Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[divachyk]

Hi Prettymetty, I get that analogy.

RT: It will be warming up soon and I'm thinking of putting the wigs down but need a good game plan.

When wearing wigs, my ng remains soft and springy all week. When my hair is exposed, my ng becomes coarse and dry as the days go on even with my best moisturizing/baggying efforts.

I guess my question should be: is anyone able to make the wash day softness last all week without a mid-week regimen? My hair thrives best on less manipulation so I'm trying to avoid the mid-week regimen.

 

[Prettymetty]

I use a lot of evoo after I dc and before I redo my celies. The moisture is sealed until next wash day. What are you sealing with?

 

[divachyk]

Prettymetty it depends although usually, avocado oil or a butter if heavy sealing.

 

[ScorpioLove]

18 months post and surprisingly I haven't relaxed yet

My leave out is mostly natural at about 8inches. I need like 16 inches to feel like my transitioning is over. I will be in a sew in probably for the next year. Its the only way I can leave my hair alone.

This transition is really hard and I really can't deal with short hair.

 

[Evolving78]

I'm going to get the Kera minerals system. I still love straight hair, but the transitioning to all texlax, is causing breakage.

 

[PlainJane]

It was so hard getting this shot and it still didn't turn out well but I was playing in ecostyler last night to see if curls would form.

 

[GettingKinky]

^^^^ cute curls

 

[H0tPinkButtafly]

I'm 16 months post as of yesterday

 

[divachyk]

My hair is having a bad week thanks to poor decisions on my part - trying to go without my wig and ended up having to do a quick mid-week regi to alleviate dryness and remove the waxy feel from my hair. I really should have waited until the weekend when I had ample time rather than cutting corners in my regi.

I'm at 33 weeks post. Totally hoping a protein treatment calms things down and gets me back on track. Until then, back to wigs....

 

[divachyk]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here...

Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media:

Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it.

My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

 

[GettingKinky]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here... Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media: Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it. My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

I think the relaxed hair may break off, but it won't affect your growth rate. That woman doesn't know what she's talking about.

 

[Evolving78]

My hair is having a bad week thanks to poor decisions on my part - trying to go without my wig and ended up having to do a quick mid-week regi to alleviate dryness and remove the waxy feel from my hair. I really should have waited until the weekend when I had ample time rather than cutting corners in my regi. I'm at 33 weeks post. Totally hoping a protein treatment calms things down and gets me back on track. Until then, back to wigs....

are you going to do a protein treatment this weekend?

 

[Evolving78]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here... Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media: Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it. My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

that made no sense. Cutting hair doesn't make hair grow faster. You are right. That is a retention issue.

 

[divachyk]

are you going to do a protein treatment this weekend?

Yes shortdub78. I just braided it and wigged until.

 

[H0tPinkButtafly]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here...

Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media:

Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it.

My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

I heard this statement before, I can't remember who said it but I think it was referring to holding on to damaged /split ends

 

[bebezazueta]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here... Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media: Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it. My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

I don't know what kind of voodoo hair she's talking about that cuts itself. I still have lots of relaxed ends after 18 months. And guess what . . .my hair still growing. Some stylists just don't like to deal with 2 textures.

 

[SlimPickinz]

Is it transitioning if you go from straight hair natural to wng natural?

 

[divachyk]

bebezazueta H0tPinkButtafly
She has yet to respond to my response. I'll be interested to see what she says.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here... Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media: Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it. My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

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There isn't a causal relationship between growth and the ends of your hair. That doesn't really make sense.

 

[Honey Bee]

Is it transitioning if you go from straight hair natural to wng natural?

SlimPickinz, Yeah, I think somebody here is transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed. I forget who.

 

[divachyk]

SlimPickinz, Yeah, I think somebody here is transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed. I forget who.

That's what I was kinda doing Honey Bee

 

[Evolving78]

I used the Beautiful Textures Naturally Straight system. I like it a lot. There was no funny smell, my hair wasn't dry, and I was able to detangle and flat iron with easy. I need to get the shampoo . I have the conditioner. I love the result! I can't wait to see how things go on wash day! That will be the real test. But I'm just not feeling my hair. I got crown issues, so until that gets totally resolved, I won't be impressed with my hair.

 

[Lissa0821]

I am completely natural. My niece also even out my hair and gave me a tapered haircut. Just in time for the spring.

 

[H0tPinkButtafly]

Whenever I don't rollerset/flat iron my hair, I really want to big chop. I had to fight with my hair this morning to get it in a high bun.

 

[Britt]

I posted this in RT but probably should have posted this here...

Do you all believe the below statement and am I missing something? It was stated to me on social media:

Hair would grow more if you cut the relaxed hair if you're not going to relax again. She tells her clients the hair will cut itself if you don't cut it.

My response....doesn't hair grow the same regardless...wouldn't it be the retention that differs due to breakage?

I've heard something similar from a stylist early on in my transition. I was prob about 7-8 months post and he told me that my hair would break off and that I should either chop it then or do braids/protective styles something.

Honestly, I see the truth in what he said. I knew I wanted to be a long term transitioner, but I wasn't one to stress myself out about preserving the length of my relaxed ends. As my transition went on my relaxed ends became even more struggle, struggle, struggle looking. I'd dc as usual and my hair just started to not make sense lol. I either would slick my hair back in a bun and tuck the ends, or do a braid out and wear it out.

Unpopular opinion, I don't think long transitions are that great. I know there are quite a few of us who have had successful 2+ year transitions and do cute styles, etc... but IMO, when you cut off the relaxed ends you really get a feel for your natural hair and how to manage it, it's easier to wash, it feels unburdened by the struggle straight ends, it just feels like it's ready to thrive . I chopped at 17.5 months, I had planned on going longer, but I'm glad I chopped when I did. I think it all depends on your hair and your hair type honestly (Another unpopular opinion).

So I say all this to say, while I don't fully agree with your stylist, I totally understand and it makes sense to me. I do think hair grows regardless of whether you cut it or not, but transitioning hair at the same time is not the healthiest/strongest so it will inevitably break off ... protein treatments be damned lol. I don't think there is a one size fit all routine for transitioning. Some people can get away with buns/twist outs/bantu knots, etc, some are better with weaves/wigs b/c their strands simply cannot handle the manipulation of the two textures.

 

[divachyk]

Britt she's not my stylist. She was a commenter on Instagram who so happens to be a stylist. I don't disagree hair is prone to breakage. I disagreed with the part that hair grows quicker when the relaxed hair is removed. I believe hair grows at the same rate regardless, it's retention that's impacted.

 

[SlimPickinz]

SlimPickinz, Yeah, I think somebody here is transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed. I forget who.

Honey Bee thanks boo. I think it's time for me to pack up my straight hair and try something new. I'm gonna leave my flat iron at my mom's house so I can't use it.

 

[HappywithJC723]

In April I'll be one year post. I've decided to get senegalese twists to get me through until my year mark. From there, I will probably BC. That's my plan...I hope the execution goes as smoothly as I have it in my mind.

 

[Evolving78]

SlimPickinz, Yeah, I think somebody here is transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed. I forget who.

that's what I'm doing, but I'm trying to master this stretching thing. I would like to do a long stretch. I would like to have a ton of new growth and go from there. This way I can slowing trim off the bonelaxed ends without losing length. So o hope heat styling can get me through it.

 

[TamaraShaniece]

I think hair stylist who refuse to reeducate themselves on what they use to think were facts about hair use growth and retention simultaneously.

Ex: trying your hair will make it grow (when really, trimming your hair to avoid breakage, can help you retain length). They don't differentiate the two.