The 2012 Wedding Thread

[MrsMe]

That's unfortuate. And what was the best man thinking? Sorry to hear about your sis, BUT I'm glad that you've made some choices that made you happy.

Sounds like you've made a good decision. I wonder if there's anyone out there w/o family drama? Some of my relatives have gotten mad that my fiance's a doctor. AND they've voiced it like, "Just cause you're marrying a doctor..." even when the convo has nothing to do with that. It's my mom that mentioned the doc thing once in passing. AND then I think how can it be avoided? If some people ask what does your man do for a living what can I say. I can't win for losing. And I don't think it's a big deal but they sure make sure to let me know so I don't act "siddy" or whatever that is. Meanwhile when I was younger they were always picking at me and calling me uppity anyways cause I grew up in Germany (don't have a southern accent, etc). So they've been waiting to prove that I'm stuck up forever. And that's not everyone by a long shot but some are like that.

I do have some very supportive family members too, but definitely some catty ones. When I went to a film festival last year for my script they didn't even congratulate me. BUT I'm the first one to call when I hear about their achievements or to offer encouragement when they're down.

I'm pretty much the supportive person who cheers on other so I don't get it but whatever. I'm trying to just focus on my fiance and I and let all the b.s fall to the side.

Immediate family is a lot better, with both sides pretty happy so that's great. BUT I knew not to let my dad get involved (paying) or else I'd be in for a fight because he'd try to control everything.

We'll probably have about 50 (or more guests as we decided to invite more)-80 depending on who can show.

The good thing about the area is it's 20 minutes from cancun so the flights will be super cheap for everyone (and they were going to have to fly and stay in a hotel anyways as they're from all over the country).

Oh and I like the part you mentioned about making about "us" the bride and groom. That's what I'm focusing on too. It does put things into perspective and makes things happier for sure

Eek! I had a nice post and it got deleted...
At the bolded: I know exactly how you feel. My sis loves to tell me about her accomplishments and new ventures + my congratulations but when I told her about my engagement she congratulated me through gritted teeth (and I actually wished she had not said anything at all...) and hasn't mentioned it once to me ever. She has not even asked to see the ring although I have caught her STARING at it at multiple occasions. Then I heard from my mother that she was ready to be my MoH and spend her money on my wedding. We are not close like that and there is a reason why we postponed the wedding date: we are spending our own money so we could control it! She's a control freak and would turn it into the dream wedding she never had.
The people who really love you or hate you reveal themselves during the best and worst moments of your life. Weddings are one of these moments and I totally agree with you when you say that you will not deal with b.s.

Hey all, Please post even if you're throwing out ideas, had a road block, trying to decide on ettiquette, or whatever. I think it'll be a fun 2012 wedding scrap book of sorts if we do it this way.

Okay I love her bouquet and bird cage. I want a birdcage similar but different flower fascinator (maybe one with crystals, etc), and I may even have a duster in the back (short veil attached but I have to see how that'll look. I saw someone pull it off.

or this birdcage w/ crystal detailing

They can be adjusted to be close to the head, or a little room in between.I'll want it looser like that as my hair will be down.

Oh and I went through million hair variations (half up and down, etc) But then I found I like oldhollywood but in a modern way. So I really like this one (and will do: IF I bring a hairstylist/friend or If someone recommended in the area [from a natural on bestdestinationwedding.com] can flat iron natural hair correctly and create these waves. Otherwise it will be a big braid out. I'm about an inch from wl from my recent length check and that's after cutting out tons of layers I didn't want. I still want to cut another inch or two so I should have a nice wl by June if all is well,and hopefully be gearing to tbl or hl by next year if all goes well...with my thyroid it's a chop salad as my hair is super dry every since it started, coupled w/ anemia So I never know what to expect w/ set backs if my thyroid swings I have to cut to make sure it looks good) Without further ado here's the idea of hair w/ birdcage

I love birdcage veils, too! I'm hesitating between the latter and cathedral veils..yeah, I go from one extreme to the other, because I don't like what's in the middle.
I wanted to have an updo but my edges have failed me and although I've been babying them I don't think they will be ready for the wedding. The rest of my hair (locs) is shoulder length and I should be at APL or below by next year so I have other options. I originally wanted something like that:

My fave!

Instead, I may have to settle for curls or a twist out like this:

 

[princessnad]

I want to wear my hair down but I don't know how to maneuver that with the weather in JA.

I'm a natural 4a/3c and I straighten sometimes.

