Blessed626
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So, I have feelings for one of my very close guy friends…we’re basically best friends. He knows this because I told him in Dec. 08 (After developing feelings for him, I waited a few months and then told him because I see no point in living with what ifs). At that time, he basically told me he didn’t feel the same way. Needless to say I was heartbroken, but we both decided that that was no reason to end our friendship.
Over this year, our friendship has grown. At the same time, I have been trying to get over him (which has been somewhat successful., but not as successful as I would like). I don’t think about him nearly as much as I used to, but I won't lie and say that the feelings are gone, cuz they're not.
Over that same time, he has been getting extra comfortable with me [i.e. hanging out for hours, cuddling with each other, and sometimes sleeping with each other (no sex tho, we’re both virgins)]. I know this behavior is not conducive with me getting over him, but it’s always initiated by him and not easy for me to resist.
Lately, his behavior has changed. Whereas before we would spend a couple of hours with each other doing random things like studying or eating together maybe 2-3 times a week, now he shows up at my place everyday! When I have to work at night and I go home, he’s already there when I arrive (he’s also good friends with my roommate). I find nothing wrong with that because we’re friends and I enjoy his company.
What’s interesting to me is that he doesn’t want to cuddle or lay with me anymore. I have no problem with that because I’m trying to get over him and temptation is the last thing I need. However, I’m curious as to why.
For example, last night when we were on the futon together he fell asleep laying on me, and when I woke him up he politely asked me if I could get up so he could lay down. Usually we would just lay together. He ended up laying on the futon, and I in my bed (in another room). And even more interesting, is the fact that when we go out in public he’s less inhibited. For example, last night at a concert he seemed comfortable with putting his arms behind me on the chair despite the fact that he was sitting next to his best guy friend (before he wouldn’t have done that) and in a room full of our college peers.
So, while I have no problems with his behaviors, I wonder what this could suggest. What do you ladies think?
Over this year, our friendship has grown. At the same time, I have been trying to get over him (which has been somewhat successful., but not as successful as I would like). I don’t think about him nearly as much as I used to, but I won't lie and say that the feelings are gone, cuz they're not.
Over that same time, he has been getting extra comfortable with me [i.e. hanging out for hours, cuddling with each other, and sometimes sleeping with each other (no sex tho, we’re both virgins)]. I know this behavior is not conducive with me getting over him, but it’s always initiated by him and not easy for me to resist.
Lately, his behavior has changed. Whereas before we would spend a couple of hours with each other doing random things like studying or eating together maybe 2-3 times a week, now he shows up at my place everyday! When I have to work at night and I go home, he’s already there when I arrive (he’s also good friends with my roommate). I find nothing wrong with that because we’re friends and I enjoy his company.
What’s interesting to me is that he doesn’t want to cuddle or lay with me anymore. I have no problem with that because I’m trying to get over him and temptation is the last thing I need. However, I’m curious as to why.
For example, last night when we were on the futon together he fell asleep laying on me, and when I woke him up he politely asked me if I could get up so he could lay down. Usually we would just lay together. He ended up laying on the futon, and I in my bed (in another room). And even more interesting, is the fact that when we go out in public he’s less inhibited. For example, last night at a concert he seemed comfortable with putting his arms behind me on the chair despite the fact that he was sitting next to his best guy friend (before he wouldn’t have done that) and in a room full of our college peers.
So, while I have no problems with his behaviors, I wonder what this could suggest. What do you ladies think?