^ Thats great that you are going to do some self-reflection! Please keep us posted on how things work out. This will be a test for how well you guys can handle the art of compromise. I think you can do it!
You will eventually have to compromise.
I didn't even want a NYC wedding. I wanted to get married on an island somewhere with 20 people in October.
That whole Spring NYC wedding was DH's idea. He wasn't groomzilla but he wanted specific things.
Awww, wishing you guys the best. Wedding planning can be a stressful time.
Keep in mind that unless you guys are working with an unlimited budget, you are going to have to compromise and you won't be able to get everything you want. Just resign yourself to that now, it will save you a lot of disappointment later.
Your day will be beautiful and so special, you'll see.