his parents..he used that every chance he got and loved to use the 'u don't understand'. i swear i think he was mad because he got with me and found out i could relate to parent loss. he was very to me
but lawwwd he was fine!!

This is my guy almost to a "T"....

 

[*ElleB]

Don't know how I missed this post. This is soooo true. In fact, I haven't heard from the ex that I referenced in the last post for like a few months now. He stayed disappearing. I just stopped caring after awhile. He lost his father at a young age and "we" decided that's why he was emotionally unavailable early on in the relationship. Huge mistake cuz I think thats how he manipulated me. But I could only take so much. I broke up with him several times, each time I tried, all these emotions would just come out. I'm like...where was all this emotion last week??? All of a sudden he loves me, and needs me in his life. I'd get happy because I'd think we were getting somewhere, next thing I know, he had folded himself up into his moody little ball again... MIA.... couldn't have gotten in contact with him even if I were dying of a heart attack and he was my only ride to the hospital. Annoying!

OMG!! Get outta my head!!
We click so well (yes, I'm a VIRGO) but that moody ish gets hard to take!!!

 

[JessCNU]

I'ma Cancer and I do NOT mix well with Cancer men....they are wayyyy too soft for me. we can't both be crying and mess! Give me a Scorpio or a Leo ANYDAY!! Geminis are my kryptonite

 

[ThickHair]

Yes they are, exhusband July 18th. He shut down frequently and that was ultimately what ended our marriage. The wounds have faded and we are friends but anything that involves any emotion he can not deal with it. So I show him no emotion and we get along just fine.

Plus he lied frequently and in his words, because he didn't want to hurt me. He lied by omission, instead of telling tails. A lie is a lie is a lie, no matter the reason.

 

[bbdgirl]

OMG!!! I really laughed at loud off of this thread! I.
And I heard that plenty of times. "What about my feelings" What about them bro???
They are giving people, but their emotions are a mess. They withdraw like crazy and have no problem locking up in a room. And then want to you come to the room and hug them and coddle them.
They also hate to be wrong.

You are so on point with this post. I thought it was me, but I also knew that his shutting down for weeks at a time, I mean no communication, none, was no good. To me that was just BS. I am a Leo and coddling people is just not my thing
What he didn't know that as a Leo I want to be the star of the show, honestly that was one of the LEAST satisfying relationships.

He was a hard worker and all that, but very self centered. He thinks it's the women that he picks that are crazy, but I know that it's just him.

I could never really put my finger on why we broke up, but thanks to you ladies...I think I am narrowing down the reasons!!!

 

[Minx]

Ahhhhhh, Virgo women unite!

Anyway, when dealing with the Cancer man
......keep in mind he is a "crab", and a crab will move about, side to side, back and forth, however he wants, whenever he wants; it's hard to predict his movements(he loves me, he loves me not).

......but the main thing to remember is that a crab is "hard" on the outside....that's his shell, his protection..... but "soft" on the inside, which is why he's so emotional.....

And if he goes into his shell, you can't coax him out, not matter what...so there's no use trying.....that's where he will hole up and hide until he feels safe enough to come out......

And in terms of trying to "get away" from them, remember, crabs have claws!
And once they have you in their grip, it's almost impossible to shake yourself loose...... but by the same token, they can open up those claws and "drop you" whenever they get ready....and grip you right back up in a snap!

........unless you stay out of their reach.......



dk

 

[sky_blu]

Uh, I think that's just all men.

My ex was like that and he's an Aries, so I don't think signs have a thing to do with it!

Hey I love Aries men. They can be sensitive but every sign is sensitive to me Im a Sag That might be the only sign I can get along with.

 

[sunshinebeautiful]

This thread is cracking me up.... I know to stay far away from Cancer men. We ain't compatible no way; I'm a Libra.

 

[Country gal]

My cancer was a pain in the ***. Very controlling and the relationship was always tense.

 

[Princess Tam Tam]

Wow...Thanx to all the ladies for the great info!

Now, I'm kinda scared. I been eyeing this Cancer guy for a good minute. I don't really want him. It just annoys me that he doesn't give me attention like other guys. One minute he's all over me like butter on toast next minute he ignores me for days. I hate that.

I'm a taurus btw.....
:creatures

 

[natstar]

OMG all of this sounds like my Ex-I eventually just blocked him out of everything. I can't handle all that-and he had the nerve to call me needy when he contacts me after 6 mnths. I remember he would be cool on the phone one minute then if I would say anything remotely bothersome to him he will get moody or pissed off then shut off saying "I gotta go-I holla" never saying anything-whatever-I'm a Leo....no need (then I blocked all contact w/him)

 

[Divine Inspiration]

@ this thread. Woooo, y'all are some comediennes! I'm not generally into the whole astrological sign thing, but this is funny.

I don't have any personal Cancer experiences to share.

 

[NaturallyGraceful]

Yes they are, exhusband July 18th. He shut down frequently and that was ultimately what ended our marriage. The wounds have faded and we are friends but anything that involves any emotion he can not deal with it. So I show him no emotion and we get along just fine.

