movingforward13
I do what I want...
I haven't experienced this first hand- however I had to do some research on grief because my SO was expecting his father to die earlier this year and I was trying to prepare myself for it. I think you are right about the bolded. Obviously, he liked to you some extent- you were probably his release. When she died- you were the (only) one he could go to/ was available.Her funeral was last week on Saturday and today, he sent me this beautiful love song and all I can say is that I'm in a big pickle. I've never heard the song before and have no idea who the artist is but the words were super deep. He then sent a note telling me to listen and that is how he feels about me. The song was basically I'm in love with you. I can't help but feel that it is probably just emotional attachment due to this tragedy.
He had expressed his interest in the beginning and I was honest about not feeling the same way. I think the fact that I showed him so much compassion has made things super tricky. How long do I wait before I tell him that truly we cannot happen?
If you do not intend on keeping this man in your life, google counselors for grief and give him the number, wish him well, then block him. That may seem harsh, but what I think is even more harsh is keeping this guy around, while he continues to attach himself to you without the intention of it going farther. Rip the bandaid off now and disappear from his life so he can grieve on his own.
Men grieve differently when we do- when a tragedy happens like that, they respond with sex. So, it makes sense why he is trying to get close to you.