I would like something like this:

 

[princessnad]

I think this style is gorgeous but my FH pretty much told me he will not marry me if I walk down the aisle with anything resembling a bun. LOL!

 

[glamazon386]

Yay congrats glamazon386! Any pics of dresses, hairstyles, venues yet? Even just beginning stuff will do wonders.

We've decided on Dreams Los Cabos in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. We can't officially book until March though. They won't do it more than 18 months out. More than likely I will be wearing a bun or twistout. I don't want to attempt to straighten and have it end up being a mess.

I'm having a hard time finding a dress though because it seems most styles are strapless. I really don't want a strapless dress. I also don't want something too fussy because we will be on the beach. I did find one on David's Bridal's website that I like so far but that's about it.

ETA: Oh goodness now y'all have me up looking at wedding gowns.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

We've decided on Dreams Los Cabos in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. We can't officially book until March though. They won't do it more than 18 months out. More than likely I will be wearing a bun or twistout. I don't want to attempt to straighten and have it end up being a mess.

I'm having a hard time finding a dress though because it seems most styles are strapless. I really don't want a strapless dress. I also don't want something too fussy because we will be on the beach. I did find one on David's Bridal's website that I like so far but that's about it.

ETA: Oh goodness now y'all have me up looking at wedding gowns.

Remember if you go to get a fitting (a seamstress) some dresses...they can build straps for them. Show them some pics, before you buy and see if it can be done. I found that finding ones with straps are super hard (so I agree with you there).


And I understand about the beach. I'm going to Karishma Resorts and if they didn't have a rooftop overlooking the beach, I'd probably do something simpler. But I want to see the beach, but not be on it. I think it's beautiful some of the people with pics on the beach, but I saw the rooftop and it was an amazing view of the water and the city on the other side and they seem to do a nice set up there.

Yay! (about looking up wedding gowns) look them up pleeeeeease

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Eek! I had a nice post and it got deleted...
At the bolded: I know exactly how you feel. My sis loves to tell me about her accomplishments and new ventures + my congratulations but when I told her about my engagement she congratulated me through gritted teeth (and I actually wished she had not said anything at all...) and hasn't mentioned it once to me ever. She has not even asked to see the ring although I have caught her STARING at it at multiple occasions. Then I heard from my mother that she was ready to be my MoH and spend her money on my wedding. We are not close like that and there is a reason why we postponed the wedding date: we are spending our own money so we could control it! She's a control freak and would turn it into the dream wedding she never had.
The people who really love you or hate you reveal themselves during the best and worst moments of your life. Weddings are one of these moments and I totally agree with you when you say that you will not deal with b.s.




I love birdcage veils, too! I'm hesitating between the latter and cathedral veils..yeah, I go from one extreme to the other, because I don't like what's in the middle.
I wanted to have an updo but my edges have failed me and although I've been babying them I don't think they will be ready for the wedding. The rest of my hair (locs) is shoulder length and I should be at APL or below by next year so I have other options. I originally wanted something like that:

My fave!

Instead, I may have to settle for curls or a twist out like this:

I love the first, second and fourth one . the updos are suprisingly my favs (I usually like hair down).

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Eek! I had a nice post and it got deleted...
At the bolded: I know exactly how you feel. My sis loves to tell me about her accomplishments and new ventures + my congratulations but when I told her about my engagement she congratulated me through gritted teeth (and I actually wished she had not said anything at all...) and hasn't mentioned it once to me ever. She has not even asked to see the ring although I have caught her STARING at it at multiple occasions. Then I heard from my mother that she was ready to be my MoH and spend her money on my wedding. We are not close like that and there is a reason why we postponed the wedding date: we are spending our own money so we could control it! She's a control freak and would turn it into the dream wedding she never had.
The people who really love you or hate you reveal themselves during the best and worst moments of your life. Weddings are one of these moments and I totally agree with you when you say that you will not deal with b.s.




I love birdcage veils, too! I'm hesitating between the latter and cathedral veils..yeah, I go from one extreme to the other, because I don't like what's in the middle.
I wanted to have an updo but my edges have failed me and although I've been babying them I don't think they will be ready for the wedding. The rest of my hair (locs) is shoulder length and I should be at APL or below by next year so I have other options. I originally wanted something like that:

My fave!

Instead, I may have to settle for curls or a twist out like this:

I think this style is gorgeous but my FH pretty much told me he will not marry me if I walk down the aisle with anything resembling a bun. LOL!

