The 2012 Wedding Thread

[luckiestdestiny]

Isn't it about time? Is anyone getting married in 2012, or setting their sights on marrying in 2012?

I'm excited. My thoughts on where we're marrying has evolved as well as my dress.

My date is May 2012 What about you? Or are you claiming it? Please post.

 

[loolalooh]

Congratulations, Luckiestdestiny.

No wedding plans or engagement, but I'm going to claim it! Sometime in 2012. Speaking it into existence.

Subscribing!

 

[DarkAngell]

I am!! I was originally in the 2011 thread but we postponed it to late 2012 because he's going to be joining the coast guard.

We also changed it to a destination wedding

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Congrats on claiming it! What type of wedding (modest? Local?Destination?) I'd love to hear what you are thinking about and even types of dresses you like.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I am!! I was originally in the 2011 thread but we postponed it to late 2012 because he's going to be joining the coast guard.

We also changed it to a destination wedding

Yay! Congrats on your wedding...where are you headed? I understand about changing. Our date was originally in 2011, but we decided May 2012 to have a longer honey moon (as I am also a part time grad student. I think it's best at the end of the school year).
I'm also destination.

Originally it was Jamaica (my thoughts) because it's a close flight for relatives in Ga but also an island feel. BUT after researching and going back and forth with Royal Plantation it changed.

Then I found another hotel I liked...but it was in Maya Riviera in Mexico. So now that's my choice. I am about to nail it in stone.

 

[DarkAngell]

Yay! Congrats on your wedding...where are you headed? I understand about changing. Our date was originally in 2011, but we decided 2012 to have a longer honey moon (as I am also a part time grad student. I think it's best at the end of the year).
I'm also destination.

Originally it was Jamaica (my thoughts) because it's a close flight for relatives in Ga but also an island feel. BUT after researching and going back and forth with Royal Plantation it changed.

Then I found another hotel I liked...but it was in Maya Riviera in Mexico. So now that's my choice. I am about to nail it in stone and send out invitations so that's good.

Wow sounds great! We haven't settle on a place yet but we're between dominican republic, st. thomas, st. lucia, & grand cayman. I'm pretty settled on our honeymoon being in either st. lucia, st john, or turks & caicos.

Leaning towards DR because it fits the bill so far the most. Looking for luxury all inclusive resort that allows kids and reasonably priced since my guests are not rich.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Please share your dress, or dress ideas!

Our theme was originally: Island Glamour.

As we changed to Mexico I realized the new theme:

Old Hollywood Marries In Mexico...very similar but with some fun differences to add to the environment.

DRESSES:

Too many wedding dresses + libra = changing decisions.

One thing I've learned about me is that I kinda like this, and kinda like that. BUT once in a while I'll KNOW and that's when I act. So all this time my relatives have rolled their eyes as I go from one dress to another (in magazines) and trying on.

First it was this one:

Though gorgeous something still bothered me about it (later I think it was that it didn't have a built in corset great for a really thin, small chest, or ruler type straight up and down gal but not someone with curves ...and who fluxuates about 10 pds because of thyroid issues from radioactive iodine after graves disease)

Then there was this one:

Loved the bottom and the fun flirty feel but it didn't have the glamour of the first. If only there was a way to merge them.

So finally I just scrapped it, saw a dress that actually was made in house only at kleinfeld and is rare on "say yes to the dress" wanted that original dress but had a few changes: crystal halter straps (that match the crystal in the torso of the dress), tie on satin bow (not visible in front) with brooch in middle.

So I decided to have it made and I actually plopped down my money (60 percent and rest upon completion cause of course I need to make sure it's done right). It has everything including a corset so it can mold to my curves, but also adjust with weight so yay!

The seamstress was nice enough to put up a board with changes, and also I realize I'll still make sure to have fittings to make it just right.

