mallysmommy
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So my coworkers and I are casually conversing and the subject of marriage and children comes up. Everyone is stating their current relationship and children status and whether or not they want or could foresee things changing for them in the future. One of my coworkers who is very pretty imo has two younger children from a previous marriage is currently in a LTR with man who has a teenaged daughter and preteen son also from a previous marriage. She states that though she could foresee marriage she cannot (and admits its very shallow for her) imagine having children with this man because she is afraid her children will be ugly like his.
We were all so thrown off by her comment that one of us asked her to repeat and explain herself. She repeats that his children are not very attractive and that she doesn't know if it is his genes or their mother's genes but she wouldn't want to take that risk. The father wears normal glasses and kids wear thick glasses. She and her children do not. His kids needed heavy dental treatments and both suffer from asthma. The daughter is battling the dreaded acne. My coworker said that she rarely has a skin blemish. She said that she thinks the little boy looks like Urkel and the girl like a grandmother. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I asked her if they have talked about more children and she said that a direct conversation hasn't come up yet, but she intends to motion against it. she says "I'll just tell him that four kids is enough, a cute puppy will do just fine".
I have seen her man and only pictures of both of their kids. The man is decent but not really my type, the kids I guess could grow into their looks over time. I don't know what their mother looks like. Her children are cute but then again could grow into some "unfortunate looks" I think both sets of kids look their fathers. These people are some where between early mid thirties, I know they have been dating for at least a year.
I was just thrown off by that. Granted this was just girl chit chat and assumed that her crass remarks were not meant to be taken so seriously (she is one of those brutally honest types) but is it okay to not want children with your SO because you think he will produce ugly children, based off of the current looks of his children? Is this something that you bring up to him?
We were all so thrown off by her comment that one of us asked her to repeat and explain herself. She repeats that his children are not very attractive and that she doesn't know if it is his genes or their mother's genes but she wouldn't want to take that risk. The father wears normal glasses and kids wear thick glasses. She and her children do not. His kids needed heavy dental treatments and both suffer from asthma. The daughter is battling the dreaded acne. My coworker said that she rarely has a skin blemish. She said that she thinks the little boy looks like Urkel and the girl like a grandmother. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I asked her if they have talked about more children and she said that a direct conversation hasn't come up yet, but she intends to motion against it. she says "I'll just tell him that four kids is enough, a cute puppy will do just fine".
I have seen her man and only pictures of both of their kids. The man is decent but not really my type, the kids I guess could grow into their looks over time. I don't know what their mother looks like. Her children are cute but then again could grow into some "unfortunate looks" I think both sets of kids look their fathers. These people are some where between early mid thirties, I know they have been dating for at least a year.
I was just thrown off by that. Granted this was just girl chit chat and assumed that her crass remarks were not meant to be taken so seriously (she is one of those brutally honest types) but is it okay to not want children with your SO because you think he will produce ugly children, based off of the current looks of his children? Is this something that you bring up to him?