Ha ha! That's so messed up. Tell him his job is to just smile at you when you walk down . Okay so I understand you want to look (pleasing) to your man too. As for me, a bun (da loca! I'm probably spelling that wrong but I was thinking of George from George Lopez's show)

I just posted my length check in the main arena and I be darned if I'm not gonna show it (that's why I'm not putting it up)..BUT if you read the thread you'll see why (I just had so many set backs from health and hairstylists that I'm happy I'm getting to where I want)... they're going hard on my camera phone over there but please check out my story when you get a chance. Cause dog gone it if I haven't had challenges in the past 14 months, BUT I'm getting there. And I hope to have gorgeous hair (length, thickness, etc) by the time I finish. I can't stand stringy hair, or brittle hair, so I've been cutting a lot (or thin hair uneven hair)

PICS! WL check LD's 14 month pics w/set back explanations, etc - Long Hair Care Forum

 

[DarkAngell]

@luckiedestiny. Why would they act like that about him being a doctor?? That's great? or is the sort of "oh she got a doctor...big deal" type of remarks?

@MrsS I love the birdcage look im just not sure how would look on my big ole head. but they look so elegant and it's the closest thing I would ever get to any veil over my face because i HATE blusher veils and how they look. (no offense to anyone....it just looks like it would annoy me).

It's either get a birdcage veil or just do my hair up with alot of flowers. My hair should (crossing fingers) be between HL and Tail bone length by then so I will definitely have alot of hair to put up!

I will be adding that link to my favorite places. I'm also going to look into Davids bridal...even try to hit up their $99 for nice "trash the dress" dress.

I have a question. For the shorter dresses i posted.....is there any cute way of wearing shoes for the beach with it? Not asure whether the ceremony will be in gazebo, patio, or sand yet and normally with a dress like I would wear some beautiful high healed shoes...but obviously if im in the sand I wont be able to do that. Any suggestions?

 

[luckiestdestiny]

@luckiedestiny. Why would they act like that about him being a doctor?? That's great? or is the sort of "oh she got a doctor...big deal" type of remarks?

@MrsS I love the birdcage look im just not sure how would look on my big ole head. but they look so elegant and it's the closest thing I would ever get to any veil over my face because i HATE blusher veils and how they look. (no offense to anyone....it just looks like it would annoy me).

It's either get a birdcage veil or just do my hair up with alot of flowers. My hair should (crossing fingers) be between HL and Tail bone length by then so I will definitely have alot of hair to put up!

I will be adding that link to my favorite places. I'm also going to look into Davids bridal...even try to hit up their $99 for nice "trash the dress" dress.

I have a question. For the shorter dresses i posted.....is there any cute way of wearing shoes for the beach with it? Not asure whether the ceremony will be in gazebo, patio, or sand yet and normally with a dress like I would wear some beautiful high healed shoes...but obviously if im in the sand I wont be able to do that. Any suggestions?

I think you need one of those thick runners that I've seen almost like a platform thing. I want to see if I can find one and post it later. I know it might be hard because I only saw that once several months ago. I thought it was an ingenious way to counteract that. That way you can wear whatever shoes you want. You can also walk slowly in your heels with an escort so you don't wobble. Or here's some fun options:

 

[luckiestdestiny]

@luckiedestiny. Why would they act like that about him being a doctor?? That's great? or is the sort of "oh she got a doctor...big deal" type of remarks?

?

"Just cause you marrying a docta..."

"Hopefully you don't go changing..."

or..."We just simple folk, maybe we don't understand..."

or "We heard about the BIG wedding". (I never said it would be big. I never said anything other than it would be a destination wedding. Picture Big said in an exaggerated/annoyed and/or sarcastic way.

type of snide stuff. And yes it's going to be well done (but I love discounts which is why I chose destination in the first place: more bang for your buck)...but I shouldn't have to apologize for that.

I really don't know why. I didn't bring it up except they asked "what does your man do" so of course I told them.

Who knows...

Shrug.

 

[DarkAngell]

what is that ankle bracelet/toe ring jewelry called?

 

[luckiestdestiny]

what is that ankle bracelet/toe ring jewelry called?

Barefoot sandal or Barefoot wedding sandal will pull them up....if that's what you're talking about?

 

[lilpooky]

I'm looking to get married in 2012! Well, actually, more like 2013, but I'm still pulling out with hope! My wedding will be VERY traditional. Big dress, church, wedding march...everything! At least that's what I've always dreamed of.

