So My Husband’s Ex Wife Still Has Pictures Of Their Wedding Day On Social Media

[Ms. Tarabotti]

Yes a friend of my husband . I understand she wants to keep memories but why on social media where everyone can access to it . I wouldn’t keep my exes on social media but then again I’m very private hence me not having FB . She didn’t want to get divorced. I wonder if she
Would have these pictures if she was with
Someone else since they re just memories. If I had something like that even on my phone my husband would kill me .
Lol

How did this "friend' come across the pictures and why did he feel the need to share them with you?
Unless the pictures were posted recently, she may have forgotten about them or left them up there as part of her past like (which will always include her ex, your present husband). If there has been no contact between them and she has left you alone, I suggest that you do the same.

Oh and ditch that 'friend'.

 

[Browndilocks]

My bf has an issue with pictures on my Facebook account that included my ex husband. I don’t understand the issue, we were in each other’s lives for over 16 years. So I got to delete cute pictures of myself and of my travels for the past 16 years because he is jealous that I lived my life before I met him? I don’t get it.

It was too hard to untag over 1000s of pics. I’m also tagged in so many pics from others that have the ex in them. I just hid all of my photos. I don’t post any pictures of my current bf either because I’m not going thru that stupid conversation again. Waste of time and energy.

I had a controlling boyfriend like that. It didn't end well.

 

[gn1g]

Is he still doing the nasty with her

 

[1QTPie]

I wouldn't care. Not even a little bit.

 

[Saludable84]

I wouldn't care. Not even a little bit.

Right here.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Here's the thing...why do you care? Or rather, why are you concerning yourself with what is on her account and fixating on it?

You are with him now and unless he's giving reason(s) for suspicion (like you're suspecting an affair and needing to build proof for a case, etc) , just stay away from her account which includes:

1. having spies looking through her account,
2. thinking about the account,
3. discussing the account with others hence creating unnecessary drama.

Resist the urge. It reeks of insecurity.
It's not like you have a right to tell her what she can put on her account (within the confines of the law of course). So what's the game plan? Complain to hubby and have him talk to her? That lady will have the best laugh of her life. You will pretty much tell her that you obsessed with regulating and controlling her life through her ex hubby, your husband. And your poor hubby doesn't deserve to have the third degree about something that is also out of his control so leave this alone (again unless there is something else that you have not revealed and you suspect him of cheating, etc).

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Yes a friend of my husband . I understand she wants to keep memories but why on social media where everyone can access to it . I wouldn’t keep my exes on social media but then again I’m very private hence me not having FB . She didn’t want to get divorced. I wonder if she
Would have these pictures if she was with
Someone else since they re just memories. If I had something like that even on my phone my husband would kill me .
Lol

Oh I see well then your friend is stirring the pot. I would let her know that I am not interested in knowing anything about his ex or what is on her social media account unless it is super important and affects my life. Otherwise thanks for the heads up and no need for anymore.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Yes a friend of my husband . I understand she wants to keep memories but why on social media where everyone can access to it . I wouldn’t keep my exes on social media but then again I’m very private hence me not having FB . She didn’t want to get divorced. I wonder if she
Would have these pictures if she was with
Someone else since they re just memories. If I had something like that even on my phone my husband would kill me .
Lol

Seems messy of that friend. Unless the ex just posted the pictures.
Why is this information being brought to you- what’s the motive? Is this friend a woman?

And I wouldn’t discuss this with my Dh either. He doesn’t control her SM

 

[SpiritJunkie]

Friend messy. End of story.

 

[Mai Tai]

You should be more irritated with the "friend" who reported this to you. You can't control the ex-wife's memories, her social media...shoot...you can't even control whether she chose to change her last name back to her maiden name after the divorce.

Unless you have reason to suspect that there is more to the story, I say KIM and let that lady live her life.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I don’t have Facebook, I just don’t see the need to keep this pictures on a social media platform ,perhaps she could keep them saved on her computer although I doubt if she had remarried her partner would be happy with that.

True but you aren't her. Not all ppl make sense, or believe as you do.

I get it. You feel disrespected. But that's a projection from what you think she should do, which btw...you don't have a right to enforce because people have free will.

