that's what divorce is for

[Dee-Licious]

Warning: You may not like this!

I'm just wondering, seeing how he caught slick with you before, why are you

1) Still talking to him
2) Talking with a MARRIED man on FB in a private setting
3) Seemingly pursuing information of his marriage and it's state.

It kinda seems like you are wanting to hera how bad his marriage was/is.

no warning needed... i don't mind

1. still talking to him... uh, i dont' talk to him we don't even have each other's numbers
2. i didn't consider it private or anything serious since everybody says hey how bored are you at work/in class on facebook chat
3. i ask everyone newly married how's married life because as many know here I sooooooo wanna be in a loving marriage. I think it's ideal and i want the same thing for everyone else

I wanted to hear him say marriage is great and I hope you find the one so you can be happily married if you want the truth.

I shut him down a loooooong time ago and he never tried to come slick at me again. We were cool or a long while prior to that so I let it go.

 

[Kimberly]

I knew a young couple (many years ago) who never mixed their money for anything. And, when they were decorating their new home, they each bought items separately. When I asked her why they didn't get together to pay for the livingroom furniture she wanted, she told me because should they get divorced, he was to take the things he paid for and she was going to take the things she paid for. That doing it that way kept down the confusion.

I wondered then, and I had not gotten married myself yet, why go into a marriage planning for the divorce?

 

[Theo]

Oh.... sounds like some of my friends. They act COMPLETELY different when their girls in the room though.

 

[PassionFruit]

I knew a young couple (many years ago) who never mixed their money for anything. And, when they were decorating their new home, they each bought items separately. When I asked her why they didn't get together to pay for the livingroom furniture she wanted, she told me because should they get divorced, he was to take the things he paid for and she was going to take the things she paid for. That doing it that way kept down the confusion.

I wondered then, and I had not gotten married myself yet, why go into a marriage planning for the divorce?

it may not be traditional but many folks in HAPPY marriages dont mix money... gives em less to worry & argue about

 

[thatscuteright]

true... and especially within the 1st year... every argument had me thinking WTF did I get myself into... 10 years later I STILL ask myself the same damn question knowing I aint going nowhere....

sounds to me like he is just BSing online... doesnt really MEAN what he says verbatim... its kinda a jokey joke thing

I always say things like that in IMs to folks... in fact, on one of my profiles, under married status I have : "I keep my Jewish lawyer on speed dial"

it doesnt mean anything....

ITA. I think he was just trying to be funny. I would not take him seriously.
He probably is commited and isn't going anywhere.

 

[Dee-Licious]

He probably is commited and isn't going anywhere.

I reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally hope so!!!

i told him divorce is a figment of his imagination and signed off

 

[Kimberly]

it may not be traditional but many folks in HAPPY marriages dont mix money... gives em less to worry & argue about

I agree but you can not mix money and still go half on a couch.

 

[MissScarlett]

I knew a young couple (many years ago) who never mixed their money for anything. And, when they were decorating their new home, they each bought items separately. When I asked her why they didn't get together to pay for the livingroom furniture she wanted, she told me because should they get divorced, he was to take the things he paid for and she was going to take the things she paid for. That doing it that way kept down the confusion.

I wondered then, and I had not gotten married myself yet, why go into a marriage planning for the divorce?

Any person I knwo that has done this, split stuff like roomates, always gets divorced. Always. They are thinking with two minds, not one, so it never works.