that's what divorce is for

Dee-Licious

Dee-Licious

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so i'm sitting in class on facebook chat

a dude i know who got married less than 6 months ago starts shooting the breeze. I finally ask him how's married life.

Fool first says "It's married life I mean what else can I say...hell as long as I am just sticking her I will be disease free"

After I start saying I'm sure there are more benefits and less hassle he goes on to say "It's good for the moment" :perplexed

I'm like errauh um, it's called marriage aka forever

dude hits me back with "That's what divorce is for" :wallbash:


whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy get married if you think of divorce as a back-up plan?

is there something my un-married self is just not understanding... do married people keep divorce in the back of their mind as a way out so it's not really that serious? or is this just a jackass?
 
I honestly dont know. Some people start marriage with the bags already packed and one foot out the door. Alot of people feel the way your friend feels about marriage men and women. They really are not committed to staying married or see any real benefits of marriage.

Dude sounds like an arsehole. I feel sorry for the wife. I hope they don't have kids :ohwell:
 
he sounds like he is just a jack ass :laugh: But, sadly he is not the only person that thinks that way. IMO, people that think that way often got married for the wrong reasons.
 
98% of married people I know keep divorce at the front of their minds.

I was taught this and it took me being married for years to finally get that marriage can last and you can be happily married.
 
dlewis said:
98% of married people I know keep divorce at the front of their minds.

I was taught this and it took me being married for years to finally get that marriage can last and you can be happily married.
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Right. People go into marriage, again with instant gratification, thnking that if the least little thing happens, they're OUT. You should enter into a marriage with the idea that, that's it, you can't get it out, you have to work it out.

That's why I think rranged and convenant marriages have a good premise, they teach you that entering into marriage is forever, so you can't even have that mindset.
 
He sounds like a really great husband.:rolleyes:

I wonder if his wife pressure him to tie the knot.:ohwell: With an attitude like his why not just stay single.
 
dlewis said:
98% of married people I know keep divorce at the front of their minds.

I was taught this and it took me being married for years to finally get that marriage can last and you can be happily married.
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true... and especially within the 1st year... every argument had me thinking WTF did I get myself into... 10 years later I STILL ask myself the same damn question knowing I aint going nowhere....

sounds to me like he is just BSing online... doesnt really MEAN what he says verbatim... its kinda a jokey joke thing

I always say things like that in IMs to folks... in fact, on one of my profiles, under married status I have : "I keep my Jewish lawyer on speed dial"

it doesnt mean anything....
 
SkinteeDee said:
so i'm sitting in class on facebook chat

a dude i know who got married less than 6 months ago starts shooting the breeze. I finally ask him how's married life.

Fool first says "It's married life I mean what else can I say...hell as long as I am just sticking her I will be disease free"

After I start saying I'm sure there are more benefits and less hassle he goes on to say "It's good for the moment" :perplexed

I'm like errauh um, it's called marriage aka forever

dude hits me back with "That's what divorce is for" :wallbash:


whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy get married if you think of divorce as a back-up plan?

is there something my un-married self is just not understanding... do married people keep divorce in the back of their mind as a way out so it's not really that serious? or is this just a jackass?
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You are COMPLETELY right that people should not get married if divorce is in their mind as a plan B. IMO, if someone honestly doesn't think they can be with someone for forever and a day, they shouldn't walk down the aisle in the first place. :nono:

To answer your question, he is a jerk. If being with his wife is that loathsome, he should have done her a favor by leaving her available so that she could find someone who was truly interested in marrying her.
 
PassionFruit said:
true... and especially within the 1st year... every argument had me thinking WTF did I get myself into... 10 years later I STILL ask myself the same damn question knowing I aint going nowhere....

sounds to me like he is just BSing online... doesnt really MEAN what he says verbatim... its kinda a jokey joke thing

I always say things like that in IMs to folks... in fact, on one of my profiles, under married status I have : "I keep my Jewish lawyer on speed dial"

it doesnt mean anything....
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i really hope so... but knowing this guy.. eh, prob not the case
 
dlewis said:
98% of married people I know keep divorce at the front of their minds.