Oh and it's going to be in white, not the ivory seen. It supposedly will take 4-6 months to make. As she has a wait list, she won't start making it till late march. So I'll get it by late Sept/Early Oct. Then of course I will have fittings, and also if I don't like something will take it to be altered. I'll have it well in advance so that I can feel confident in knowing that I can make sure it's exactly the way I want it to be. I also looked at her previous work and it's gorgeous so I'm confident that she can recreate it.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Wow sounds great! We haven't settle on a place yet but we're between dominican republic, st. thomas, st. lucia, & grand cayman. I'm pretty settled on our honeymoon being in either st. lucia, st john, or turks & caicos.

Leaning towards DR because it fits the bill so far the most. Looking for luxury all inclusive resort that allows kids and reasonably priced since my guests are not rich.

I understand. That was my main requirement, that my guests can get there cheaply. I looked at ALL those places The smiley is because my head was spinning after all the choices. There's some wonderful places on each island so I'm sure you won't go wrong. AND island hopping should be rather easy, or who knows you might take a cruise to your honey moon destination if you decide to island hop.

 

[MrsMe]

Yay! Great minds think alike! I wanted to start a 2012 Wedding thread but was afraid it was too early. I was also a 2011 bride but we changed it so we could save enough money to get the wedding we wanted since we are paying for it by ourselves.
I'm a June 2012 bride and we have already found a place for the reception. It is huge and 10x cheaper than what we should have paid. I like the fact that we have more control over the decoration, food (we can bring our own caterer and we are planning on using a Bajan one) and time. When I first saw it on the website, I was very unimpressed but after visiting it we were hooked!
I found the photographer and videographer at low prices as well, so I am relieved that I have already dealt with the major part of the planning process.
As far as dresses are concerned, I haven't tried any dresses yet because I want to go with my mom only. I like my BM and MoH but it's something special that I want to do with her. Plus she is paying for the dress What I do know is that I don't want a ball gown or empire waist dress because these styles are not very flattering on me and tend to make me look bigger. Here are a few examples of dresses that I like (this month, lol):










This one has been my favorite for a while...




I did not want to hear about lace until I saw this dress:



LD your final dress choice is GAWJUS!!! I love it!


ETA: We are having our wedding in MA because it is where we currently live and so do most of our guests.

 

[MrsMe]

Am I a thread killer?
Bumpity bump...

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Am I a thread killer?
Bumpity bump...

Not at all! I went to the door to get some chinese food (delivery)

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Yay! Great minds think alike! I wanted to start a 2012 Wedding thread but was afraid it was too early. I was also a 2011 bride but we changed it so we could save enough money to get the wedding we wanted since we are paying for it by ourselves.
I'm a June 2012 bride and we have already found a place for the reception. It is huge and 10x cheaper than what we should have paid. I like the fact that we have more control over the decoration, food (we can bring our own caterer and we are planning on using a Bajan one) and time. When I first saw it on the website, I was very unimpressed but after visiting it we were hooked!
I found the photographer and videographer at low prices as well, so I am relieved that I have already dealt with the major part of the planning process.
As far as dresses are concerned, I haven't tried any dresses yet because I want to go with my mom only. I like my BM and MoH but it's something special that I want to do with her. Plus she is paying for the dress What I do know is that I don't want a ball gown or empire waist dress because these styles are not very flattering on me and tend to make me look bigger. Here are a few examples of dresses that I like (this month, lol):










This one has been my favorite for a while...




I did not want to hear about lace until I saw this dress:



LD your final dress choice is GAWJUS!!! I love it!


ETA: We are having our wedding in MA because it is where we currently live and so do most of our guests.

Hopefully someone else will join in too. BUT your fav I recognize I think it's simone carvalli. They have a ton of gorgeous dresses. That one was one that always jumps out whenever I look at a wedding magazine (I bought too many since I got engaged but before then none so I had no idea about planning, save the date, or anything as I wasn't the one who dreamed of a wedding since childhood w/ saved pics).

Anyhoo...love that one.

Oh and I know what you mean about lace. I was against it but then saw a few that changed my mind, and made me have to go back and forth on them because they were so beautiful. I think that I had to make a combo decision: what I want, and of course what fits my body best.

