Lovelylife
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Things are looking up social wise. One of the girls from an organization that I just joined is also working at the temporary job that I just got. lol
I've never heard of lotsofevents.com, d.
I heard their commercial, visited online, left msg. per their instruction; never heard back.
Hopefully LOE will work for you.
Aaaawwww I am in Philly, and these guys are a trip and a half! Where do you get out, have fun and meet people?
I'm claiming along with you ladies, next year I will be married to a man after God;s heart. Who is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh (perfectly suited to me)
Who I will be pleased to see every morning and every night.
Who will stand in the gap with me in prayer through this harsh life.
I name it and I claim it!
that's the thing i dont go out. i did online dating for the last 5yrs but I permanently quit about 2 months ago. The guys i met/dated online were mostly in NJ & delaware.
but since quitting online dating i try to head out to the suburbs to like a mall or bookstore, dress nice & be approachable. Havent met a guy that way yet but I've only done it a couple of times, but I bet i'll meet at least one decent guy that way
I actually created a vision board in my journal a few months ago. I usually write down my goals in my journal as well, but I keep a copy EVERYWHERE - bathroom, wallet and in my room.
My vision board contains things about my goals, marriage and what I want in my FH, finances, hobbies and everything else I've ever wanted. Nine times out of ten, when I write down my goals, I usually achieve them.
No more doing things so that I don't appear a certain way to folks who don't even matter. They won't be the ones dealing with my husband day-in and day-out, dealing with the baggage, etc. I realize I don't have to live for anyone but God. Yeah, I've been told that I could miss out on some great guys who come with baggage, but if it isn't what I WANT, then I DON'T have to deal with it. There's nothing wrong with wanting a person that has the same things as you or even better.
I'm sorry, but I'm just tired of being told that I have to settle for a man that's had several divorces, children, no money, not attractive (in the physical sense) to me, not educated (that's important TO ME), just so that others won't feel threatened. You want that, fine. I refuse to settle in any part of my life from now on, and that includes relationships.[/QUOTE]
I heard their commercial, visited online, left msg. per their instruction; never heard back.
Hopefully LOE will work for you.
Build it (the list) and they (he) will come. Have fun ladies!
Thank you. He's the second guy I've met in the last two weeks that fit my description but with the first there was no mention of Dubai (I just threw that in to test LOA).
WOW! I'm speechless after reading this, HA! WOW. I am so happy for you . . . inspired . . .
no mention of Dubai (I just threw that in to test LOA).
Source:I first have to say that it is such an honor for me to be included in the conversation here, with all the amazing women leading Black women’s empowerment movement! Khadija, your blog is a huge inspiration for me. Thank-you for your leadership and guidance.
Honestly ladies, taking personal responsibility for attaining your wildest dreams is an initial shock to the system that is both shocking and at times painful. Sometimes I feel unsure and unbalanced, like I’m tittering on a high wire without a net over uncharted territory. No one in my families memory dared to spit in the face of those telling us where our “place” in this world was. No one in my families memory dared to separate from the rat pack (mentally); even though many shifted from states in the South to North and back again, working in farms and factories hoping for the “good luck” of bare survival. But you know what, just like Khadija wrote, “the various types of chains we wear are mostly mental.” And to me, if I become aware of a chain around my neck I am (obligated) by the universe to not just remove it, but smash it it bits for its insolence! So though a wave of fear (false evidence appearing real) may come over me, I’ve already smashed a few mirrors in the fun-house. I already know “the jokes on me!” if I let it be!
The false evidence told me that “I’m fat. My genes give me the predisposition to be fat. Black girls look good fat right, why fight it? But my dreams/imagination told me that I could look more than good, I could be stunning. I could be the one to shut the room down! LOL! So I smashed the chain. It hurt like hell! I got up at 4am to hit the gym. I skipped anything that tasted good, (sugar, fat and carbs). I got a Pilate’s dvd. The teacher was skinny, tyrannical and mean; and I clung to her everyday like a best friend. I worked all day and even though I was dog tired evenings, I ended every day with a thirty minute walk on the tread mil or if the weather was nice, out in the fresh air. I smashed it. The weight though stubborn began to bow to my will. I woke up one morning floating over the scale at 118!
