Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

lamaria211 said:
I was natural for 3 years my hair grew healthy and fast. Then about a year ago I relaxed (after convincing my whole family to go natural btw) lol . I enjoyed it for the time but my hair didn't. I'm glad I did it now I no what I really want. Bit since last time I BC I didn't have to deal with the whole transitioning thing, this time I want to do it so I can learn how to style my natural hair and I really don't want another TWA. Thanks for the support. I need it
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i had also conviced friends and family to go natural.... lol .. so when i relaxed everyone was like " what the heck" :-/

yup lol! lost woman. i was only about 3 months post and just decided i will not relax... the more i was stretching, the less i felt like relaxing ( thinking of how it would turn out.... underprocessed or overprocessed, do it myself, or salon...) all those questions just pushed me away from the relaxer that i specially bought and that is still under my bed!
 
Still trucking along with this transition(11 months) but I am thinking of chopping next month. As you can see in the pics, my hair already looks natural. I think I have like an inch of relaxed ends left.:look:

But, ever since that um "impulsive chop" last month my hair has been growing and I realized that I have a ton of shrinkage. :(
 

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KidneyBean86 said:
Still trucking along with this transition(11 months) but I am thinking of chopping next month. As you can see in the pics, my hair already looks natural. I think I have like an inch of relaxed ends left.:look: But, ever since that um "impulsive chop" last month my hair has been growing and I realized that I have a ton of shrinkage. :(
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youve got a lot of hair there. its full hair. nice
 
KidneyBean86 said:
Still trucking along with this transition(11 months) but I am thinking of chopping next month. As you can see in the pics, my hair already looks natural. I think I have like an inch of relaxed ends left.:look: But, ever since that um "impulsive chop" last month my hair has been growing and I realized that I have a ton of shrinkage. :(
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We appear to be at exactly the same place...I turned 12 (months, that is) on July 10 and I BC-ed on May 10. It was impulsive and then a few days later I had my daughter clean it up-no relaxed ends made my life so much easier. That shrinkage ain't no joke!
 
Cattypus1 said:
We appear to be at exactly the same place...I turned 12 (months, that is) on July 10 and I BC-ed on May 10. It was impulsive and then a few days later I had my daughter clean it up-no relaxed ends made my life so much easier. That shrinkage ain't no joke!
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Y'all are making it hard for me to hold out...
 
shyekiera said:
Y'all are making it hard for me to hold out...
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I did it because I wanted to see my retention sooner than later. I'm glad I did it when I did because I haven't figured out 2nd day hair and winter time would not work for a WNG. I'm hoping the combo of more length and more experience with my natural curls will help me get through the winter.
 
CafedeBelleza said:
This caused me a lot of anxiety the last few times I relaxed.
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this id why i havent had a touch up since last relaxer in decemer..... that is how i turned out transitionning so soon after a virgin relaxer.
this was not planned... i wanted to go on a healthy relaxed journey. but i have fine hair im afraid to mess up with bad relaxer results
 
shyekiera

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coolsista-paris said:
this id why i havent had a touch up since last relaxer in decemer..... that is how i turned out transitionning so soon after a virgin relaxer. this was not planned... i wanted to go on a healthy relaxed journey. but i have fine hair im afraid to mess up with bad relaxer results
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Yup, I agree with both of you. An underprocessed relaxer is what got me here too. I never had any intentions of going natural. This was never even in my plans but with 50-11 different textures running wild in my head I decided to try something new. I can't say I will be natural forever or even long term but I will go on and give it a whirl because I will never be 1+ year(s) post again. This transition feels like a bad breakup.
 
SuchaLady said:
I found the second girl on IG like 4 days ago! Her hair is gorgeous. She nearly solidifies my decision on wearing my hair straight once natural. She does light blow dries and still has great results.
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She's really a great example for naturals who are heat trained/wear their hair mostly straightened. Her hair looks very fluffy, soft and thick.
 