I'm sure you'll make the best decision for you (and hopefully have some fun doing it).

Congrats btw. It seems like everything is starting to flesh out for you. It's going to seem like everything is together too fast, but that's because I've had this extra time to plan (as original date 2011 now 2012).


I wish I had my photographer secured already. I had a ton that I looked into in Jamaica, but now I'm starting over again in the Riviera Maya area. There are a couple that I'm looking into, though.

 

[DarkAngell]

Those dresses are beautiful! I love the last 2 the most!

I'm between styles like these

JD1406 - by Maggie Sottero

Isadora Ann - by Maggie Sottero

Or long chiffon like this:

SD5230 - by Maggie Sottero

I'm also looking for cheaper versions so i could do the "trash the dress" pictures.

 

[loolalooh]

Congrats on claiming it! What type of wedding (modest? Local?Destination?) I'd love to hear what you are thinking about and even types of dresses you like.

Thank you for starting the thread. I already know that it's going to be modest, small and destination for the real wedding and big and local for the second one. My sister (married a couple years ago) tried to do small and local, but family friends and friends of friends of friends of family got mad at not being invited.

I'll come back with dress pics later.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Last thing for now...as I'm going to go eat...just food for thought.

I was really annoyed about some plans falling through and having to go back to square one a couple months ago. And I was getting a manicure (because my hands were torn up ha! And I kept biting my nails not pretty, something I haven't done in years...) and I ran into this lady who commented on my ring. I was like thank you. And basically she asked how the wedding planning was going, and I said it was annoying. I liked the idea of getting married but not all the planning. AND I knew I couldn't just throw something together lol because then I wouldn't like the way it turned out so I guess I just had to do it. But the idea of going through a million types of blue is not for me.

She then said something of this sort,

" I thought like that when I got married 12 years ago but now that I look back on it I wish I would've relaxed and enjoyed the ride, including the hiccups, because it's the only time in your life that you're going to get married...God willing...right? So you might as well enjoy it and allow yourself to have fun with the process. Cause the next time you'll do this is when your kids get married, if you have them".

I was like I love it when people put things into perspective. Every since then even when I get annoyed, when the wedding planner calls with a problem, I stop and remember what was said. HTH someone else

 

[loolalooh]

Please share your dress, or dress ideas!

Our theme was originally: Island Glamour.

As we changed to Mexico I realized the new theme:

Old Hollywood Marries In Mexico...very similar but with some fun differences to add to the environment.

DRESSES:

Too many wedding dresses + libra = changing decisions.

One thing I've learned about me is that I kinda like this, and kinda like that. BUT once in a while I'll KNOW and that's when I act. So all this time my relatives have rolled their eyes as I go from one dress to another (in magazines) and trying on.

First it was this one:

Though gorgeous something still bothered me about it (later I think it was that it didn't have a built in corset great for a really thin, small chest, or ruler type straight up and down gal but not someone with curves ...and who fluxuates about 10 pds because of thyroid issues from radioactive iodine after graves disease)

Then there was this one:

Loved the bottom and the fun flirty feel but it didn't have the glamour of the first. If only there was a way to merge them.

So finally I just scrapped it, saw a dress that actually was made in house only at kleinfeld and is rare on "say yes to the dress" wanted that original dress but had a few changes: crystal halter straps (that match the crystal in the torso of the dress), tie on satin bow (not visible in front) with brooch in middle.

So I decided to have it made and I actually plopped down my money (60 percent and rest upon completion cause of course I need to make sure it's done right). It has everything including a corset so it can mold to my curves, but also adjust with weight so yay!

The seamstress was nice enough to put up a board with changes, and also I realize I'll still make sure to have fittings to make it just right.

