Show them haters!

[naturalgurl]

I've had so many people tell me that by not using BSS products my hair will not grow. I've been told by even more people that using fruit and herbs will not only stunt the growth but make my hair fall out. My hair has grown 3 inches in 4 months. More growth than I can remember except for when it was braided up. So, I've shown them and now I have people asking me "so now what do you use for moisturizing your hair?"

 

[michaela]

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[LongHairDreams]

I've had so many people tell me that by not using BSS products my hair will not grow. I've been told by even more people that using fruit and herbs will not only stunt the growth but make my hair fall out. My hair has grown 3 inches in 4 months. More growth than I can remember except for when it was braided up. So, I've shown them and now I have people asking me "so now what do you use for moisturizing your hair?"

I hope you don't tell them squat. Especially if they are the same people.

 

[bellesocialite]

When I first started changing my regimen from what I've learned here, my mother would go on and on how I needed to comb my hair daily, and use grease because without it my hair would break off. Oh and the stretching relaxers bit, she was not at all a fan of. I went home for the weekend sometime around Thanksgiving break and said, "I really don't like how you're taking care of your hair"
Fast forward to this past weekend: She did my touch up for me and made a comment about how waiting so long to relac my hair would make it break. After roller wrapping my hair, the next day she says, "Whatever new products you're using are really working. Your hair has grown." I said that I wasn't using anything new and she repeated what she said. Eh.

 

[anon123]

What's wrong with her? She has got a chip on her shoulder about something. What did you do? LOL

Seriously though, I had a stylist tell me my hair would never be as long as the weaves I used to wear. They used to be between APL and BSL. She made that comment when I told her that I was using the weaves to grow my hair back. At the time I believed that wearing a weave would help me grow hair down my back. So anyway I haven't seen her in about a year and 2 months when I got my last weave put in. So I'm patiently waiting until I hit full BSL in December to go pay her a visit with my hair out, pretend I was in the neighbourhood, say hi, make small talk and do the head flick. I can predict she'll ask me if I wearing a weave.

I have to know, did you just so happen, you know, by chance, to swing by the salon to say hello?

 

[Extremus]

Thank you love ...what a wonderful thought

your hair is awesome

thank you!

so is yours

 

[cmw45]

I have and lots of doubters and one hater...who OPENLY admits to hating. What I am confused about is how she is going to try and clown me and my techniques but then openly acknowledge that it's growing? Neway, when I first began to change my routine to what I learned on here my family (especially my mother) was VERY doubtful and CONSTANTLY reminded me I am not a white girl. As it has flourised they went from doubt...to surprise...to "you got that good hair." My response, "The only thing 'good' is the condition it's in. And even that could be better." I think my mother wants to go natural now...and she should she has GORGEOUS hair...and that does excite me.

I remember one guy who used to make fun of me after I cut it...calling me Amistad and what not'...I saw him the other day...he has to say.

 

[Extremus]

I have and lots of doubters and one hater...who OPENLY admits to hating. What I am confused about is how she is going to try and clown me and my techniques but then openly acknowledge that it's growing? Neway, when I first began to change my routine to what I learned on here my family (especially my mother) was VERY doubtful and CONSTANTLY reminded me I am not a white girl. As it has flourised they went from doubt...to surprise...to "you got that good hair." My response, "The only thing 'good' is the condition it's in. And even that could be better." I think my mother wants to go natural now...and she should she has GORGEOUS hair...and that does excite me.

I remember one guy who used to make fun of me after I cut it...calling me Amistad and what not'...I saw him the other day...he has to say.

love it!

 

[Raspberry]

Yeah girl! The look on his face was priceless! ESPECIALLY after he saw my SO...my sister and I were crackin up afterwards. That breakup hurt me, right after he dumped me he started dating this girl w/ waist length hairerplexed that's around the time I started gluing in tracks which damaged my hair even worse. Well, time heals all wounds and also grows a lot of hair...I'm blessed!

go head girl.. this is a great story

 

[exoticmommie]

more stories and updates please

 

[lilsparkle825]

all i have to add is that i have been weave checked no fewer than 5 times in the past 2 weeks. boy, what some chi silk infusion and a solia can do for the ego.

what's even better is looking in the sigs from the first few people in this thread and seeing that they have come even FURTHER. kudos to all of you.

 

[I AM...]

I have to be honest. I do not rock with a whole lot of negative people. If this were 6 or seven years ago and I was trying this transition I would have a gang of stories. I am mostly with my sisters who do not understand why I wash so much. Advising me that washing strips my hair. when they came over and saw my hair dryer, steamer and towel closet full of VO5 and Aussie Moist they cracked up all to be damned. You see my sisters do nothing and grow hair. I mean they lay on cotton/flannel sheets, do not take vitamins, hardly exercise and drink water. One sister even let a so-called "stylist" wash her hair with Ajax dish detergent and she has beautiful apl & BSl hair. I on the other hand have to work at it.

I did my BC on 6-1-09 and to date it looks fab. They all compliment me but at the same time mock my weekly treatments, bantu knots and curly fro styles.

