Chicoro
5 Year Shea Anniversary: Started Dec 16th, 2016!
Thanks! I hope I still get a crunchy cast. I'll plan to try it next wash day.
Do you have mineral oil in any of your products that you are using for your wash n go with Shea butter?
Thanks! I hope I still get a crunchy cast. I'll plan to try it next wash day.
I still wear my hair this way. I don't really have any tips though. I rarely if ever use a leave-in. I'm heavy-handed and smooth on my Shea before I smooth on my gel. My wash and goes do not last longer and I can definitely feel when wash day is due. Initial application on my damp/ wet hair leaves it little stiffer but I'll take it for the added suppleness and protection Shea gives to my strands.
I still wear my hair this way. I don't really have any tips though. I rarely if ever use a leave-in. I'm heavy-handed and smooth on my Shea before I smooth on my gel. My wash and goes do not last longer and I can definitely feel when wash day is due. Initial application on my damp/ wet hair leaves it little stiffer but I'll take it for the added suppleness and protection Shea gives to my strands.
I got my color re-touched and straightened my hair. My strands are thriving with Shea, I can't live without it
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Lol @ looks like a wig. I do get wig/weave checked often (thanks to the knowledge gained on LHCF )It looks beautiful! It looks like a wig because it is so healthy looking. Look how long it is!
@sgold04 ,
I have some questions for you, please!
- How long have you been using Shea butter?
- How do you use it?
- Is your hair natural or relaxed?
- What is your Shea butter blend combination?
- Do you use refined or unrefined Shea?
- Why do you think Shea is helping your hair? How so?
Do you have mineral oil in any of your products that you are using for your wash n go with Shea butter?
We your family, too! Got some tips to help us do the same as you?
I love love love this! Very inspiring! How much do you think I should aim for when it comes to saving? I think about all the things that can go wrong in life and I feel like saving does not have a limit and that's kind of depressing. Having said this, I am not much of a saver. I don't watch how much I spend and I end up spending ridiculously. Maybe if I had a goal, that would help me focus.I'll start by saying that during my years of working, it was always in finance. I've done everything from banking, to investments, to being a credit/budget advisor. I learned the most in the advising area because one of my duties were to teach budget classes for the local attorneys whose clients were filing bankruptcy. Another duty was to offer counseling to older people that had paid off their homes but were trying to reverse the mortgage to get cash out of it. My biggest take away was that being in debt was like being in financial jail. Also that not having a solid savings account to fall back on makes you do some strange things.
So my tips are not new, but they worked for us...and as long as there are 2 solid incomes coming in the household, I can't see why they wouldn't work for someone else.
1) We lived on one income. For the first few months, we really just wanted to see if it was possible. It was. It was also an eye opener on all the things we were spending money on frivolously.
*Tip: If you are single, look for ways to increase your income. (2nd job)
2) We used my entire income to pay off about 90% of all the debt we had. I still have a small student loan, but the interest is super low...like 1 or 2%. So I was not in a rush to pay it off. However, we paid off everything else...cars, credit cards, personal loans, etc.
3) Once the debt was paid off, we put my entire income in savings. Most advisors say do a few months as an emergency fund. We plugged away for years and I'm definitely not bragging but what I can say is...we ain't got no worries. LOL
It is not rocket science. Most that know my financial background usually ask what they should invest in. Don't worry about the investment market.....Invest in you.
Budget.
Make more or spend less.
If you can, do both of the above at the same time.
Eliminate debt
Save like your life depends on it.
Mind your business. Silly but it works. Focusing on what others have or what they are doing not only does something to you mentally...it also makes you want to spend money to do what they are doing.
Don't stop keeping track once you hit your goals. To this day, we still make a monthly household budget. I know everything that comes in and everything that goes out. And even on one income, we still have a high amount of disposable income because we don't save anymore and we don't have to push those monies out to debt outside of normal average living expenses.
May all my Shea family be wealthy in joy, finances, love and life. Slide on Sistah's!
I love love love this! Very inspiring! How much do you think I should aim for when it comes to saving? I think about all the things that can go wrong in life and I feel like saving does not have a limit and that's kind of depressing. Having said this, I am not much of a saver. I don't watch how much I spend and I end up spending ridiculously. Maybe if I had a goal, that would help me focus.
My suggestions:
- Do not cut your hair for now. Leave it alone. Freshly cut ends are like a great treasure. They are usually split free and perfect. But, if you are still learning what your hair likes and needs, while you are getting your routine in place, you may neglect those ends and have splits again. So, until you get a regimen that you know is working for sure, don't cut. Just learn your hair and try to get it to a point where it's responding and getting better.
- Look into getting some vitamin B Complex- Stress Formula. Talk to your doctor first. When we have stress in our lives, our bodies lose Vitamin B sometimes 2x and 3x faster than normal. Vitamin B is water soluble and we do not make it in our bodies. During times of stress, hair is what usually suffers. Because our bodies processes, such as heart beat rely on this vitamin,
It's like I woke up out of a coma and realized that I just fell off.
- Are you doing in deep conditioning? Not as much as I should
- Do you do protein treatments? Every 6 weeks with Aphogee
- Are you natural? Texlaxed? Relaxed? Natural
- Is your hair colored or dyed? No
- What is your hair routine? I'm so ashamed to admit this. Shampoo every 3 -4 weeks, deep condition, and get it rebraided. When I remember, I put leave in conditioner in and put coconut oil on it. That's it. I used to be such a pj, had tons of products, and lurked religiously on this board.