Sorry to read about how your family is acting towards your wedding luckiestdestiny. Family can be a pain sometimes, but it's gotta hurt and feel a little discouraging to hear them say and do stuff like that.

 

[itismehmmkay]

subscribing

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I'm looking to get married in 2012! Well, actually, more like 2013, but I'm still pulling out with hope! My wedding will be VERY traditional. Big dress, church, wedding march...everything! At least that's what I've always dreamed of.

Sorry to read about how your family is acting towards your wedding luckiestdestiny. Family can be a pain sometimes, but it's gotta hurt and feel a little discouraging to hear them say and do stuff like that.

Hey lilpooky congrats on putting out that energy

Yeah it does hurt a little, and it's frustrating because I root for them constantly.

As for you ...feel free to post those dreams away including: dress options, pics of churches, menu ideas, any and everything you desire!

 

[lilpooky]

Hey lilpooky congrats on putting out that energy

Yeah it does hurt a little, and it's frustrating because I root for them constantly.

As for you ...feel free to post those dreams away including: dress options, pics of churches, menu ideas, any and everything you desire!

Thanks. My bf is in grad school right now, and we've already talked about marriage many times. So whether we're getting married next year or not depends on a lot of factors: whether he finishes up this year (which he plans to do), whether he gets a job, etc; I know that it will all fall into place, so I'm not too concerned.

Since he is still in school, I haven't yet come up with a budget, but I know what I want my wedding to look like. Very sleek and elegant with neutral/metallic colors. I'm thinking silver/gray and white, or cream/champagne and white. I will post pics of my ideas soon.

 

[awhyley]

Hey, that's Sarah's dress from 'Say yes to the dress' - Great choice. That dress is
(Make sure to post pics from the da big day)

My fave!

I am SERIOUSLY loving her hair and makeup. Those eyes

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Hey, that's Sarah's dress from 'Say yes to the dress' - Great choice. That dress is
(Make sure to post pics from the da big day)

Yeah...except I'm making modifications so it's luckiest's dress Basically it's going to have halter crystal straps that mimic the crystals on the torso, a tie in the back only (satin) with a brooch in the middle, and a little different ruffle at the bottom. But overall very similar. It had to be "updated" for me so to speak. The straps are going to be similar to the ones posted in the mock up and the same with the satin tie bow in back (which is in the picture). And I swear it is too hard to hunt that dress down (and the pics) because it was made inhouse there, and so there are very little pics because it is so rare. I don't think they're even selling it anymore.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

For the beach bride who wants to wear heels...didn't find the platform but even something like this will make it easier, so you're not walking directly on sand. It's a mat like aisle...

Del Sol Photography Blog - 10.30.10 Katrina + Matthew | Fairmont Mayakoba | Photos by Matt Adcock

scroll down three pics. Unfortunately it won't let me copy it.

 

[Yen Oak]

Just got engaged in Miami last weekend. Planning an April or May wedding in 2012 in North Carolina!

Trying to keep the budget under $20K.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Just got engaged in Miami last weekend. Planning an April or May wedding in 2012 in North Carolina!

Trying to keep the budget under $20K.

Congrats

The budget is completely doable...depending on how you want it to look (and how resourceful you are at finding deals, negotiating, etc!)

So what are your ideas? How do you want it to look? What's your ideal budget?

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Okay so as I mentioned I'm having the theme "Old Hollywood marries in Mexico" to add to that theme, there'll be maracas on each chair (at the wedding). I want black and white elements (more white than black)with splashes of color (for the mexico part). Most of the decorations will be glam but subtle luxury (white candles, white flowers, soft lighting) but it will have splashes of mexico thrown in for an eye catching twist. They'll have a card attached that says "shake me at the kiss" and the company I'm working with has really cute colors. Ignore the chairs. My chairs will definitely be less...beachy and dressier :

she has lots of cute hand made maraca designs and will even custom make (in colors that we specify and design)

Plus I think they make great guest favors so it adds some fun, and solves a dilemma of guest favors.
These are all from the same company in Mexico. I emailed the lady a couple times (she's a local wedding planner) and her responses were always quick and she comes highly recommended by some wedding forums.

I'm not sure what I'll create yet from her but I like that her designs are whimsical, simple but yet fun! They'll be a fun dash of color in other neutral surroundings. I have other things in mind for other "dashes" of color but I'll save those as they evolve.

