Guitarhero
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likewtr4chklit, I do understand what you saying and yes there is a line. I don't know the whole story between the couple in the story. However, my point is, before we get ready to go off, kick someone to the curb, etc. we need to examine our own behavior to see how we may be contributing to the situation by our actions.
My post was not about allowing a man to dictate. It is about letting your spouse know you hear and acknowledge their objection whether you agree or disagree. The man wanted to be heard. Obviously, he felt that his opinion didn't matter. His negative reaction wasn't warranted but it got him heard. The wife has now reinforced a negative behavior. I am sure that if they sat down and talked her decision out as oppposed to "this is my hair and I can do what I want with it", it may not have resulted in what happened.
My grandmother always told me, enough is enough only after you have done ALL in your power to make it right. Once you've done that, you can walk away with no regrets.
That essentially places the blame on a woman who is strong enough to recognize her inherent human dignity and freedom of her individual. A married couple is not one in the sense that she ceases to exist. You don't trample over a PREGNANT woman, taking her to the car, driving down the road and telling her he wants out. She was hyperventilating...what if she went into premature labor due to the sudden stress? It hit her from out of the blue. He could have written a letter explaining they needed to discuss an issue. And even then, it's a non-issue. How does he wear his own hair? Does he fart under the sheets...leave the seat up? But see, these are things one does, not being the essence of a person such as physical form. What I think you're advocating is that she defer to his likes but pretend that she had an equal say...but ultimately listen to him and cave to his side in order to submit to his will. I could be wrong but he placed her emotions and even physical in danger. What's that say about him?
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