I think when I take this weave out, I'm gonna hit the salon 2x a month and start heat training my roots. I'd do it at home but I'm terrified of tangles. I don't want to get DBOs anymore because I want body and their blowouts remove body to me.
 
SuchaLady said:
Yup, I agree with both of you. An underprocessed relaxer is what got me here too. I never had any intentions of going natural. This was never even in my plans but with 50-11 different textures running wild in my head I decided to try something new. I can't say I will be natural forever or even long term but I will go on and give it a whirl because I will never be 1+ year(s) post again. This transition feels like a bad breakup.
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i now understand you better.

having all thos textures can just mess your hair up. and take you way back to start point.
that scares me.
i wanted to be a straight natural but i guess i didnt try hard enough....
i might retry. but uhhh this whole transition again :-/
i was bsb in december and now its gonna take me years again to acheive long hair. fustrating
 
coolsista-paris said:
i now understand you better. having all thos textures can just mess your hair up. and take you way back to start point. that scares me. i wanted to be a straight natural but i guess i didnt try hard enough.... i might retry. but uhhh this whole transition again :-/ i was bsb in december and now its gonna take me years again to acheive long hair. fustrating
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See I told you I'm not completely crazy :look: :giggle: I'll see where I can end up. All I can do is try. :yep: I can't rerelax now if I wanted to anyway my hair is all chopped up :lachen: Why didn't you being a straight natural work?
 
Did a protein treatment, shampoo, deep condition, along with moisturizing and oiling my hair. She's all ready for these braids tomorrow. *gulp*. My hair really is very pretty. I can't deal with looking like Don King though. It was so pretty, soft, moisturized, and shiny during the wash process. Now what happens between that moment and styling to make me look like I need a hug I still haven't figured out.
 
Well I did something different during this stage.....I had been washing(Wen) and then blow dry and flat iron/curl......so I experimented the other night.

My hair was already short, more short in the back and sides and top longer......I have not relaxed since April (probably 3 months post) my back, from ear down is probably all natural, parts of my sides are but my front and top has more relaxer than natural hair.

So the other night after washing I did twists or braids and rolled on perms rods and let dry over night......my dd says I have some frizz and my youngest can not get used to the shorter curlier/natural look and my dh looked like :look::look: he said "you cut your hair didn't you?' which he is totally against although I would love to big cut. I think I may just use regular small curlers with end papers instead of the perm rods...you can see some of my relaxed ends sticking out :nono::nono:

I love short hair and I would love the length of Tamron Hall because she can go between short twa and straight. My hair in some areas is that short. She is my natural hair idol.
 
I should now be in the TWA section. But I love the discussions here because they seem more frequent.

In the end, shaving my hair and starting from scratch was a good decision for me though at first I was terrified and thought that I could do a long transition. I wash my hair everyday with a very mild shampoo and a good conditioner. My fine hair is very soft and only takes about 30 minutes to dry now when before it would take one to two days. I don't put any products in my hair except for some gel if I want to make my curls pop even though right now my curls look very puny and I can still see my scalp in some parts.

My mother called me the other day to ask me if I was using grease or anything in my hair and I said no. She wanted to get on my case but then I said Mum remember when I was younger and my hair was long and healthy what was my routine, she was like I used a mild shampoo and conditioner or rinsed your hair everyday and just put it into one big braid with no products and your hair stayed soft. Then I said, "Mum I think I am beginning to understand where things went wrong with my hair. As I got older and you stopped washing it so frequently and began to use all these greases and leave ins my hair became a dry and tangled mess and you started to use all these stripping shampoos. I think fine African hair needs a very basic routine."

I am now going back to basics and I must say I am amazed at how moist and soft my hair is now and my texture is coming back slowly. When I was transitioning my hair texture was a mess and even when I tried to wash it everyday it was still a mess. I can't wait for it to be at least more than an inch so I can start using hair rods. I also comb my hair mildly to get my scalp oils circulating and my hair is so soft it never tangles on the comb.

Best,
Almond Eyes
 
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