So what color/culture is your man?

[madamdot]

Well, I think we've established that half the board is NOT married to white men. (just as I thought.)
Carry on, carry on.

My fiance is white. I'm from Jamaica.

Nah, I dont think half board is married to white men, but more than one would initially suspect. Also there is a feel of some offense at the "I could never date a white guy. . ." comments. Simply because it seems personal when its not. When you love someone you cant imagine not loving them too.

I know my guy feels the same way about others who say "I could never date a black woman . . . "

 

[Cichelle]

My husband is Israeli.

 

[mzlatisha]

My fiance is white- in fact all my significant relationships have been with white men, but there was some pretty passionate ones with the latinos!!

although i havent been with a latino ever..i did share some pretty intense flirting with one.. a few years back...and i think he would have wore me out...he would look at me like he saw me naked before...woooo i shudder to think about it..LOL

as i am passionate...i am black and latino..

but my SO is african american.

 

[Cien]

My sweetie is Latino!!

Cuban/Dominican/Puerto Rican. And he is tall, sexy and just FINE! FINE! FINE!!!

I love that man!!!

 

[Suri]

My bf is mulatto (italian/black) he's a sweetheart and what a looker

This guy that I go out with sometimes is bengladeshi, very smart and funny as hell.

Guy's I have dated in the past have all been latino's or west indian it's so nice to have variety.

 

[Cooyah]

my SO is black west indian/bahamian tall dark and just DAMN, made me break my promise to only date my jcans

 

[Spidergul]

Me and my hubby are Negroes.

Well my birth certificate says "NEGRO", he is a little older. He's "COLORED".

.....she said Negros...and colored

This brings to mind a story from a few years ago, my boss at the time a white man, was telling us a story about a colored man-I forget the story-but I asked him 'what color was he', he turned red as a beet.

My husband is fine with me.

 

[winterinatl]

Mine is black, a big handsome ole' 'Bama boy.

 

[andreab]

My man is African American and so am I.

 

[amy1234]

I know this sounds corny but: he's my (black) american king, and I'm his Jamaican Queena!

 

[jwhitley6]

My Honey is:
High Yellow (color) / African American from the Mid-West (culture).

I'm surprised how many of us here have non-black SOs. My ex-BF is mixed with white/colombian, but everybody (including him) thought he was creole/ part black or something. I hung in there close to 3 years but the cultural differences were too much for me and I had to go back to black.

Actually he was the cause of my biggest hair disaster --I put in a relaxer for the first time ever and my hair fell out. Had to do a HUGE chop (from shoulders to ears). Never again.

 

[SwtnLow]

My husband is African from Central African Republic. I'm Black American.

 

[Nightingale]

My DH is German-American. His grandfather and Great-Grandfather were Nazi SS officers!

They would be rolling in thier graves if they ever saw lil' old me!

WOW! I would have trouble with a man with this kind of history.

 

[facets]

I don't have a man. I am saved and abstinent. I am vaguely curious as to white men that are attracted to us black women so occasionally I may "flirt" with one but never anything serious.

I just came across an interracial dating group on google

Black women/white men...hopefully the wave for the future


I think it is funny how some of them have a "thing" for us and I never really paid attention much before. I could never see myself dating a white guy seriously ever in my entire life but possibly a latino or maybe certain asians or mixes. I prefer black and african men and I will be searching aggressively for one before I "give up" and give in to other races of men.

slightly OT, but is this still the majority perception?.., the non-'black' man as consolation prize..also ran/runner up? wow. I got that from a friend when i married my first husband but that was in 89.

 

[*Happily Me*]

slightly OT, but is this still the majority perception?.., the non-'black' man as consolation prize..also ran/runner up? wow. I got that from a friend when i married my first husband but that was in 89.

please don't stone me... but, yes... for me a non-colored man is the runner up.

Let me clarify... I like black men, indo/paki and middle eastern men. I prefer non-americans to american. White guys are always the last choice for me although I do find some of them attractive.

I've actually dated a few and I was sorta interested in a Russian man at my job until i found out he was married. That's in another thread though...

Funny thing is each time I was out with a white guy on a date, I felt like others where looking at me like I was a wh@re. I know... My thinking is messed up and dated in regards to this. But, I did feel this way.

When I see an attactive black woman with a white man, i almost feel sad... Like, dayum. She settled. I know this thought is not PC and I know that some of my lhcf sisters are in IR and are geniunely happy.

I really don't want to offend anyone... I just wanted to let this out... I hope that I can gain insight as to why I feel this way... and perhaps change this way of thinking.

 

[felicia]

please don't stone me... but, yes... for me a non-colored man is the runner up.

Let me clarify... I like black men, indo/paki and middle eastern men. I prefer non-americans to american. White guys are always the last choice for me although I do find some of them attractive.

I've actually dated a few and I was sorta interested in a Russian man at my job until i found out he was married. That's in another thread though...

Funny thing is each time I was out with a white guy on a date, I felt like others where looking at me like I was a wh@re. I know... My thinking is messed up and dated in regards to this. But, I did feel this way.