I don't think anything. I don't concern myself with things that don't come from me or mines. You can't do anything about it anyway. You are giving this way more space in your mind than you should.



You won't ever be able to understand the motives of why people do what they do...so stop trying to understand the "need."

Does this have any impact on your relationship? If it does, then the ex-wife is not the problem.

Agreed.

You should be more irritated with the "friend" who reported this to you. You can't control the ex-wife's memories, her social media...shoot...you can't even control whether she chose to change her last name back to her maiden name after the divorce.

Unless you have reason to suspect that there is more to the story, I say KIM and let that lady live her life.

Right. Alladis.
This Op has allowed this so called friend to put her into a mind pretzel like:



Trying to consider all the possibilities of why she would do xyz, and how she would never do xyz. But Op is not his ex wife so it doesn't matter what she would do versus his ex wife. And there are so many variations from her holding on to the memories, to just not caring enough to delete pics online, to just not even remembering the pics are there. And either way? Regulating others is not something anyone should do or even can do as you mentioned. I do side eye the friend majorly. Shame on them for going into someone's sm account and flipping through pics and going : ! I know! Imma tell OP.

Now if she had a pic of hubby and ex in a hotel dated yesterday, that's another thing....but until then , friend needs to keep out of the pot and stop stirring it. I would file that in my mental rolodex since the so called friend seems to enjoy attempting to worry me and make me insecure at the most or at the least, they enjoy starting drama.

 

[Kindheart]

Got it ladies ! Thank you so much !

 

[syze6]

Here's the thing...why do you care? Or rather, why are you concerning yourself with what is on her account and fixating on it?

You are with him now and unless he's giving reason(s) for suspicion (like you're suspecting an affair and needing to build proof for a case, etc) , just stay away from her account which includes: having spies looking through her account, thinking about the account, discussing the account with others hence creating unnecessary drama. Resist the urge. It reeks of insecurity.
I
t's not like you have a right to tell her what she can put on her account (within the confines of the law of course). So what's the game plan? Complain to hubby and have him talk to her? That lady will have the best laugh of her life. You will pretty much tell her that you obsessed with regulating and controlling her life through her ex hubby, your husband. And your poor hubby doesn't deserve to have the third degree about something that is also out of his control so leave this alone (again unless there is something else that you have not revealed and you suspect him of cheating, etc).

I agree, it's wasted energy and not something to dwell on any longer. She probaly knows the friend sees her social page, some women love the smell of insecurity in a woman. It makes the feel superior over another. Tell the friend to keep all comments to herself...period! All you need to concern yourself about is he is YOUR hubby now. She could put colored crayon pics of them together for all you care! Enjoy...your married life!

Oh..is this friend married? You got to watch those so called friends, who bring you news under the "just looking out for a friend" claims. I remember as a little girl growing up, listening to my grandmom speak. She would always say, "You don't let no woman come tell you NOTHING about your husband!"

 

[PeaceFlow]

I haven't had any partners be upset over pics and I haven't told anyone to delete anything either.

DH found a box in the house with pics in while we were spring cleaning. A few of them have one of his exes in it and countries they visited. He gave me them to look at - which I did and now they are back in the box. Its just pictures to me and history.

 

[Chrismiss]

It's her Facebook page, she can have what she wants on there. And for god's sake don't say anything to your husband about it. I'm pretty sure you guys have more pressing issues.

 

[Fine 4s]

I feel you. When I first started dating my guy, he had been divorced for 5 years. His mama FB requested me and I saw that she had a pic up of the ex talkin bout "my daughter in law". I never accepted her request, never accepted her invitations and have never said more than a dry hello to her. That was 3 years ago. I'm petty like that.

The other posters are right tho . The ex is entitled to her feelings. Don't listen to me because I'll have you excommunicating his entire family. They try to hard to be my friend too but it'll never happen

LMAOOOOOO those two lines are FOR REAL! you are no joke. I like.

 

[sharifeh]

Women who have a life don't bother deleting old social media pics. I'm sure she has moved on. It's the but- hurt folks that delete pics that usually have a problem.

basically, I am way too lazy to delete old pics like that

 

[Ganjababy]

What she has on her social media is none of your business. You may have him now but the years she had him will always belong to her, including the pictures.