Artemis
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...is because of ourselves!
Are you sure you WANT healthier longer hair?
It seems to me that some people on here claim that they are willing to learn and make changes toward a direction that will facilitate success, but when it comes time to make the necessary steps, they drop the ball, and then blame others for this. We are all here to help each other toward some common goals, but lately it has been really feeling like people are just not open to this, which is ironic considering we just started a New Year.
If you really are willing to open your mind and try something different, are you willing to begin right now? I think that a lot of us came here once upon a time when we realized that what we were doing with our hair wasn't working and we needed to make some changes. What happened to that? Instead I see a lot of discouraging posts, negative comments, and a general unwillingness to see the objective side of our situations. A person will ask for help, and then get upset at the response they recieve when it's not what they wanted to hear. I don't come here to be lied to, I come here for support in my hair endeavors and I wish the same for everyone here.
I really would like to be apart of a hair board where we actually learn what's best for our hair, not by pure "trial and error" as it were, but moreso through "educated guessing". Not only does this save money, but it decreases the amount of unnecessary setbacks. Simple regimens, consistency, and positive thinking are the keys for us, ladies, not all that other foolishness...If you want something you have to believe you have it already and act accordingly. And work to make it happen, there are no shortcuts with this.
I have seen posts on here where valid points have been made and the original posters just plain ignored that the idea could even be fathomable. How can this be helpful towards your endgame?...And if you really didn't want the help, then why post? For advice that I worked hard in researching to give you to fall on deaf ears...Man, it's a major insult, and makes me not want to post at all sometimes.
Honestly, ladies, what is it about someone giving advice that will just keep you from considering it as valid? What does it have to take for you to really look outside of your pride to consider trying things a different way, esp. when you know what you are doing isn't working? Are you ashamed that you don't know about your hair yet? Are you angry? If so, admit that to yourself, get over it, and get moving towards something better.
I have read threads where ladies have posted that other races have "better hair" than ours and that is why we don't have long hair, or threads where some have said that some of us will never have long hair, so why try? To give some other person's hair more credit than we give our own is a true disservice, and I personally want no part in that. My hair is good, my hair is me, my hair is beautiful. To get to that point, for some, is a struggle, but in order for things to get better, you have to WANT it. If you don't want more for yourself, why ruin it for others, or take advantage of their helping hand?
I am learning just like everyone else here. I want my hair to be the strongest, healthiest it can be. And while I don't know EVERYTHING to do that, if someone has a good idea to try, why not at least read it and research it before you make a final decision?! It plagues me sometimes how we are on a message board and people absolutely REFUSE to read the advice they ASKED for!
The worst thing you can do is to sabatoge yourself and then blame others--be it other people, or methods, or products. I would hate for someone to not realize this until it is too late, like when their hair is all gone or something? I mean really!
I am being completely honest: I am not posting this to get validation. I don't care if anyone doesn't reply. But I felt like this needed to be said. IMO the integrity of the support and love on this board is at stake and we need to remember why we are all on here.
Are you sure you WANT healthier longer hair?
It seems to me that some people on here claim that they are willing to learn and make changes toward a direction that will facilitate success, but when it comes time to make the necessary steps, they drop the ball, and then blame others for this. We are all here to help each other toward some common goals, but lately it has been really feeling like people are just not open to this, which is ironic considering we just started a New Year.
If you really are willing to open your mind and try something different, are you willing to begin right now? I think that a lot of us came here once upon a time when we realized that what we were doing with our hair wasn't working and we needed to make some changes. What happened to that? Instead I see a lot of discouraging posts, negative comments, and a general unwillingness to see the objective side of our situations. A person will ask for help, and then get upset at the response they recieve when it's not what they wanted to hear. I don't come here to be lied to, I come here for support in my hair endeavors and I wish the same for everyone here.
I really would like to be apart of a hair board where we actually learn what's best for our hair, not by pure "trial and error" as it were, but moreso through "educated guessing". Not only does this save money, but it decreases the amount of unnecessary setbacks. Simple regimens, consistency, and positive thinking are the keys for us, ladies, not all that other foolishness...If you want something you have to believe you have it already and act accordingly. And work to make it happen, there are no shortcuts with this.
I have seen posts on here where valid points have been made and the original posters just plain ignored that the idea could even be fathomable. How can this be helpful towards your endgame?...And if you really didn't want the help, then why post? For advice that I worked hard in researching to give you to fall on deaf ears...Man, it's a major insult, and makes me not want to post at all sometimes.
Honestly, ladies, what is it about someone giving advice that will just keep you from considering it as valid? What does it have to take for you to really look outside of your pride to consider trying things a different way, esp. when you know what you are doing isn't working? Are you ashamed that you don't know about your hair yet? Are you angry? If so, admit that to yourself, get over it, and get moving towards something better.
I have read threads where ladies have posted that other races have "better hair" than ours and that is why we don't have long hair, or threads where some have said that some of us will never have long hair, so why try? To give some other person's hair more credit than we give our own is a true disservice, and I personally want no part in that. My hair is good, my hair is me, my hair is beautiful. To get to that point, for some, is a struggle, but in order for things to get better, you have to WANT it. If you don't want more for yourself, why ruin it for others, or take advantage of their helping hand?
I am learning just like everyone else here. I want my hair to be the strongest, healthiest it can be. And while I don't know EVERYTHING to do that, if someone has a good idea to try, why not at least read it and research it before you make a final decision?! It plagues me sometimes how we are on a message board and people absolutely REFUSE to read the advice they ASKED for!
The worst thing you can do is to sabatoge yourself and then blame others--be it other people, or methods, or products. I would hate for someone to not realize this until it is too late, like when their hair is all gone or something? I mean really!
I am being completely honest: I am not posting this to get validation. I don't care if anyone doesn't reply. But I felt like this needed to be said. IMO the integrity of the support and love on this board is at stake and we need to remember why we are all on here.
...Seriously though Sunday my Pastor talked about New Year Resolutions ...Not to make New Year Resolutions but to Renew your Mind ......Change your Mind........If you do the same thing you will get the same results....How our mind hinders our goals and our dreams. How we can't change because we are not willing to try something new or that is something out of the box. How we sabotage ourselves.
I remember this one chick who sent me a message in my fotki with a million and one questions. I took the time to write out everything I did, answered all of her questions...back it up with websites and everything 