When I see an attactive black woman with a white man, i almost feel sad... Like, dayum. She settled. I know this thought is not PC and I know that some of my lhcf sisters are in IR and are geniunely happy.

I really don't want to offend anyone... I just wanted to let this out... I hope that I can gain insight as to why I feel this way... and perhaps change this way of thinking.

why do you feel as though we've settled

 

[madamdot]

please don't stone me... but, yes... for me a non-colored man is the runner up.

Let me clarify... I like black men, indo/paki and middle eastern men. I prefer non-americans to american. White guys are always the last choice for me although I do find some of them attractive.

I've actually dated a few and I was sorta interested in a Russian man at my job until i found out he was married. That's in another thread though...

Funny thing is each time I was out with a white guy on a date, I felt like others where looking at me like I was a wh@re. I know... My thinking is messed up and dated in regards to this. But, I did feel this way.

When I see an attactive black woman with a white man, i almost feel sad... Like, dayum. She settled. I know this thought is not PC and I know that some of my lhcf sisters are in IR and are geniunely happy.

I really don't want to offend anyone... I just wanted to let this out... I hope that I can gain insight as to why I feel this way... and perhaps change this way of thinking.

I think is because there really still is a stigma that all a white man ever wants from a black woman is sex. So if you are wondering that at the back of your mind and you think others are thinking the same thing, it is really difficult to get pass it.

Your comment is pretty much the reason I say it is important to live for yourself because someone will always have an opinion that has nothing to do with you at all. Its only natural. For instance when I met my guy I thought he "looked" like the kind of guy who had never set foot outside his hometown or dated outside his race before and was just being curious, not the type of guy I like because I have travelled all over the world and met all kinds of people and intended to keep doing so. Well turned out he's travelled to more places than I have been, know more people and have dated a wider variety than I have. You cant tell by looking.

I have met some FOINE black men in life. I am from Jamaica and everytime I go home there is some serious drooling going on and I have never lacked for male attention of any color, and obviously I get more attention from black men, but I would never, ever give up this guy for anyone.

I have never met another person who understands me better and loves me the way he does.. He turned into my best friend. In fact he has done more for my security as a woman and as a black woman than anyone has because I am allowed to be myself in every way.

I would recommend this to anyone. Not "this" as in a relationship with a WM, but this as in someone who loves you for who you are inside and out. No matter what your SO looks like if you are not allowed to be yourself and I mean your honest to goodness self, then you have indeed settled.

OK - getting off the soapbox and gonna go call my honey

 

[facets]

please don't stone me... but, yes... for me a non-colored man is the runner up.

Let me clarify... I like black men, indo/paki and middle eastern men. I prefer non-americans to american. White guys are always the last choice for me although I do find some of them attractive.

I've actually dated a few and I was sorta interested in a Russian man at my job until i found out he was married. That's in another thread though...

Funny thing is each time I was out with a white guy on a date, I felt like others where looking at me like I was a wh@re. I know... My thinking is messed up and dated in regards to this. But, I did feel this way.

When I see an attactive black woman with a white man, i almost feel sad... Like, dayum. She settled. I know this thought is not PC and I know that some of my lhcf sisters are in IR and are geniunely happy.

I really don't want to offend anyone... I just wanted to let this out... I hope that I can gain insight as to why I feel this way... and perhaps change this way of thinking.

no prob..i've relatives who are the same way.lol! dunno what to say, Dsylla. mwahaha... more white menz for me?!!
j/kidding

i do prefer foreign men (of any color) over Americans. so there's my prejudice...Many of them seem more mature/sophisticated/well-traveled for their age than American men.

 

[*Happily Me*]

no prob..i've relatives who are the same way.lol! dunno what to say, Dsylla. mwahaha... more white menz for me?!!
j/kidding

i do prefer foreign men (of any color) over Americans. so there's my prejudice...Many of them seem more mature/sophisticated/well-traveled for their age than American men.

ha haa. you're too funny.

I know i have some hangups... I'd prolly have more men to date if I could just let go and be a bit more open.

oh well.. in time i guess

 

[*Happily Me*]

I think is because there really still is a stigma that all a white man ever wants from a black woman is sex. So if you are wondering that at the back of your mind and you think others are thinking the same thing, it is really difficult to get pass it.

Your comment is pretty much the reason I say it is important to live for yourself because someone will always have an opinion that has nothing to do with you at all. Its only natural. For instance when I met my guy I thought he "looked" like the kind of guy who had never set foot outside his hometown or dated outside his race before and was just being curious, not the type of guy I like because I have travelled all over the world and met all kinds of people and intended to keep doing so. Well turned out he's travelled to more places than I have been, know more people and have dated a wider variety than I have. You cant tell by looking.

I have met some FOINE black men in life. I am from Jamaica and everytime I go home there is some serious drooling going on and I have never lacked for male attention of any color, and obviously I get more attention from black men, but I would never, ever give up this guy for anyone.

