ycj1
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I want to tell you that you are not alone and there are some just mean spirited people in the world! I know bc one of my oldest brother's use to tease me and make fun of me when I was growing up. And do you realize that to this day it still haunts me! Well we don't see ea other nor talk with ea other mainly bc I prefer not to worry about hearing his negative remarks about me. But when I became an adult and he came to visit me when I was stationed in New Orleans, he tried that mess again, but unknowningly to his surprise I had something for him. Yes, I kept all of the jokes and critisims in for many yrs, but that particular day I just let it out! I was 8.5 months pregnant with my dau and I just could'nt take it anymore!
I told him things that I never forgot and just started singing like a bird! By the time I was done with him he had the nerve to tell me he did'nt realize all the jokes and rude comments he threw at me when I was younger affected me so much!
The point I am getting at is you cannot afford to harbor ill feelings, cuz it will affect you later on down the line. He talked ill of me for so long that I believed no one ever wanted me. I felt that bad about myself! And do you realize even now in my 40's sometimes I still think that way! But you are going to have to lift yr head up high and say to yourself everyday you wake up thank you Jesus for allowing me to be alive and well, and for having all my senses! Then thank God for all of yr blessing that has come into yr life! And last but not least look at yrself in the mirror and say out loud I Love myself! I am attractive and a beautiful woman inside as well as out side.
You will be surprised how self affirmation will make you feel wonderful about who you are!
But you must get off that pity party attitude, bc I was there and after a while I believed the negative things not only my brother ues to say about me but other people as well!
You only have one life to live and I am sure you don't want to live it for other people! Now is your chance to not accept ignorance or rudeness! Now is your chance to stand up for yourself with conviction and not allow others to bring you down. Cus once yr dead and gone you will be another statistic!
Don't accept it! Sometimes you just have to fight back, and people will see and will leave you alone because of it! And the ones that are giving out rude comments I bet they are not supporting you or taking care of you. And if they were that gives no one the right to hurt you or anyone eles! As long as they don't touch you! But I know words hurt! You grow a backbone and let them know yr not taking it anymore! Sometimes you have to show them yr not the one to be played with! You are an adult and not in High School, so they need to know you're not the one to be handled!!!!!!!!!!
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. I think its something that developed in them (i.e, insecurities) that they're taking out on you. I live by and wholeheartedly believe that whatever you focus on, will expand. Rather positive or negative if you pay them too much attention resentment and other yuckies will develop in you, and as you read in most of our posts; some of our haters are our families....no one wants to have resentment or bitterness against a loved one. You literally have to keep it moving on the haters because their looking for your button to push. Let it roll of off
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