Islandgrl98
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To Stay or not to stay-
I have been married for almost 9yrs now with two boys 3 and 8. I am at a point where I just want out but I don't know if it is right to make that decision because I think it would make me happy.
My husband can be great one minute, and the devil next (verbally abusive, threatens). He takes care of us and is a good dad. We have both done things in the past to hurt each other but while I am willing and have forgiven him, he has been torturing me with my one and only mistake because he cant let it go. I have been unhappy for a long time but stayed because I'd think things would get better, we have a house and kids together.
Now I told him I am going to leave, and I meant it, but I can't stand to bear the fact that my kids love him soo much and vice versa, also he would not be able to pay the mortgage alone. I plan to move 3hrs away because all my family lives in another state and it would be better to have the support.
Please tell me if I am being selfish and if not, would my kids be ok, eventually?.
I have been married for almost 9yrs now with two boys 3 and 8. I am at a point where I just want out but I don't know if it is right to make that decision because I think it would make me happy.
My husband can be great one minute, and the devil next (verbally abusive, threatens). He takes care of us and is a good dad. We have both done things in the past to hurt each other but while I am willing and have forgiven him, he has been torturing me with my one and only mistake because he cant let it go. I have been unhappy for a long time but stayed because I'd think things would get better, we have a house and kids together.
Now I told him I am going to leave, and I meant it, but I can't stand to bear the fact that my kids love him soo much and vice versa, also he would not be able to pay the mortgage alone. I plan to move 3hrs away because all my family lives in another state and it would be better to have the support.
Please tell me if I am being selfish and if not, would my kids be ok, eventually?.
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