I was taught this and it took me being married for years to finally get that marriage can last and you can be happily married.
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Ooooo I know that's right:grin: I've been married 22 years and want a divorce weekly:lachen::lachen::lachen:
PassionFruit said:
true... and especially within the 1st year... every argument had me thinking WTF did I get myself into... 10 years later I STILL ask myself the same damn question knowing I aint going nowhere....
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And that folks is marriage in a nutshell!!!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
Then you remember that you really do love him and he really IS a good man and you push towards another day:grin:
 
Ms.Honey said:
Ooooo I know that's right:grin: I've been married 22 years and want a divorce weekly:lachen::lachen::lachen:


And that folks is marriage in a nutshell!!!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
Then you remember that you really do love him and he really IS a good man and you push towards another day:grin:
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OMFG.... Im showing this to DH... he says I ask him for a divorce EVERY WEEK and I say he is crazy... I knew I wasnt the ONLY ONE!!!

He thinks I ask for a divorce so we can ignore each other all day then have make-up sex all night... freaking know-it-all
 
I bet this knucklehead is only showing off. I bet he goes home and is all "Yes, Dear!" "Whatever you like, Dear!" He needs his ass beat. One of those "syllable beatings". :rolleyes:
 
PassionFruit said:
OMFG.... Im showing this to DH... he says I ask him for a divorce EVERY WEEK and I say he is crazy... I knew I wasnt the ONLY ONE!!!

He thinks I ask for a divorce so we can ignore each other all day then have make-up sex all night... freaking know-it-all
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:

I think of back yard BBQ when I see your siggy.
 
DSP said:
I bet this knucklehead is only showing off. I bet he goes home and is all "Yes, Dear!" "Whatever you like, Dear!" He needs his ass beat. One of those "syllable beatings". :rolleyes:
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one of those

you.......bet......ta...........get..............yo...............butt.............in there...............and...........do ...............what................I .............say.

Do you hear me?
 
dlewis said:
one of those

you.......bet......ta...........get..............yo...............butt.............in there...............and...........do ...............what................I .............say.

Do you hear me?
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I KNEW you'd know what I meant! Y'all don't play!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
Sounds like a jerk. Now granted, I'm still a newlywed, but when I went into marriage I did so with the mindset that this is permanent, come rain or come shine. Most people seem to think that marriage vows are only a suggestion to be followed as long as it's convenient. :perplexed
 
Ms.Honey said:
Ooooo I know that's right:grin: I've been married 22 years and want a divorce weekly:lachen::lachen::lachen:


And that folks is marriage in a nutshell!!!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
Then you remember that you really do love him and he really IS a good man and you push towards another day:grin:
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Girl, I ask for one at least every 4 months:lachen:Its going down, it used to be weekly *wipes brow* we made it to nine years, so we'll see :lol:
 
DSP said:
I bet this knucklehead is only showing off. I bet he goes home and is all "Yes, Dear!" "Whatever you like, Dear!" He needs his ass beat. One of those "syllable beatings". :rolleyes:
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I was kinda thnking that too, acting like he's not in love..... like this is his little side game, he's probably wonder-husband at home:rolleyes:
 
DSP said:
I bet this knucklehead is only showing off. I bet he goes home and is all "Yes, Dear!" "Whatever you like, Dear!" He needs his ass beat. One of those "syllable beatings". :rolleyes:
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same dude i posted about a while back who wanted a girl for the 3 months til his wedding, then they would stop, so IDK :ohwell:
 
SkinteeDee said:
not shot gun.

don't think so... he has tried wayyyyyyyyy back.. has always referred to me as "Boo" before and after the wedding :perplexed

i don't like him like that at all
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Warning: You may not like this!

I'm just wondering, seeing how he caught slick with you before, why are you

1) Still talking to him
2) Talking with a MARRIED man on FB in a private setting
3) Seemingly pursuing information of his marriage and it's state.

It kinda seems like you are wanting to hera how bad his marriage was/is.
 
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