Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

Debating what to do with this hair. I'm 10 months post a bad BKT, and I really feel like I should cut off the thin BKT'd ends and move on with my life. But then I keep holding on to the hope that the hair will revert (some of the straighter pieces are reverting, probs just imagining it :look:). i kinda wanna give my hair until the end of the month to get it together, then I will cut if it's still acting a fool. Will have to get braids too because my hair is uneven as heck (SL in the back, EL in the front).

I really regret BKT'ing last year. If I hadn't I probably would have been 100% natural BSL by now :(
 
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I'm officially one year post! :yay:

Also, I managed my first high bun since starting my transition. I had to use about 15 long hair pins, but I did it! :yay: :lol:
 
beauti said:
ladies hang in there! Honestly transitioning was very overwhelming, and during the bad hair days, depressing. The second I cut my first lock of hair I felt relieved. I promise you will want to slap yourself for waiting so long once the deed is done :yep: upon my first wash as a natural I noticed the following:
* No tangling while washing. I could literally run my fingers through my wet hair! Tangles melt off with conditioner. I have NEVER experienced this with my relaxed hair beyond 2wks post :shocked: I used to have to detangle on 80% dry hair, without product...not anymore! I can detangle right in the shower

* No porosity issues! My hair stays wet an entire day, whereas my highly porous relaxed hair would dry up before I even stepped out the shower! :shocked:

Above all, you will fall in love with your natural hair. I promise. I was DREADING coming face to face with it, even preparing for the worst by researching products that will help me deal. But the second I ran my fingers through my hair all those thoughts dissipated :love2:

The shrinkage is ridiculous, don't get me wrong! For the past several days I've been going through youtube videos trying to find a method that will stretch my hair enough for a bun. Well this morning I did my first bun and I almost cried with relief and excitement :look: in all it's itty bitty glory I think it's the most amazing thing I've done to my hair :lol:

Okay all this rambling to say...please stay your course. Do not give up! Do not reach for that relaxer! Throw a wig on, weave it up, braid it up, anything to keep your hands out of your hair. And one day you'll wake up and you'll just feel like this is it, it's time to chop. That's what happened to me :yep:
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Your hair is so pretty. Thanks so much for the encouragement. I know I needed to hear that. I'm 7months post, and the new growth is amazing. I am dying to get rid of the relaxed ends but absolutely NOT until I too can make a bun with my natural hair - even if its a tiny bun-bump..LOL! I'm trying to really hold out the transition for the full two years. 7months in - only 17more months to go!! *sigh* :perplexed:perplexed
 
I was so glad I just got rid of all those relaxed ends too but I had to shave to get all of those relaxed ends and scab hair out . I wash my hair everyday and my hair actually which used to take forever to dry in its relaxed state takes only a few minutes now.

Best,
Almond Eyes
 
beauti said:
ladies hang in there! Honestly transitioning was very overwhelming, and during the bad hair days, depressing. The second I cut my first lock of hair I felt relieved. I promise you will want to slap yourself for waiting so long once the deed is done :yep: upon my first wash as a natural I noticed the following:
* No tangling while washing. I could literally run my fingers through my wet hair! Tangles melt off with conditioner. I have NEVER experienced this with my relaxed hair beyond 2wks post :shocked: I used to have to detangle on 80% dry hair, without product...not anymore! I can detangle right in the shower

* No porosity issues! My hair stays wet an entire day, whereas my highly porous relaxed hair would dry up before I even stepped out the shower! :shocked:

Above all, you will fall in love with your natural hair. I promise. I was DREADING coming face to face with it, even preparing for the worst by researching products that will help me deal. But the second I ran my fingers through my hair all those thoughts dissipated :love2:

The shrinkage is ridiculous, don't get me wrong! For the past several days I've been going through youtube videos trying to find a method that will stretch my hair enough for a bun. Well this morning I did my first bun and I almost cried with relief and excitement :look: in all it's itty bitty glory I think it's the most amazing thing I've done to my hair :lol:

Okay all this rambling to say...please stay your course. Do not give up! Do not reach for that relaxer! Throw a wig on, weave it up, braid it up, anything to keep your hands out of your hair. And one day you'll wake up and you'll just feel like this is it, it's time to chop. That's what happened to me :yep:
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beauti thanks so much for this post! Tomorrow I'll be 17 months post and I currently have in Senegalese twists and I'm soooo tempted to take them out this weekend, which is a few weeks earlier than I anticipated. They are hot and annoying. I had blow dried my hair the day before I went to put them in and my relaxed ends are STRUGGLE... like, struggle :look:. When I take these twists out I'll be either tempted to cut or just hold on to the ends for a little while longer b/c I want my natural hair to be just long enough to be in a bun like you have in your attached pic. I'm trying to fully come to terms with the fact that I have to deal with short natural hair for a when I cut it. Basically dealing with the unknown.
 
I really messed up. I haven't been taking care of my hair and now I've got major problems. My ends are thin, 2-3" pieces of hair is breaking off, I've found tons of ends that are split 3" up, and I've got this short spot right in huge back of my head. I think that's from my bun in the same spot. I also think my ends are breaking cause I put my hair in a pony and just secure the ends so it makes a loop. I'm finally in love with my length, so I really don't want to cut. I'm BSL and I would need to cut to somewhere between SL & APL. Or should I just continue the search and destroy method? Tomorrow I'm going to give myself a protein treatment.
 