Plus he lied frequently and in his words, because he didn't want to hurt me. He lied by omission, instead of telling tails. A lie is a lie is a lie, no matter the reason.

OMG, THIS is my Cancer man!!!! I was wondering if he was abused as a child or something cuz it just makes no sense for someone to NEVER open up completely! Lie,shut down, and be selfish in the giving of himself. He'd go broke giving his last, but ask him to express his feelings and he'll come up missing-and DON'T hurt him little feelin's(big baby).
When I met him my horoscope said Aquarian women & Cancer men should NEVER hook up & boy was that the truth. He's a good friend when he's in the mood & the lover I've loved most and we have been JUST friends for several years now and he hasn't changed-treats me the same, but at least my heart doesn't take a beating-I too have learned ignore him.
OP, thanks for this thread to remind me that it wasn't me-I don't have it in me to coddle a grown man.

 

[mnemosyne]

You all have me cracking UP.... my baby is a Cancer and he's sensitive, but not overly so. He's self centered sometimes, but very giving and bkvincy was spot on about the liking being told what to do in bed thing.

I'm a Gemini so anything goes.

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

mine wasn't a liar. he seemed selfish somtimes. I just can't keep puttin up with tht. it gets tired after awhile.. waiting until he comes around, shuting me and the world out. i can't deal with it. i guess it wouldnt have been to bad if it was an LDR like yours.

The LDR is just temporary and I can't wait to spend more time with him . I have to add that I'm a Pisces so a Cancer is the most compatible for me. I am very patient, and like I said, all the great qualities he posses overshadows his Cancer tendencies.
I do totally understand how some women can't deal with a Cancer...I guess it boils down to what one is willing to deal with.

 

[Paradox]

I'm a cancer, I won't mind dating a Cancer man.
I think all men are crazy.

 

[locabouthair]

Yep thats my male best friend. I have never met a man so emotional in my life.
I dont think I could date him. He used to be so moody and whiney at times I couldnt take it.

I've never dated a Cancer but Leo's that's a sign I'm running from...

 

[sky_blu]

I'ma Cancer and I do NOT mix well with Cancer men....they are wayyyy too soft for me. we can't both be crying and mess! Give me a Scorpio or a Leo ANYDAY!! Geminis are my kryptonite

Oooh yeah. Its only one place I mix well with a Gemini other than that I can't do that EVER.

 

[tatambabyy]

i thought i was the only on having problems with cancers. they are soo damn moody and when they dont get their way...forget about it! the world will end. and im a sag. so my bluntness is hard for him to handle. not to mention that i like to do me, no holding me down!

 

[Ms Red]

I am a Pisces and just met a Cancer guy. All I know is he said he loves 'When Harry Met Sally' and other romantic comedies like me.

Hmmmmm

The LDR is just temporary and I can't wait to spend more time with him . I have to add that I'm a Pisces so a Cancer is the most compatible for me. I am very patient, and like I said, all the great qualities he posses overshadows his Cancer tendencies.
I do totally understand how some women can't deal with a Cancer...I guess it boils down to what one is willing to deal with.

 

[daoriginaldiva]

This thread has me dying!

I'm a Capricorn and my SO is a Cancer so I can relate to a lot of what is being said here.

We have been together for 4.5 years now and whew boy!, it has been a satisfying but not without complications relationship I ever had!
I love my man a lot but I swear the one thing that drives me up the wall and beyond is when the world is on his back and shoulders......man..it's like he don't know me no more!
Wait..let me re-phrase that, he don't know anyone is existing!
He will just drop off the face of the earth and phone calls would cease!
I wouldn't see him for a few days( one time he went 2 weeks..I really gave him the business over that one and was ready to walk!) and be ready to call the police to file a missing person's report!

I would tell him over and over again, just pick up your phone and just say that you are going through some things right now and need time to think but it seems maybe this is in their defense mechanism because it goes through one ear and out the other. Shoot, I am very understanding to a fault and I would leave you about your business until you are ready to join the world again.

Now I have learned to adjust to his moods and sometimes, I would leave him to his own devices or there are times I just peak in the room and just quietly rub his back until he is ready to let loose whatever is on his mind.
It's a little tricky sometimes because if you want to offer them comfort, they may not want it and snap at you to the point you feel like telling them to go "F" themselves and then when you do leave them alone, they want you to come sit and talk to them and your thinking, "Shoud I....Shouldn't I?".

He have many generous qualities, is very nuturing, pretty unselfish for the most part and will give you the clothes off his back to help you.
He really knows how to thrown it down in the bedroom, too!
It's just those mood swings are no joke and sometimes it almost overides every good redeeming quality the person has!

But I have become patient and accustomed to it but that came with time and much, much, much patience!

 

[lux10023]

my bff- is a cancer and the emotional distance when ish hits the fan makes sense--ive known this man for damn nears 10+ yrs and thanks to lhcf i wont get hella upset with him anymore--and i will learn to keep my disctance and be supportive until he is ready to open up...

learn something new on this site errrr'day