SerenavanderWoodsen
SkinnyMe
yeah... no black men.
sadly, i'm not kidding.
sadly, i'm not kidding.
Were You Taught Or Do You Teach Your Children Not To Date People With Certain
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softblackcotton
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My mom has repeatedly told me no black American men.
Now she is telling me no black men at all.
My dad has no comment. He admits to me that black men like him seem to be very rare these days.
Now she is telling me no black men at all.
My dad has no comment. He admits to me that black men like him seem to be very rare these days.
SerenavanderWoodsen
SkinnyMe
When I first got into boybands, my daddy did tell me not to bring a white man to his house
My mom told me the same thing.
Listening to the Backstreet Boys is some sort of gateway drug I guess.
divya
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Wow...sorry to hear. What is your mother's background? Is she just weary of popular culture that many black men subscribe to?
softblackcotton
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How sad.
That isn't about physical characteristics is it
No, It's about how she feels about the way black men treat black women in America. In general, they are not family-oriented, marrying men. Also many black men have strong prejudices against women with afrocentric features like mine. Do I even need to say what these features are? She doesn't like most black American culture (the most prevelant negative aspects of it) that seem to highlighted in the media. She even knows from my own experiences with black boys/men from childhood to adulthood have not been very good at all. She strongly believes that I need to broaden my horizons and date outside of the race and I will meet better men. Maybe, but it's easier said than done.
softblackcotton
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She and my father are West Indian.
ladysaraii
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My mom told me not to date short men and not to date old men either. Oh and evaluate their family history and if they have signs of crazy or mental illness, keep it moving
MyInvisibleChyrsalis
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Stay away from angry men, broke men, a man who wont defend your honor, and stick with your own faith. My mom and dh's mom prayed over us and our future spouses when we were little kids to keep us safe. Thats about it.
RUBY
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I had to look this up but when I went to wiki it included a picture of a penis and I'm at work so I had to exit that fast.
Please can tell us why / more?
jdvzmommy
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My mother just said that if he's ugly, extremely overweight, or has a mean stutter and I love him, don't bring him around the family because they won't be able to control their laughter. And I've seen it. One of my sisters exes was built like the dud:e from Despicable Me. 
CaliiSwagg
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My folks didnt tell me shyt
They probably should have... some folks could have been avoided
They probably should have... some folks could have been avoided
moonlightchic18
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From my Mom: Don't date a man who isn't a christian
From my Dad: Don't date a man who makes less money than I do
From my Aunt: Don't date a man with a head shaped like an orange
From my granddad: Never trust a man who wears tight pants
From my Dad: Don't date a man who makes less money than I do
From my Aunt: Don't date a man with a head shaped like an orange
From my granddad: Never trust a man who wears tight pants
ladyscorpian14
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my mom and add to my list I would prefer someone with no body hair my dad side of the family curse me 5'8 or taller no history of "big" mental illness, no glasses, no africans
Pat Mahurr
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Round? What's wrong with round? I'd be more fearful of a watermelon, banana or lemon-shaped head myself. 
emerald06
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This was told to me to. And "we aren't better than people...but"
Sent from yacht with Beyonce & Blue
My mom told me to never cast my pearls among swine, but I was told to have compassion for other people. It left me a little confused at the time, but I understand what she means now.
LongTimeComing
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Don't bring home a white dude. That was rescinded several years later, but I think there is still some seriousness to that statement.
Don't bring home a broke dude. If he doesn't have at least what you have, *** him.
Don't bring home a broke dude. If he doesn't have at least what you have, *** him.
My dad didn't want me to date someone with a widows peak or "nappy" hair. I'm not sure why. He also told me that I probably wouldn't marry a man with good credit because no black man has good credit. Well, my husband doesn't have a widow's peak and I would never call someone's hair "nappy" and fortunately for us he has EXCELLENT credit....and he is black.
physical characteristics?
I would tell my children not to date someone who is fat or has fat running in their family because fat runs on one side of my family HARD. Their kids have to have hope
I tell my son that all the time. I tell him to look at the mother (her size/how she carries herself) and if her house is dirty and she is overweight then the daughter will be just that so don't bring her home. My son already told me he does not like any stupid girls so I know at least she will have brains. Moreover my son's pediatrician is always encouraging him to find a woman who is rich. On every visit he'll ask my son what type of woman does he like and every time the pediatrician says “she must be rich” so I hope my son is taking notes.
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