Oh and it's going to be in white, not the ivory seen. It supposedly will take 4-6 months to make. As she has a wait list, she won't start making it till late march. So I'll get it by late Sept/Early Oct. Then of course I will have fittings, and also if I don't like something will take it to be altered. I'll have it well in advance so that I can feel confident in knowing that I can make sure it's exactly the way I want it to be. I also looked at her previous work and it's gorgeous so I'm confident that she can recreate it.

Yay! Great minds think alike! I wanted to start a 2012 Wedding thread but was afraid it was too early. I was also a 2011 bride but we changed it so we could save enough money to get the wedding we wanted since we are paying for it by ourselves.
I'm a June 2012 bride and we have already found a place for the reception. It is huge and 10x cheaper than what we should have paid. I like the fact that we have more control over the decoration, food (we can bring our own caterer and we are planning on using a Bajan one) and time. When I first saw it on the website, I was very unimpressed but after visiting it we were hooked!
I found the photographer and videographer at low prices as well, so I am relieved that I have already dealt with the major part of the planning process.
As far as dresses are concerned, I haven't tried any dresses yet because I want to go with my mom only. I like my BM and MoH but it's something special that I want to do with her. Plus she is paying for the dress What I do know is that I don't want a ball gown or empire waist dress because these styles are not very flattering on me and tend to make me look bigger. Here are a few examples of dresses that I like (this month, lol):










This one has been my favorite for a while...




I did not want to hear about lace until I saw this dress:



LD your final dress choice is GAWJUS!!! I love it!


ETA: We are having our wedding in MA because it is where we currently live and so do most of our guests.

Both of you ladies have some great taste! These dresses are fabulous. I'm sure you two will make lovely brides in them.

 

[loolalooh]

Last thing for now...as I'm going to go eat...just food for thought.

I was really annoyed about some plans falling through and having to go back to square one a couple months ago. And I was getting a manicure (because my hands were torn up ha! And I kept biting my nails not pretty, something I haven't done in years...) and I ran into this lady who commented on my ring. I was like thank you. And basically she asked how the wedding planning was going, and I said it was annoying. I liked the idea of getting married but not all the planning. AND I knew I couldn't NOT plan lol because then I wouldn't like the way it turned out so I guess I just had to do it. But the idea of going through a million types of blue is not for me.

She then said something of this sort,

" I thought like that when I got married 12 years ago but now that I look back on it I wish I would've relaxed and enjoyed the ride, including the hiccups, because it's the only time in your life that you're going to get married...God willing...right? So you might as well enjoy it and allow yourself to have fun with the process. Cause the next time you'll do this is when your kids get married, if you have them".

I was like I love it when people put things into perspective. Every since then even when I get annoyed, when the wedding planner calls with a problem, I stop and remember what was said. HTH someone else

Wow, those were some wise words. Yes, enjoy the moment and have fun!

 

[DarkAngell]

Last thing for now...as I'm going to go eat...just food for thought.

I was really annoyed about some plans falling through and having to go back to square one a couple months ago. And I was getting a manicure (because my hands were torn up ha! And I kept biting my nails not pretty, something I haven't done in years...) and I ran into this lady who commented on my ring. I was like thank you. And basically she asked how the wedding planning was going, and I said it was annoying. I liked the idea of getting married but not all the planning. AND I knew I couldn't NOT plan lol because then I wouldn't like the way it turned out so I guess I just had to do it. But the idea of going through a million types of blue is not for me.

She then said something of this sort,

" I thought like that when I got married 12 years ago but now that I look back on it I wish I would've relaxed and enjoyed the ride, including the hiccups, because it's the only time in your life that you're going to get married...God willing...right? So you might as well enjoy it and allow yourself to have fun with the process. Cause the next time you'll do this is when your kids get married, if you have them".

I was like I love it when people put things into perspective. Every since then even when I get annoyed, when the wedding planner calls with a problem, I stop and remember what was said. HTH someone else

I try to tell myself this but it's hard. Originally we were going to do a destination wedding but we changed it because FH was really attached to the idea of the traditional wedding and having alllll his family there. I was never too into it because not only did I NOT want to spend the kind of money that goes into a big wedding like that (especially being in the north east) but I wasn't interested in being the center of attention & having all those people there staring at me, especially since i'd only be close to about half of them.

