Hmm, would like to show support here, but I'd have to say I would be pissed if I found out that I was being dumped so soon after a trip for something that could have been addressed, like behavior with service industry workers. During the trip I would have stepped in to smooth any harshness in his voice and I would have talked to him privately abt it and at least given the man the chance to do otherwise (if it is a cultural/family thing).
On the other hand, if I found out that my IR partner was dumping me bc he thinks he'd rather be with someone of his own race, then we were both done a favor.
BTW, as a South African I wonder if your concern is so much the race of your children as it is the national/cultural affiliations they will have: South African vs. Spanish. It's not like in America, where many white and black Americans can at least identify with the same country and understand or have been exposed to a lot of the same customs.
Are you saying you wouldn't even consider a potential cultural clash with, say, a man from Jamaica... just bc he's phenotypically black like you?
Finally, don't act like yall are so concerned abt how early a man brings up exclusivity
as much as we champion the women on here who boast abt their hubbies locking it down within 2-3 weeks. As much as they're sometimes treated like fascinating/lucky unicorns here
the assumption that a man must be a controlling creep if he actually proposes exclusivity faster than dictate your previous experiences... is kinda laughable to me.