I'll show them..I'LL SHOW THEM ALL
*insert laugh from the end of Thiller*

 

[DarkHair]

Oh the things I could say.

Lets see, last year my SIL who used to be APL to BSL had to cut her hair to EL. She would flat iron her hair DAILY at the highest setting with NO heat protectant. Because her hair 'grew like a weed', she'd relax her hair every four weeks, and highlight it every four (every 2 wks was something). I'd already 'advised' her to use protectant, cut back on heat, etc. So, back in November we were at dinner with some associates. I was talking to my friend next to me and telling her how I did coffee rinses and used other natural products on my SL hair. My SIL and another girl (that is natural) started moaning and rolling their eyes. I then turned and faced my friend, who was very attentive to my discoveries, and was telling her in a whisper. So fast forward to last Friday and we (my friend and SIL) were at a spot eating and having drinks. I JUST did a relaxer (stretch from Feb to June) and my hair is grazing APL. My friend didn't say anything about my hair, cause she and I talk all the time. My SIL, with chin length hair however, was like 'Oh my gosh! Your hair looks so good. Its growing, and is shiny and healthy....looks good'. I just said thanks and KIM. I always tell my friend about the honey and other things. I'm just waiting on the day that my DH comes to me and says 'My sister wants to know what you're doing to your hair'? I'm not saying a word....find out on ur own.

I can't wait til November/December (my next relaxer is Sept), which is the next time I plan to see them (or not).

 

[Fine 4s]

I don't have any stories yet b/c I'm going for the extreme. I have 3 wait, 4 people in mind to 'show off' to. Once I reach WL and can convince myself to straighten, THEN I will have some stories to share!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[alexei]

Sometimes, haters are the fuel of hair growth.
I don't have any outright haters, just a few doubters. I have about 4 people I want to quietly flip my hair in front of. I hide my hair for this very reason so the reveal will be a stunner.

 

[Lucky's Mom]

I don't care about haters.....

 

[*closer*2*my*dreams*]

I have plenty of doubters.... My mom keeps telling me i'm not white (because i "wash" my hair too much). My associate, supposedly firend, swears that i'm not taking care of my hair bc if i did i would'nt be rocking puffs, braidouts, etc. In her words "it looks like you don't care about your hair" erplexed She also complained about me wearing wigs to protect my hair (I asked her to pick me up some wig clips so i can wear my wigs more often) she said if my hair was in good condition i would not need to wear wigs... erplexed

I can't wait until i reach APL in december to fling it in her face!

 

[Kerryann]

I dont have haters just doubters so i never wear my hair down around them its always in a bun but i cant wait till november so i can let it go around my bday and hide it in a bun agin till next summer i just cant wait to hear the aaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwww jaw drop

 

[crazydaze911]

I got to show one hater so far (but it was bitter sweet cuz im growing a V erplexed) I always made sure my hair was curly or up when i saw her so she couldnt see its length. Then i stopped by her job after taking fam pics. i had my hair in my coat. she pull it out from under the coat and was like "OMG, ur hairs so long, it hasnt been this long since"... and i finished '...since i was 12'.

As back story - 2 years ago i told her i was going to transition and she thought i was nuts and swore her hair is soooooooo much worse than mine, she could never do it, and that it still wouldnt help my hair anyways - so i think i proved her wrong (at least about my own hair).

 

[dachsies_rule!]

I don't understand people (our people especially)! They think black people can't have hair. I have only been bunning for about 2 weeks, trying to get past BSL. I usually put my bun in the back, but I noticed a lot of LHCF members saying to vary the position to reduce breakage (THANKS). So, this weekend i parted it from front to back and put a bun on each side...it was looking cute. Ooooh, if you could have seen the hate looks the sisters were giving me, especially cause men were complimenting my hair. This one chick at the grocery store looked at me like i had sh!t in her breakfast...then i realized her man was all up in my head checking it out. At Target these 2 "hair-challenged" women walked by me and one of them mumbled "those buns are fake". I had to tell her that not all black people are bald-headed. It was funny too cause she only had about 1/2 an inch of hair on her head and it was damaged. Instead of mumbling under her breath, she needs to be asking for hair tips so she won't end up looking like Kojak!

 

[beans4reezy]

I am waiting, waiting, WAITING to post a story on this thread.

Until then, I am hiding my hair in patience, because it WILL happen

 

[infojunkie]

I am sooooo loving this thread. I'm pretty headstrong so I don't have any haters, just alot of doubters (that will still be glad when I get a perm). But since I've fallen in love with my hair and they all look forward to whatever knew hairstyle I'm gonna come up with it's all good.

But I have to stay tuned to this thread because these stories are hilarious!

 

[nathansgirl1908]

I'm loving all the stories on here. Keep 'em coming!

In addition, in response to the post about the Italian woman, I think it is because she saw the poster's hair growing and it made her feel threatened. I believe, based on interactions I have had and things I have heard, that women of other races sometimes feel that they are "superior" to us when it comes to hair and the thought of a black woman growing her hair long is upsetting and threatening to them.