While planning the traditional wedding i started to get annoyed with just how many details needed my attention and found it to be annoying. Then we had issues choosing the bridal party. THEN soon after, we had issues with the people we picked. Fights with my future in laws, his arguments with his best man (who came to our engagement party buzzed, high, in jeans and a wrinkled untucked button down shirt, cuffs unbuttoned, and white dirty sneakers, & hair disheveled), and i also had a huge falling out with my sister/matron of honor. Slowly the traditional thing was no longer looking appealing to him either so he rethought things and agreed to the destination wedding. We let go of the groomsmen/bridesmaids all together ,which I'm happy about because I didn't even want a wedding party to being with, And we'll be inviting only about 50 people. Now that we changed it we've been SO much happier!!
The wedding was beginning to become about everything & everyone else BUT us.

 

[princessnad]

Great dresses ladies.

My date is June 2012 in Jamaica!

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I try to tell myself this but it's hard. Originally we were going to do a destination wedding but we changed it because FH was really attached to the idea of the traditional wedding and having alllll his family there. I was never too into it because not only did I NOT want to spend the kind of money that goes into a big wedding like that (especially being in the north east) but I wasn't interested in being the center of attention & having all those people there staring at me, especially since i'd only be close to about half of them.

While planning the traditional wedding i started to get annoyed with just how many details needed my attention and found it to be annoying. Then we had issues choosing the bridal party. THEN soon after, we had issues with the people we picked. Fights with my future in laws, his arguments with his best man (who came to our engagement party buzzed, high, in jeans and a wrinkled untucked button down shirt, cuffs unbuttoned, and white dirty sneakers, & hair disheveled), and i also had a huge falling out with my sister/matron of honor. Slowly the traditional thing was no longer looking appealing to him either so he rethought things and agreed to the destination wedding. We let go of the groomsmen/bridesmaids all together ,which I'm happy about because I didn't even want a wedding party to being with, And we'll be inviting only about 50 people. Now that we changed it we've been SO much happier!!
The wedding was beginning to become about everything & everyone else BUT us.

That's unfortuate. And what was the best man thinking? Sorry to hear about your sis, BUT I'm glad that you've made some choices that made you happy.

Sounds like you've made a good decision. I wonder if there's anyone out there w/o family drama? Some of my relatives have gotten mad that my fiance's a doctor. I heard snide comments. AND then I think how can it be avoided because it's not like I'm bragging...If some people ask what does your man do for a living what can I say. I can't win for losing. And I don't think it's a big deal but they sure make sure to let me know so I don't act "siddy" or whatever that is. Meanwhile when I was younger they were always picking at me and calling me uppity anyways cause I grew up in Germany (don't have a southern accent, etc). So they've been waiting to prove that I'm stuck up forever. And that's not everyone by a long shot but some are like that.

I do have some very supportive family members too, but definitely some catty ones. When I went to a film festival last year for my script they didn't even congratulate me. BUT I'm the first one to call when I hear about their achievements or to offer encouragement when they're down.

I'm pretty much the supportive person who cheers on others so I don't get it but whatever. I'm trying to just focus on my fiance and I and let all the b.s fall to the side.

Immediate family is a lot better, with both sides pretty happy so that's great. BUT I knew not to let my dad get involved (paying) or else I'd be in for a fight because he'd try to control everything.

We'll probably have about 50 (or more guests as we decided to invite more)-80 depending on who can show.

The good thing about the area is it's 20 minutes from cancun so the flights will be super cheap for everyone (and they were going to have to fly and stay in a hotel anyways as they're from all over the country).

Oh and I like the part you mentioned about making about "us" the bride and groom. That's what I'm focusing on too. It does put things into perspective and makes things happier for sure

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Great dresses ladies.

My date is June 2012 in Jamaica!

Okay Princessnad congrats but I wanna see some dresses....even if you haven't decided please post some of your favs.

