TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
To start off, I'm 40 and single. After a pretty bad relationship, I took some time to evaluate why I repeated the same relationship patterns and have really enjoyed getting to know myself. I feel stronger and grateful.
I haven't had any type of (ahem) relationship since fall 2016, and though I'm content at this stage in life, I wouldn't mind spending time with the RIGHT person.
I've had some helpful colleagues try to play matchmaker (although I didn't ask), but I haven't been impressed with their prospects and end up not calling.
DISCLAIMER: PLEASE DON'T THROW STONES!!!!
Today, a coworker of mine bounced into my office to tell me that the "really cute" Fedex guy asked about me and left his business card. Honestly, I flinched at the term "Fedex guy" but took the business card just to get her off my back but had no intention of calling. By lunchtime, all of the sistas in the office (all of which are married) had heard about the business card and were asking me when I was going to call this guy. I still had not even seen the business card, but they had already done their homework.
Maybe the Fedex thing is a side hustle, but according to the card he is a board member of a non profit organization that mentors young fathers, and the rhetoric of the website seems very religious. Considering that I'm not very religious and don't have or want children, this doesn't sound like a fit.
I didn't go into detail about WHY I still wasn't sold on the guy, I just said "I don't know..." This started an onslaught of "You're so stuck up... you're too picky... you're going to end up alone..." blah, blah, blah.
I never said there was ANYTHING wrong with this guy. In fact, I think he would be a GREAT catch for someone that is looking for a good Christian brother with a job and a child / children, but none of those characteristics appeal to me.
Most times I'm OK with where I am, but when so many tell me that I'm wrong for feeling what I feel or that I somehow think I'm better than someone else, I feel badly. I've resolved that I may end up unattached (I'm not certain that I really want to get married), but that certainly doesn't mean that I can't live a happy, fulfilled life. Why does that seem so odd?
I haven't had any type of (ahem) relationship since fall 2016, and though I'm content at this stage in life, I wouldn't mind spending time with the RIGHT person.
I've had some helpful colleagues try to play matchmaker (although I didn't ask), but I haven't been impressed with their prospects and end up not calling.
DISCLAIMER: PLEASE DON'T THROW STONES!!!!
Today, a coworker of mine bounced into my office to tell me that the "really cute" Fedex guy asked about me and left his business card. Honestly, I flinched at the term "Fedex guy" but took the business card just to get her off my back but had no intention of calling. By lunchtime, all of the sistas in the office (all of which are married) had heard about the business card and were asking me when I was going to call this guy. I still had not even seen the business card, but they had already done their homework.
Maybe the Fedex thing is a side hustle, but according to the card he is a board member of a non profit organization that mentors young fathers, and the rhetoric of the website seems very religious. Considering that I'm not very religious and don't have or want children, this doesn't sound like a fit.
I didn't go into detail about WHY I still wasn't sold on the guy, I just said "I don't know..." This started an onslaught of "You're so stuck up... you're too picky... you're going to end up alone..." blah, blah, blah.
I never said there was ANYTHING wrong with this guy. In fact, I think he would be a GREAT catch for someone that is looking for a good Christian brother with a job and a child / children, but none of those characteristics appeal to me.
Most times I'm OK with where I am, but when so many tell me that I'm wrong for feeling what I feel or that I somehow think I'm better than someone else, I feel badly. I've resolved that I may end up unattached (I'm not certain that I really want to get married), but that certainly doesn't mean that I can't live a happy, fulfilled life. Why does that seem so odd?