@mscurly
@Belle Du Jour
I have to agree with
@kanozas
Even if he's shy if its Gods timing, will and he's the one then he will have courage or whatever he needs to step up to you when that time is right. Believe that Jesus will send the HS if needed to make him step out of his comfort zone and do what's necessary.
If you're already praying for your future hubby pray that he's given courage so he can step up to you and make his intentions toward you known plain and clear. Like the video of Miriam and Ardy upthread he was unsure but God told him to step out on faith and he did.
If you find that you have to drop major hints and flirt alot then he's probably not interested, he's not your future hubby-so calm down.
Or he is interested but he's not ready, let me say it again HE'S NOT READY! If he has some internal stuff or emotional stuff , shyness, career, job, school or whatever to deal with before being "ready" then God has to deal with him on that and mature, prepare him. It's not our job to raise a grown man, and we can't martyr ourselves trying to save one either that's Jesus domain to work on his heart. This is how we women start justifying our actions and start sliding down a slippery slope and that can become dangerous. Does he have to be perfect of course not, but If your a WOG you don't want him before Gods appointed time either it could mean disaster for you both.
There's a difference in flirting and being polite nice kind and approachable. I think being kind and polite is enough of course it doesn't hurt to look cute and smell nice either. Some people think if you have good manners dress and smell good somehow you're out on the prowl for men that's so not true. I don't think there is anything wrong with a little encouragement or flirting but only after he makes the first move and shows at least some interest in me on his own.
I don't believe I have to flirt with a guy for him to notice me if he's the one.
Example: Now if I'm flirting overtime then that's just me forcing a guy who otherwise isn't interested in me acknowledging my flirting and let's face it he's a man he's going to respond that attention and flirt back get my number if I offer it regardless of whether he really is into you or not. Then I'm sitting at home wondering why he didn't call after he seemed so into me-really? Come on we're better than that and thats usually what happens when a woman initiates flirting or the first move. Or worse he calls just to pass the time with you and waste your time and his with no honorable intentions in mind for you.
So we have to be careful there. All men respond to a woman flirting with them it's like it's genetic or something and they can't help it.
There are many secular books one the rules how to get a man keep him etc and they all pretty much tell wome to not be themselves and act like some perfect prototype in the book or they say follow these rules tips to get him. Those don't work because essentially it's basing your relationship on lies because you're not being your true authentic self.
And the real you even if you're pretty kind smart etc will come out and he didn't fall for the real you he fell for the fake you and that will most likely break the relationship.
I like Heather Linsays quote on this she said "if God told you he's your husband God will tell him that too." you don't have to go and tell him that or run around trying to get him to notice you.