 

[princessnad]

I really don't have any picks just yet. I've been more caught up on picking the venue and thinking of decor ideas/ checking prices for vendors.

I'll be checking some out soon though.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Hey ladies, Please post even if you're throwing out ideas, had a road block, trying to decide on ettiquette, or whatever. I think it'll be a fun 2012 wedding scrap book of sorts if we do it this way.

Okay I love her bouquet and bird cage. I want a birdcage similar but different flower fascinator (maybe one with crystals, etc), and I may even have a duster in the back (short veil attached but I have to see how that'll look. I saw someone pull it off.

or this birdcage w/ crystal detailing

They can be adjusted to be close to the head, or a little room in between.I'll want it looser like that as my hair will be down.

Oh and I went through million hair variations (half up and down, etc) But then I found I like oldhollywood but in a modern way. So I really like this one (and will do: IF I bring a hairstylist/friend or If someone recommended in the area [from a natural on bestdestinationwedding.com] can flat iron natural hair correctly and create these waves. Otherwise it will be a big braid out. I'm about an inch from wl from my recent length check and that's after cutting out tons of layers I didn't want. I still want to cut another inch or two so I should have a nice wl by June if all is well,and hopefully be gearing to tbl or hl by next year if all goes well...with my thyroid it's a chop salad as my hair is super dry every since it started, coupled w/ anemia So I never know what to expect w/ set backs if my thyroid swings I have to cut to make sure it looks good) Without further ado here's the idea of hair w/ birdcage

 

[MrsMe]

Hopefully someone else will join in too. BUT your fav I recognize I think it's simone carvalli. They have a ton of gorgeous dresses. That one was one that always jumps out whenever I look at a wedding magazine (I bought too many since I got engaged but before then none so I had no idea about planning, save the date, or anything as I wasn't the one who dreamed of a wedding since childhood w/ saved pics).

Anyhoo...love that one.

Oh and I know what you mean about lace. I was against it but then saw a few that changed my mind, and made me have to go back and forth on them because they were so beautiful. I think that I had to make a combo decision: what I want, and of course what fits my body best.

I'm sure you'll make the best decision for you (and hopefully have some fun doing it).

Congrats btw. It seems like everything is starting to flesh out for you. It's going to seem like everything is together too fast, but that's because I've had this extra time to plan (as original date 2011 now 2012).


I wish I had my photographer secured already. I had a ton that I looked into in Jamaica, but now I'm starting over again in the Riviera Maya area. There are a couple that I'm looking into, though.

At the bolded: that was me!! I did not want to plan anything or think about what I would like until I got engaged. Long story short, I didn't want to jinx myself...
But as soon as I got engaged, it was on!! I have one for every season. I have to stop myself (or my FI does) whenever we go to the store before I buy a whole rack!!
As far as photographers, you still have a few months ahead of you to find one. Have you tried TheKnot.com? I used to go on that website EVERYDAY... I had to stop because I was getting too addicted.

Those dresses are beautiful! I love the last 2 the most!

I'm between styles like these

JD1406 - by Maggie Sottero

Isadora Ann - by Maggie Sottero

Or long chiffon like this:

SD5230 - by Maggie Sottero

I'm also looking for cheaper versions so i could do the "trash the dress" pictures.

I love ALL of your dresses! The short ones are so unique yet elegant!
At the bolded: one of my friends bought her second dress on www.lightinthebox.com and it fit her really well...and it was under $200.

I try to tell myself this but it's hard. Originally we were going to do a destination wedding but we changed it because FH was really attached to the idea of the traditional wedding and having alllll his family there. I was never too into it because not only did I NOT want to spend the kind of money that goes into a big wedding like that (especially being in the north east) but I wasn't interested in being the center of attention & having all those people there staring at me, especially since i'd only be close to about half of them.