The false evidence told me that I didn’t have a degree. I don’t come around the “right” circles to meet any man worth my while. I’m already thirty-three and I don’t even get dates, much less a decent boyfriend, and much much less a husband. Maybe it’s ok to be alone. Maybe I wasn’t meant to have kids. But my dream/imagination told me that I could have a prince that even a “hot white chick” couldn’t pull! So I smashed the chain. It felt silly, who da heck did I think I was anyways?! I wrote out a dream husband manifesto. I wanted someone international and financially secure. I wanted a man who was tall blonde and masculine. I wanted a man who’s family was as kind and open as he should be. I wanted a man who dreamed of a family and cherished the idea of supporting a wife and kids at home. I wanted a man who was quirky and could match my scene of humor. I wanted to have a man who had a legacy. All this I wrote out and even showed to my mother who joined faith with me to pray over it while I went into action. I smashed that chain too! After finding the right dating site on-line for me I was contacted by my future husband. Done with all the same old tall leggy blondes (smh!?) He said he wanted someone deeper, someone serious. I won’t go into all the details, but this is the honest truth. I answered his request in October of 2006, Met him physically in November, and was married, living in Finland by March 2007!! This man has a huge legacy from his Grandfather a contractor/builder business tycoon who built anything over two stories in my city! He was everything on that piece of crumpled paper now living in my mom’s family bible! All mental chains can kiss my brown butt from now on!!!
So yes, I tell you make your world as you see fit!! Make your wildest, biggest dreams the forefront of your focus! I see this BWE movement for fellow black women and girls as just a small crack in the dam of the river empowerment! Those breaking free may be just a trickle right now, but oh, the momentum is millions of gallons of raw power behind us…The flood of empowerment’s freedom can be our reality. We just have to work.
Have you gone to Oprah's website? She has a vision board program. In the program I uploaded pictures I liked from the Internet and placed them on the board. When I was done I went to the UPS store and printed it in color. I love it. I hung one on my fridge! This way you do not have to buy any magazines and you can use the Internet to provide pictures. Let me show you mine. BRB
I KNOW my dream man exists, because I'm living proof that people like me exist. If I exist (and I'd date me lol) then I'm sure there is a man somewhere, like me, that is datable, attractive, etc. and wants to be married.
That's a good concept. I'm keeping this in mind.Count me in! I'm claiming marriage - Ideally a 2012 wedding. I LOVE the idea of getting married during the "doomsday" year. ..And at my wedding, I'll have the waist length hair, and an evening wedding. Part of what I love about it is first believing it's possible! I've never had hair this long (APL) and didn't even think it was possible until I found it here. I've recently watched my sister get married, and one of my best friends get married. I remember watching my friend for years watch wedding shows, and basically "try" to get pregnant...and now she has her baby and her husband! My sister was also dating some loser prior to getting married to her now husband, and I'm sure she didn't see that coming.
So watching them makes me KNOW that it is possible for me, and that it IS happening. I have yet to NOT get anything I've ever wanted, or not accomplish any goal I have for myself.
So my goal is just to be MORE me! And to not be too lazy to be that version of me. What that means is that I know I'm fabulous, so behaving anything less than is unacceptable. My goal this year is to be more of the person God has made me to be, and to remind myself that the God I believe in loves me and wants me to have my dreams come true, and to live fabulously and to live joyfully - the way he created me!
I KNOW my dream man exists, because I'm living proof that people like me exist. If I exist (and I'd date me lol) then I'm sure there is a man somewhere, like me, that is datable, attractive, etc. and wants to be married.
I'm wondering if Bunny ever came back and posted any pics? I think she got married last month
My friend and I talk a lot about the law of attraction. Well, she just pointed me to a post written from a Black woman who was overweight, in her 30s and felt that she would never get married. She wrote her goals for a man, had her mom pray with her about it, and God delivered.
Here is her testimony:
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“Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!” — The Sojourner's Passport