I don't post enough pics in here, so thought I'd share a photo of the braid out I wore on Saturday. Not the best quality photo (my phone sucks) but you get the idea I think. I'm officially 23 months post. :)

beauti thanks for the pep talk! Your hair looks lovely. I think a shiver ran up my spine at the idea of running my fingers through my wet hair. The tangly, webby relaxed hair on wash day is so gross. I look forward to being where you are someday soon! Enjoy your new journey.
 

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About two weeks ago I was hating my hair....now that I have learned how to manage and bring it my waves....I'm learning to love it
Fasting the relaxed ends...
I want to chop then I wouldn't be able to go my two side braids as an easy style
I think I'm gonna set a date in oct....I can always add weave...
 
Britt said:
beauti thanks so much for this post! Tomorrow I'll be 17 months post and I currently have in Senegalese twists and I'm soooo tempted to take them out this weekend, which is a few weeks earlier than I anticipated. They are hot and annoying. I had blow dried my hair the day before I went to put them in and my relaxed ends are STRUGGLE... like, struggle :look:. When I take these twists out I'll be either tempted to cut or just hold on to the ends for a little while longer b/c I want my natural hair to be just long enough to be in a bun like you have in your attached pic. I'm trying to fully come to terms with the fact that I have to deal with short natural hair for a when I cut it. Basically dealing with the unknown.
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Britt I also had braids in and did not plan on chopping when I did. The urge just kept growing when it came time to remove the braids. I just felt that I was ready. My biggest fear was losing length, hence why I transitioned so long. But once I got to snipping I honestly didn't think about it till I was done :look: then I thought uh...can I bun this?? Took me several days to do it. But yeah as long as you can do a bun, you should be good!
 
Mische said:
I don't post enough pics in here, so thought I'd share a photo of the braid out I wore on Saturday. Not the best quality photo (my phone sucks) but you get the idea I think. I'm officially 23 months post. :)

beauti thanks for the pep talk! Your hair looks lovely. I think a shiver ran up my spine at the idea of running my fingers through my wet hair. The tangly, webby relaxed hair on wash day is so gross. I look forward to being where you are someday soon! Enjoy your new journey.
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Mische thank you! Your braidout is luscious :lick: Yeah wash days used to be dreadful. I had to comb through before my hair touched a drop of water, then detangle again after washing :spinning: you will be relieved once your transition is over and you will actually enjoy wash days
 
Welll... I made 17 months post today.

Thank you beauti I think you're right... I suspect when I take out these twists that's when I'll get the urge to cut off the ends. I remember the day before I put the twists in and I looked at my blow dried ends... they are SEEEEEEE througggghhh. I want enough length so that I can gather all my hair into a small ponytail/bun and that way I can attach some natural looking weave around my bun.
 
Hey ladies, checking in ... 23 months since my last texlax! I had no idea I could make it this far, I did box braids with only my hair in the middle of May and have been wearing my hair like that since. I wash in braids and redo every braid after it dries, it's so easy that I even did my daughters! I won't be taking them out until the end of August and hopefully I will be only a few inches from BSL! I'm so happy I transitioned I just wish I would have done it sooner!
 
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Hey ladies, checking in ... 23 months since my last texlax! I had no idea I could make it this far, I did box braids with only my hair in the middle of May and have been wearing my hair like that since. I wash in braids and redo every braid after it dries, it's so easy that I even did my daughters! I won't be taking them out until the end of August and hopefully I will be only a few inches from BSL! I'm so happy I transitioned I just wish I would have done it sooner!
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How did you get your ends to stay braided?
 
Mjon912 said:
Hey ladies, checking in ... 23 months since my last texlax! I had no idea I could make it this far, I did box braids with only my hair in the middle of May and have been wearing my hair like that since. I wash in braids and redo every braid after it dries, it's so easy that I even did my daughters! I won't be taking them out until the end of August and hopefully I will be only a few inches from BSL! I'm so happy I transitioned I just wish I would have done it sooner!
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will you post a picture of your style? Sounds like perfection but I can't imagine how it looks.
 
Checking in... It's been awhile. I'm 40 weeks post and 37 weeks pregs. Lol

I've been in marley twist for about 4 weeks.
Cleanse/Condition
-Chagrin Valley Conditioning Buttery Bar
Twist
-Jane Carter Nourish and Shine
-Shea Moisture Raw Shea Elixir

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bebezazueta I just used a hair butter, I've got a few so no particular one, after I take the braid out I moisturize and put the hair butter going down the length, after I've braided about 2/3 of it I do 2 strand twist to the end

Jobwright i just washed this morning so I'm rebraiding now but...
 

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Washed my braids this morning... Love them! I half way want to keep them forever! But I miss my straight hair... One unraveled during the wash and I live my texture... I think I'm a 4a, but you can see my thin relaxed ends... Can't wait to snip those off and have thick blunt ends

Eta... Anyone good at hair typing, can you tell me what you think I am... That pic is this morning, washed and air dried with nothing on it, I'm 23 months post relaxer
 

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I forgot to check in -this past Monday I made 11 months post! I have transitioning fatigue though
I'm so tired of hiding my hair- I kind of just want chop and be done with it when I take this second sew-in down.

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sharifeh said:
I forgot to check in -this past Monday I made 11 months post! I have transitioning fatigue though
I'm so tired of hiding my hair- I kind of just want chop and be done with it when I take this second sew-in down.

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CONGRATSSSS :woohoo: you're continuing to push along. Are you scared to style your transitioning hair? This way you could give yourself a break from protective styles for a bit?
 
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