While planning the traditional wedding i started to get annoyed with just how many details needed my attention and found it to be annoying. Then we had issues choosing the bridal party. THEN soon after, we had issues with the people we picked. Fights with my future in laws, his arguments with his best man (who came to our engagement party buzzed, high, in jeans and a wrinkled untucked button down shirt, cuffs unbuttoned, and white dirty sneakers, & hair disheveled), and i also had a huge falling out with my sister/matron of honor. Slowly the traditional thing was no longer looking appealing to him either so he rethought things and agreed to the destination wedding. We let go of the groomsmen/bridesmaids all together ,which I'm happy about because I didn't even want a wedding party to being with, And we'll be inviting only about 50 people. Now that we changed it we've been SO much happier!!
The wedding was beginning to become about everything & everyone else BUT us.

This was a blessing in disguise. You will not have negative people who are not truly happy about your union on your special day!
I haven't had any drama yet but I'm sure it's going to happen...between my sister who totally ignores my engagement and FH's 110 guests vs. my 20 guests, it will come eventually.

Both of you ladies have some great taste! These dresses are fabulous. I'm sure you two will make lovely brides in them.

Thanks! I'm sure you will look wonderful as well!

 

[glamazon386]

September 2012 here!

 

[glamazon386]

I try to tell myself this but it's hard. Originally we were going to do a destination wedding but we changed it because FH was really attached to the idea of the traditional wedding and having alllll his family there. I was never too into it because not only did I NOT want to spend the kind of money that goes into a big wedding like that (especially being in the north east) but I wasn't interested in being the center of attention & having all those people there staring at me, especially since i'd only be close to about half of them.

While planning the traditional wedding i started to get annoyed with just how many details needed my attention and found it to be annoying. Then we had issues choosing the bridal party. THEN soon after, we had issues with the people we picked. Fights with my future in laws, his arguments with his best man (who came to our engagement party buzzed, high, in jeans and a wrinkled untucked button down shirt, cuffs unbuttoned, and white dirty sneakers, & hair disheveled), and i also had a huge falling out with my sister/matron of honor. Slowly the traditional thing was no longer looking appealing to him either so he rethought things and agreed to the destination wedding. We let go of the groomsmen/bridesmaids all together ,which I'm happy about because I didn't even want a wedding party to being with, And we'll be inviting only about 50 people. Now that we changed it we've been SO much happier!!
The wedding was beginning to become about everything & everyone else BUT us.

This is what I'm afraid of. We decided to do a destination wedding because neither of us really deal with our extended family like that. Those who are close to us will be there and that will be it. I don't want a wedding party.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

September 2012 here!

Yay congrats glamazon386! Any pics of dresses, hairstyles, venues yet? Even just beginning stuff will do wonders.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Still debating between having more maids or just a maid of honor (cause she's amazing) and then my fiance would have his best friend a best man. He said it's up to me. That depending on how many I choose, will depend on how many he chooses (to match them up evenly).

Originally I wanted none but couldn't leave my bestie hanging like that. Plus she's so easy to get along with (and bless her heart she hates dresses and said, "I'll wear whatever you put me in it's your day...heck I'll even wear pink" and she hates pic. FYI I was thinking I wanted a dark pink, but was going to veer away cause she hates it. That was so nice of her to say).

I don't know if I want to deal with a larger bridal party.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

At the bolded: that was me!! I did not want to plan anything or think about what I would like until I got engaged. Long story short, I didn't want to jinx myself...
But as soon as I got engaged, it was on!! I have one for every season. I have to stop myself (or my FI does) whenever we go to the store before I buy a whole rack!!
As far as photographers, you still have a few months ahead of you to find one. Have you tried TheKnot.com? I used to go on that website EVERYDAY... I had to stop because I was getting too addicted.

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Haven't looked at the knot much but have racked up a bill on wedding mags. Always a new one, and some wonderful idea on it, and off I go to buy it.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

...wondering if I'm wishing on a star with my hair holding in that humidity. BUT my hairdresser from Ca (who I'd fly in if she's available) is known for making a press last 3 wks so I think she can swing it.