Mwenye_Heri
Active Member
So I really don't talk about my relationship to anyone because I was taught by my mom not to but I am so sick and tired I just need to vent.
I feel like I am living with a roommate and we just happen to have a daughter and a dog together instead of my husband. We have been together for 10 years and married for eight but things have changed since I started working reason being is that I'm not at his beck and call whenever he wants to have lunch and not as available as I used to be.
I am at my wits end, I am tired of being second to everyone else and my feelings and opinions are just that mine. But others can have a say as to what goes down and my husband actually listens to them.
For example, today we were suppose to go to church, which is the only time that we get to spend outside of the house as a family. I wake him up to get ready, which I understand he works nights on the weekends, but he states in the same breath that he is going to hang out with his friend at 1:15. I know you all are going to be like what's the beef? But he makes plans with other people all week long, and you can't even go to church with me and our daughter as a family?
My husband gets up after I made up my mind that obviously we aren't going to church together. It felt inorganic, like I was forcing him to go somewhere he didn't want to go. But why do I have to force you to do stuff with me and everyone else is no problem?
I left to clear my mind, I'm so fed up. All I do is work and go home. My husband, who is suppose to be my BFF, is all I have in this area. He hasn't taken me out on a date since February, and that was because it was my birthday and valentine's day. We even have one of his friends living with us and he goes and spends time with him in the basement.
It has been other things and this is minor but everything is building up and I'm tired. Tired and unhappy. I have told him straight up about spending time together but it goes in one ear and out the other.
I feel like I am living with a roommate and we just happen to have a daughter and a dog together instead of my husband. We have been together for 10 years and married for eight but things have changed since I started working reason being is that I'm not at his beck and call whenever he wants to have lunch and not as available as I used to be.
I am at my wits end, I am tired of being second to everyone else and my feelings and opinions are just that mine. But others can have a say as to what goes down and my husband actually listens to them.
For example, today we were suppose to go to church, which is the only time that we get to spend outside of the house as a family. I wake him up to get ready, which I understand he works nights on the weekends, but he states in the same breath that he is going to hang out with his friend at 1:15. I know you all are going to be like what's the beef? But he makes plans with other people all week long, and you can't even go to church with me and our daughter as a family?
My husband gets up after I made up my mind that obviously we aren't going to church together. It felt inorganic, like I was forcing him to go somewhere he didn't want to go. But why do I have to force you to do stuff with me and everyone else is no problem?
I left to clear my mind, I'm so fed up. All I do is work and go home. My husband, who is suppose to be my BFF, is all I have in this area. He hasn't taken me out on a date since February, and that was because it was my birthday and valentine's day. We even have one of his friends living with us and he goes and spends time with him in the basement.
It has been other things and this is minor but everything is building up and I'm tired. Tired and unhappy. I have told him straight up about spending time together but it goes in one ear and out the other.
I know you just wanna vent, so i'll give you a big e-hug. I wish I had more...in the meantime, keep your chin-up.
. I was coming in here to give encouragement but now IDK. I was going to tell you that I used to have to go to church alone too but now my dh is the one who insists we go to church together on Sunday. And I also think it rarely works out to have another adult living with a married couple. But based on your last post it sounds like there's a lot more going on here. I hope you find some peace and resolution soon.
and couples counseling 
. Relationships have their turbulent times. Good luck and hang in there Sweetie.
