Ciacia
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WTphuck?
How old is he?
This sounds like a trainwreck.
RUN. DO. NOT. WALK. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNN.
Don't have any babies without a HUSBAND who can support ALL of you on his income alone.
He will be 32 in next month....
WTphuck?
How old is he?
This sounds like a trainwreck.
RUN. DO. NOT. WALK. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNN.
Don't have any babies without a HUSBAND who can support ALL of you on his income alone.
did this make sense to you given the content of the relationship you are in?
Hold up he white?
Bad things
I make more money than him and pay for everything. he does not mind being financially dependent on me and does not have a real good plan to change this situation
He does not like going out. Let me go to parties and weddings all by myself (and if he comes he always act exhausted to make sure we go home early)
I do not like his family (his mother in particular)
He did not do anything for my 30th bday and offered me a gift (which I hated) like 2 months after
We are not really sexually compatible
Honestly: our plan was to start trying to make a baby in 2013. But even if this is something that I really want in my life I am not super motivated because 1) I don't want his family to have any influence on a kid I would raise 2) if something happens to me how could he provide for this kid ?
Hi ladies,
I'm seeking your advices as I am a little bit lost. I have been living with a man for more than a year (and we met in march 2011) and I'm wondering if I am wasting both of our times. I know that I am not very patient I general so I need you to let me know if I should just calm down and work this out
Good things
He's faithful, my parents like him, he likes to help people in general, he's passionate about his job
Bad things
I make more money than him and pay for everything. he does not mind being financially dependent on me and does not have a real good plan to change this situation
He does not like going out. Let me go to parties and weddings all by myself (and if he comes he always act exhausted to make sure we go home early)
I do not like his family (his mother in particular)
He did not do anything for my 30th bday and offered me a gift (which I hated) like 2 months after
We are not really sexually compatible
I could go on with the bad things but these are the main issues
Things have changed lately as I tried to talk to Him about all these, but I always feel like he stays because of his unstable money situation ....
Not sure if I still love him, I do care for sure
Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for your help
Are u sure he s not spending it unwisely or saving for himself since you re willing to pay for everything?I have to admit that I did not tell my family about the money part. As he is an architect they assume that he is ok on that side but he has been working for 3 years for a boss who pays him whenever he feels like it. As I said he's passionate so he does not mind. But I should not pay for his passion indeed, he said he would quit in June 2013 only ....
I think that I'm staying because I'm afraid of staying too long in the single life again now that I am 30 ....
Leave that shameless loser and his crazy mother.
I have to admit that I did not tell my family about the money part. As he is an architect they assume that he is ok on that side but he has been working for 3 years for a boss who pays him whenever he feels like it. As I said he's passionate so he does not mind. But I should not pay for his passion indeed, he said he would quit in June 2013 only ....
I think that I'm staying because I'm afraid of staying too long in the single life again now that I am 30 ....
Ciacia
a real man is proud to show you off to the world. he also is willing to provide and protect you. he should be motivated.sometimes though he doesn't like the same things you like or they bore him he still goes along with it anyhow cause you like it or they excite you. if you have a baby by this fool on the weight and burden of providing for the household will be on your shoulders.
if you were white he'd be breaking his neck to make sure you had....not to mention his mother would love you to pieces
the bigger question is why don't you love yourself enough to leave or why did you give this fool the time of day in the first place.
when you work on yourself you realize that you deserve the very best and nothing less. a man worthy of your time will treat you like the royalty or goddess that you are you are already lonely in this relationship go ahead and be alone its better.
women must stop thinking that when we get with a man that we can change /improve him or that he won't treat us the same way as the previous lady he dealt with. people must be willing to change cause they want to not cause we force them. this gets women in trouble all the time.
please leave before you get in over your head. you are young and childless with no baggage, you will find someone perfect for you once you do the necessary work on yourself. when you break up with this fool take 6 months to work on yourself and don't get a new replacement man....remain celibate during this time and reflect inward.
She lives abroad and she came a whole month in May. She is always worrying my bf by talking about suicide, but she just crave attention. For example she would wait until everybody is around, grab a knife, and say she wants to cut her wrist.....
The whole time she was at my place she was expecting me to serve her 24/7 and complained about me working too much and not taking care of her.
Every time I would cook or clean she would just pass by and say "why don't you just hire someone to do it?". She lives in Turkey and this is very cheap there....
She is white and she was not too happy that her son get a black woman but she "tolerates it"....
Ciacia
a real man is proud to show you off to the world. he also is willing to provide and protect you. he should be motivated.sometimes though he doesn't like the same things you like or they bore him he still goes along with it anyhow cause you like it or they excite you. if you have a baby by this fool on the weight and burden of providing for the household will be on your shoulders.
if you were white he'd be breaking his neck to make sure you had....not to mention his mother would love you to pieces
the bigger question is why don't you love yourself enough to leave or why did you give this fool the time of day in the first place.
when you work on yourself you realize that you deserve the very best and nothing less. a man worthy of your time will treat you like the royalty or goddess that you are you are already lonely in this relationship go ahead and be alone its better.
women must stop thinking that when we get with a man that we can change /improve him or that he won't treat us the same way as the previous lady he dealt with. people must be willing to change cause they want to not cause we force them. this gets women in trouble all the time.
please leave before you get in over your head. you are young and childless with no baggage, you will find someone perfect for you once you do the necessary work on yourself. when you break up with this fool take 6 months to work on yourself and don't get a new replacement man....remain celibate during this time and reflect inward.