I have never met another person who understands me better and loves me the way he does.. He turned into my best friend. In fact he has done more for my security as a woman and as a black woman than anyone has because I am allowed to be myself in every way.

I would recommend this to anyone. Not "this" as in a relationship with a WM, but this as in someone who loves you for who you are inside and out. No matter what your SO looks like if you are not allowed to be yourself and I mean your honest to goodness self, then you have indeed settled.

OK - getting off the soapbox and gonna go call my honey

It may be in the back of my mind that all a white man want from us is sex, and all we want from them is money... i know... it's sick.

Hearing from women like you, rozlips, kaygeebee and a few others on the forum and in real life who are in happy IR relationship with white men is making me see things a little differently.

I would talk to a white man but I have to admit that I'd be a bit embarrassed to be seem out on public holding hands with one.

Believe me, I would like to get over this... There as some seriously cute Analysts on my job.

 

[FlowerHair]

Life is so short ladies.
If you can find someone to love who loves you back and you can live together - go for it! No matter his color...

 

[madamdot]

It may be in the back of my mind that all a white man want from us is sex, and all we want from them is money... i know... it's sick.

Hearing from women like you, rozlips, kaygeebee and a few others on the forum and in real life who are in happy IR relationship with white men is making me see things a little differently.

I would talk to a white man but I have to admit that I'd be a bit embarrassed to be seem out on public holding hands with one.

Believe me, I would like to get over this... There as some seriously cute Analysts on my job.

Dont worry about it, as I said be with someone you love and you are comfortable with. Just be open minded about people in general and the rest will fall into place.

Wishing everyone (including myself) happy love

 

[macherieamour]

First, please dont apologize for sharing your feelings. You feel how you feel

Second, I too felt weird when I started dating my boyfriend. I thought people would look at me and be like...AWWW come on SISTA. I would always be looking over my shoulder, averting the eyes of black men, and assuming that everyone was judging us.

I soon learned that...........No one cares. Aint no body worried about me and my man. I remember we were in Virgin Megastore and we were walking down the stairs and this group of black men were coming up. I was soo expecting a snide comment. They stopped and said to my bf, "SMILE..youre with beautiful woman".

I mean, it also does help that my bf is 6'3, over 200 lbs.....

 

[facets]

First, please dont apologize for sharing your feelings. You feel how you feel

Second, I too felt weird when I started dating my boyfriend. I thought people would look at me and be like...AWWW come on SISTA. I would always be looking over my shoulder, averting the eyes of black men, and assuming that everyone was judging us.

I soon learned that...........No one cares. Aint no body worried about me and my man. I remember we were in Virgin Megastore and we were walking down the stairs and this group of black men were coming up. I was soo expecting a snide comment. They stopped and said to my bf, "SMILE..youre with beautiful woman".

I mean, it also does help that my bf is 6'3, over 200 lbs.....

that reminds me of being in Berkeley years ago and a bunch of young Af-Am guys we passed called out "Is that your girl?!" dh(at the time we were just dating) was like "uh... yes". "well you better hold on to her!..She look *good*!" etc. kinda laughing, congrats. & stuff. Hard to explain exactly, but it was a really funny moment.
**

also, occasionally we encounter some sort of serious 'thug-life' kind of af-am guys and for a sec. i'm like '..hmmm...' but i think it's more of a test to see if you'll speak or not. well, we always speak and it's been fine there too.

Besides, in the Bay Area...so many black men(of all kinds) date "outside" that it's unreal.
for the most part, ppl don't care(save some hard looks from 'white' and Asian women in the S.F. Bay Area)... they care even less in Europe.

 

[Caramela]

Life is so short ladies.
If you can find someone to love who loves you back and you can live together - go for it! No matter his color...

Beautifully put.

 

[Valerie]

Glad to hear you ladies are in loving relationships. I wish you all the best!

 

[blackbarbie]

SO is black and so am I, but I can not forget my ex, who was Bajan and FOIN as aged wine!!!!

 

[loonatick]

I am Black British (1/2 Jamaica 1/2 Barbados) and my baby is Nigerian (British) and i love African men

 

[meia]

my boyfriend is half puerto rican half black and i'm a quarter rican and 75% black were so much alike!
the funny part is that we get along so well even with our little quirks and differences. i'll just pick him up and throw his lil skinny tall a** around and then we don't fight anymore lol it's a win-win situation. People try to make me feel like i don't deserve him because he's lighter and has very hispanic features. i get girls of all races disrespecting me because of it...and honestly, as long as i love him it matters not to me.. those girls just better keep it to themselves. because i'll love him anyways..

 

[PinkPeony]

I`am half mocambiquen and half german,my DH is white american.
He`s a country boy ,a geek,nerd,loves country and is the love of my life.


But seriously,I would never thought that I would date a guy like him.This whole cowboy mentality and the music...ugh,I used to laugh about cowboys and stuff.
Now I have to listen to it whenever we take a drive somewhere... I guess payback is a b***