Bubblingbrownshuga
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I hear women say, 'he should provide for me and the family' but what do you mean by this, especially in this day and age when women make more than men.
My ex was a great provider, he saw a need for something and made sure it was taking care of: saw red light filter on fridge next time he came over he had the right fillter. To me it means small stuff. He handled business, he learned that from his father who he saw provided anything his mom needed for 44 plus years. We went to a ski weekend and there was some kind of mix up, I didn't have to go abw on them, he went up there and got results. When we would go on family weekend trips he made sure everyone had supplies.
I agree with this. I don't think of a provider as giving me money (especially since I make way more than him). But a provider is someone who I can leave any situation to and it will be handled, sometimes before I even know there is a situation. I can count on him to get stuff done, leaving me worry free and able to sit back and relax.
I hear women say, 'he should provide for me and the family' but what do you mean by this, especially in this day and age when women make more than men.
My ex was a great provider, he saw a need for something and made sure it was taking care of: saw red light filter on fridge next time he came over he had the right fillter. To me it means small stuff. He handled business, he learned that from his father who he saw provided anything his mom needed for 44 plus years. We went to a ski weekend and there was some kind of mix up, I didn't have to go abw on them, he went up there and got results. When we would go on family weekend trips he made sure everyone had supplies.
I agree. I've actually never heard of or seen the term "provider" being used in any other context until reading this thread.erplexedWhen I use the word, I mean it in the traditional, dictionary definition sense.
Overall, women still make less than men, so we are still at a disadvantage.
I came in from work yesterday to find DH doing the laundry and he had his drill out to make a home repair. He did the vacuuming and mopped the floors a couple of days ago. When I came in from work today he had done the dishes....during a break and then he went back to work. We had tire issues with all 3 vehicles over the weekend. DH got that all fixed and called me just to let me know where the cars were parked. I also send in DH to deal with random household problems since he gets faster results with vendors/complex staff.
A coworker was complaining today, again, about her deadbeat husband who won't help with anything....not even with their 2 kids. She is like his personal assistant since he cannot do anything on his own. I hear her scheduling all of his appointments during the work day although at one point he was at home with a back injury. Even today she was complaining about his not helping the kids with homework so she had to be up late helping the kids. I am not sure why she hasn't divorced him since it's been YEARS of her complaining about the guy. He seems nice enough at the holiday parties but that is only because he has no idea how bad she talks about him at the office.
I can not and will not have a Beta sitting at the head of my table pretending that he leads our family.erplexed