I really wanted to say something when I first read this yesterday but I didn't know how to put it without being harsh and I wanted to see what others wrote. I was surprised by so many people appearing to be ok with this. I'm a pretty liberal person on most topics but this I can't be liberal on. If I had a 17 year old daughter there is no way I would allow her to date a 22 year old. I think your focus should be on your education and figuring out what career path you want to follow.
Have you graduated high school yet? Hopefully at 22 he has graduated college or close to graduating, career bound, etc... What could you two possibly have in common? I just think a relationship like this could take your focus away from things that really matter: college, career,
finding yourself. Sorry, JMHO.[/quote]
ITA!!!!!
There is a lot of truth in the balance of the life stages. Most ladies can honestly say there is a big difference in the girl they were at 17 and the women they developed into at 22. At 17 I remember feeling like I was the most mature person in the world, and my 20 year old boyfriend at the time felt I was mature too. And things were beautiful for the 2 years we dated...And honestly he was a nice guy, but the person he fell in love with was just embarking on life, and even though I thought I was so mature, I still had a lot of growing and developing to do as a person. Not that I was being wild and crazy, but I mean we all have to grow up and learn more things about who we really are ,, and what we really want out of life...what seemed cool at 17, started getting old, as I got older.
To the OP, I remember being 17/18..I was just starting college and enjoying the freedom of doing my own thing. I'm not trying to spoil your fun or your chance at romance, but you need to be VERY CAREFUL with dating guys older than you. Especially if you are about to start your education and he is about to be finished or has already finished. Being at different places in life usually yields different perspectives about things and sometimes that alone causes major problems...not at first, but as the relationship progresses, it will come out.
One of my biggest regrets was choosing to be in relationships when I was in college. So many people would tell me, oh you should just do your work and have some fun, don't worry about entertaining boyfriends...but I was too busy being "in love" to listen. Focus on YOU! It will make a world of difference!
And that whole issue with older guys and being controlling over someone younger ...especially when when the young lady is still a teenager,
its true.
If you still feel that this guy is the one for you, the best advice I can give you is to just be friends right now and just see how things play out. If it is meant for you two to be together, then it will happen one day so take your time. But at least wait until you are 18 to pursue anything serious. Don't get so caught up that you ignore the law. You are still a minor at 17..And your parents can press charges against him.