Gorgeous!I got my color re-touched and straightened my hair. My strands are thriving with Shea, I can't live without it
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I would like to continue wearing wigs and weaves but I need to learn how to protect my edges and nape.
I have a nutritionist, so I'll look into getting on a regimen with Vitamins B and D. Thank you so much for the encouragement and suggestions.
Yesterday I bought some sb and whipped it with Evoo and coconut oil. I had to remember that it wasn't cake batter so that I wouldn't lick the beaters.I slathered my hair and body. Looking forward to journeying with you lovely ladies.
@ElevatedEnergyMy husband is so bad too...always encouraging me to buy stuff....talmbout spend what you want baby cause you can't take it with you. Well alrighty then
No. Why do you ask?
I think because products with mineral oil "clash" with the shea butter and cause the white cast.No. Why do you ask?
Twinsies!Because mineral oil, petroleum and paraffin leave "cast" or coating on hair when mixed with Shea butter. It happens even if there is only a little bit, an ingredient of it, in the other products.
Twinsies!
Thank you!!Gorgeous!
Hey lady!! Yea I go fairly heavy on the oils because I like my mix really creamy and not as thick. I posted my process somewhere on this board; I'll find it and come back to post it here.I have never made a butter mix that looked so creamy. Maybe I'm not using enough oils. Is this emulsified? This looks so good!
I can't move anything like the two chicks on the left of this gift. Goals for 2019!
looking for scents to try in this thread led me to the P&J brand. I don't know if you went to the website but you can create your own box for the same prices and they have free shipping on all orders. I'm making my own box with Snickerdoodle, Pina Colada, and more. I'm still going through the scents.
I'll start by saying that during my years of working, it was always in finance. I've done everything from banking, to investments, to being a credit/budget advisor. I learned the most in the advising area because one of my duties were to teach budget classes for the local attorneys whose clients were filing bankruptcy. Another duty was to offer counseling to older people that had paid off their homes but were trying to reverse the mortgage to get cash out of it. My biggest take away was that being in debt was like being in financial jail. Also that not having a solid savings account to fall back on makes you do some strange things.
So my tips are not new, but they worked for us...and as long as there are 2 solid incomes coming in the household, I can't see why they wouldn't work for someone else.
1) We lived on one income. For the first few months, we really just wanted to see if it was possible. It was. It was also an eye opener on all the things we were spending money on frivolously.
*Tip: If you are single, look for ways to increase your income. (2nd job)
2) We used my entire income to pay off about 90% of all the debt we had. I still have a small student loan, but the interest is super low...like 1 or 2%. So I was not in a rush to pay it off. However, we paid off everything else...cars, credit cards, personal loans, etc.
3) Once the debt was paid off, we put my entire income in savings. Most advisors say do a few months as an emergency fund. We plugged away for years and I'm definitely not bragging but what I can say is...we ain't got no worries. LOL
It is not rocket science. Most that know my financial background usually ask what they should invest in. Don't worry about the investment market.....Invest in you.
Budget.
Make more or spend less.
If you can, do both of the above at the same time.
Eliminate debt
Save like your life depends on it.
Mind your business. Silly but it works. Focusing on what others have or what they are doing not only does something to you mentally...it also makes you want to spend money to do what they are doing.
Don't stop keeping track once you hit your goals. To this day, we still make a monthly household budget. I know everything that comes in and everything that goes out. And even on one income, we still have a high amount of disposable income because we don't save anymore and we don't have to push those monies out to debt outside of normal average living expenses.
May all my Shea family be wealthy in joy, finances, love and life. Slide on Sistah's!
Lol @ looks like a wig. I do get wig/weave checked often (thanks to the knowledge gained on LHCF )
- How long have you been using Shea butter?
- Consistently--since I discovered this thread in late December/early January
- How do you use it?
- 1. The night before I detangle and wash, I slather Shea and a leave in on my hair, it's helps the strands slide out easier when detangling
- 2a. As my C when using Alikay Naturals products. I use Alikay Naturals leave in, then EVOO, then Alikay Shea Yogurt. I then twist my hair in 4-12 twists (depending on laziness).
- 2b. As an extra sealer when using other products like KCKT, then EVOO, curl enhancing smoothie, then Mane Choice "doesn't get much butter than this." Or sometimes I just slather a ton of cream on my hair, then seal with mane choice, then twist per usual.
- Is your hair natural or relaxed?
- Natural
- What is your Shea butter blend combination?
- I have not graduated to the DIY world of Shea butter yet, but I know it's coming.
- Do you use refined or unrefined Shea?
- Not sure? Whichever is in the above products
- Why do you think Shea is helping your hair? How so?
- Retaining moisture!! The blonde bits were more dry and I had a difficult time keeping my hair moisturized after several weeks of crochet braids that seemed to suck the life out of my hair (I've always struggled with hi-po hair also). Typically my hair dries in a flash, but I notice my twists stay wet longer since using Shea, and when I wear my twistouts, my hair is juicy. It's no longer brittle
- Also, protecting my strands from each other and the elements. I have fewer tangles (due to slip also) and fewer split ends on my highlighted strands. I'm also experiencing less breakage around my nape. I had a trim right before I discovered this thread and I was experiencing some hairexia. When the stylist flat ironed my hair a couple days ago, she only had to dust for a more uniform look because my ends were full and strong.
I will not go blonde again. I will not go blonde again. I will not go blonde again.I got my color re-touched and straightened my hair. My strands are thriving with Shea, I can't live without it
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