Anyone thought of any unique elements to add to their weddings.

 

[Transformer]

HELP!

Out of town guests. Several members of my family are RSVPs to the wedding and stating that they want to "sightsee" in D.C. while they are here for the wedding. They are also going to come early and extend their stay to incorporate this.

I have two issues and want to know the proper way to handle this:

1. The persons coming are my sibilings and since I can't accomodate everyone at my house, I've agreed to pay for two nights at a reserved hotel. I'm pretty sure I'm going to have issues when I tell them I'm not willing to pay for their advanced and extended stay.

2. Sightseeing. Yes, I'm usually a gracious host and take people around and for two of them this will be their first time visiting. However, this time I'm not willing to be exhausted before the wedding or take the additional days off work after the wedding. They are also not the type to do things on their own.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

HELP!

Out of town guests. Several members of my family are RSVPs to the wedding and stating that they want to "sightsee" in D.C. while they are here for the wedding. They are also going to come early and extend their stay to incorporate this.

I have two issues and want to know the proper way to handle this:

1. The persons coming are my sibilings and since I can't accomodate everyone at my house, I've agreed to pay for two nights at a reserved hotel. I'm pretty sure I'm going to have issues when I tell them I'm not willing to pay for their advanced and extended stay.

2. Sightseeing. Yes, I'm usually a gracious host and take people around and for two of them this will be their first time visiting. However, this time I'm not willing to be exhausted before the wedding or take the additional days off work after the wedding. They are also not the type to do things on their own.

I'd tell them that you'd love for them to come but they need to know that you won't be able to play hostess as you have to help get ready for the wedding, as well as work. You will be available to see them the two days planned prior at some time.

Also if they are planning extra days, you're glad you contributed to part of their stay (with the two planned days) but can contribute no more than that.

For their stay you can email them a list of things to do because you really want them to enjoy themselves

 

[Transformer]

This is going to get ugly. I just had one family member call to reserve "her favorite" bedroom. I have four unoccupied bedrooms and reserved one bedroom for my mother (it's her room when she lives full time with me), another for the sister that will have "custody" of mom at that time, and one for my oldest sister that I only see every ten years and has never visited my house . So now, with the sister that just "reserved" her room--I'm full...other than air mattresses in the basement. There are three additional siblings that have not put in their requests and are certainly going to be offended it we don't draw straws or something. Nobody likes to drive and aren't fond of hotels. I also actually can't turn away the sister that reserved her room--she and her DH kept my son almost every single weekend for nearly two years--this allowed me to get a graduate degree while my DH was deployed.

On Monday, another sister called and berated my son for over an hour "why her grandchildren couldn't attend the wedding/reception." History- I purchased one sister an airline ticket to visit ill mom and she cursed me for not paying for bag fees. She's never been to the DC area so I know she's figuring I should pay for hotel for whatever time she's here and since she doesn't work--she could stay awhile.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

^^^Ah family drama! I'm sure it will work out in the end as you can only do what you can do.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Are your son and future daughter in law getting married in 2012? I remember you from the other thread (before my date was moved up). Already drama and you have a year left? Well how am I talking as there is occasional drama usually in every wedding. I think it's a given.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I know I posted my interest in a certain type of veil...ladies? What say you? Are you interested in the traditional veil? No veil? Please post examples if you have them...oh and are you interested in white dresses, off white, or something outrageous and completely different?

 

[Transformer]

Are your son and future daughter in law getting married in 2012? I remember you from the other thread (before my date was moved up). Already drama and you have a year left? Well how am I talking as there is occasional drama usually in every wedding. I think it's a given.

The wedding is in FOUR MONTHS

I know I posted my interest in a certain type of veil...ladies? What say you? Are you interested in the traditional veil? No veil? Please post examples if you have them...oh and are you interested in white dresses, off white, or something outrageous and completely different?

I love veils, especially cathedral length, but I don't like to see them covering the face. I think that historical traditiion time has past. I also not into the birdcage look but sense you are doing "Hollywood meets the Mexican Rivera"--maybe it's appropriate. I'm just big into the gown fitting into the setting of the dress.

My girlfriend had her wedding at an old southern plantation house-very nice. However the dress was better suited for Las Vegas.

 

[LiftedUp]

Congrats to everyone! I'm claiming that I'll be engaged on New Years Day 2012

I want to go to a sample sale!

I'll need some sort of shawl though. I want it to be a very traditional church wedding with a lavish reception after.