i didn't know you went thru all that! po thang
erplexed
but i understand what you mean. last fall when i straightened my hair, it was a GREAT hair day... my hair was still full of body, bouncy, all i had to do was walk down the sidewalk and look fab.
i had on a new leather jacket that i had only worn one other time on a day i was sporting a WnG. now on the WnG day, girls on campus were complimenting me left and right. oh you look cute, love the jacket, nice shoes (these are strangers btw, not friends). now this time it's the same basic outfit but my hair is straight.
stink eyes and not a compliment in sight.
as i walked by 2 black girls they stopped in mid-conversation to stare at me... and then one remarked, "so, my hair is longer than that and it's MINE cuz i bought it!"
i mean really, was that necessary?
some girls are just b!$@#es...
Girl a b&tch is a b&tch, is a b&tch!
I do understand some women are just haters. Hell girl,I got em everywhere on this here internet and in real life. and its whack ....ova some damn hair........that shyt just really pisses me off. man I had two ladies that I loved and they were the moderators of my group and I loved them and shyt still went south with them both over time, It actually breaks my heart, they were more on the 'militant' side of natural than me , especally for how it was back then,but I LOVED THEM AND hair should have NEVER come between us but ultimately it did!
I just find it sad, it doesnt make me angry like it used to, it makes me just sad! none of us should be hatin ova some hair, and if somebody hates you over yours. feel sorry for her if anything........but your right some girl are just biatches! and its damn sad to be divided over some damn hair, I will always feel this way!
Here is a poem I wrote back when it was bad btwn relaxed and natural ladies. my heart could never take watching all that bullshyt!
Ive always hated it with a passion!!!!
To my natural sistah's (from your relaxed sistah)
So, you think im tryin to conform? when for all ive ever known is
this to be the norm. you say im trying to be something that im not, when my
hair will never make who i am whether it's straight, kinky, or bought , you
cut your eyes at me ova my 'do when you were once in the very same shoes. so i
apply this creamy stuff to make my hair straight, but you act is if your
kinks gave you a pass through heaven's gate? why do you put me up under this kind of pressure? and act as though because you now have naps you are now up
to measure? you say you are so enlightened, but it seems to me as though
you just might be somewhat frightened. are you scared you will face the
temptation to straighten out the kinks again? do you project that fear unto me
distorted and full of disdain? i wish i could show you that just because my
hair is straight doesnt mean i cant relate to your pain. you say my ignorance
runs deep, as though just because my hair is straight i must have no sense, my sistah have you forgotten when you were on this side of the fence? you look
your nose down on me now that you have naps growing freely from your head, when really you should be concerned about the kinks in your heart instead.
To my relaxed sistah's (from your natural sistah)
So you say you can relate to my pain? no i dont think you can, not
till you have worn an all natural mane. you see, there is no pain like this,
when your very own people ignorantly diss what our hair really is. yes i feel
enlightened and free to be me, and yes , maybe i am a little
frightened of what my nappy experience will be. you see, i feel the pressure every single day , to once again make my hair lay down, i just dont want to give in and lose this freedom that i have found. no my naps wont give me ticket through heavens gate, but i have a new love for what God made me instead of living with self hate. I no longer damage and abuse the hair God gave me just to fit in, im no longer in bondage to white people's greatest sin. The promotion of self hate within us to oppress and degrade us, as though
we are not acceptable the way the creator made us. I may come off as though i
think im better than you, but my sistah that is so not true, it's about so
much more than just your 'do. Maybe i dont say it right, but really we are
all in the same fight and all i want is to share my insight. your acting as
though your so righteous because you feel slighted, maybe you as well are
somewhat frightened. Why do my naps cause you distress? when you have the same thing coming from your head under that chemical mess? you fit in with those you choose cause your hair looks like theirs, and turn your back on me
when im your real reflection, you can straighten your naps all you want to,
but its the kinks in your heart that need inspection.
To all sistah's (from God)
I count the hairs on all of my children's heads. My word does not say
"I count the hair on a relaxed head" nor does my word say " I only
count the hairs of a natural head" It is I that count the hair on my children's heads. Do not make it your job to count the hair on your sister's head! It is I that count them and it is I that formed them! YOU CANNOT ADD THEM, NOR SUBTRACT THEM, NOR MULTIPLY THEM , BUT YOU LET THEM DIVIDE YOU! i desire the peace, happiness and joy in the hearts of all my children and this strife amongst you saddens me greatly. for it is my purpose for you to unite and walk in love notdivision. I say unto you before you check your hair in the mirror to see whether it is perfectly straight or perfectly natural , i tell you to to check to see if your heart is perfectly straight AND natural before me first. and before you look at the condtion and state of the hair of your sister, I tell you to look at the condtion and state of your own heart first. for the hair on on your head and the head of you sister's is but a small matter in my sight.
Do not bother to straighten your hair to fit into this world or to be
accepted by it , while your heart is not straightened out and you dont accept
your very own sister in love...I say to you , you will surely then not fit in
with me, nor shall you be accepted by me, nor fullfill my purpose for you. what you call the path of least resistance, i call the path of fools, when you resist walking in love for others.
Do not bother to wear your hair natural and untainted with chemicals
as you have said in your heart "to be as i made you" and not walk in love
towards your very own sister , then i say to you, it is then that your heart
shall surely be tainted in my sight, and you will then surely not "be as i
made you" what you call the path of enlightenment i call the path of darkness, if you are not enlightened enough to walk in love for others.
I know the pain of all of your hearts and i know all the tears shed by
all of my children and all the pain inflicted on you and the division that
has been caused amongst you, surely i say unto you those people will be held
accoutable for every action and deed before me. but you will not be
able to come before me and say "Lord but my sister did not love me due to the
chemical or lack of a chemical in my hair, and Lord this is why did not walk in love towards her in return" for i tell you she will be held accountable for
herself and you will have your own accountability unto me.
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We cant add, subtract or mulitply the hairs on our head, yet we let it
divide us
...but you never know, she could just be a flipper and maybe it wasn't about you... oh well, you'll be flossin in no time. I dont think there's anything wrong with a little flossin/pride just as long as it's done in the right spirit and not over the top. Cause when I reach my goals, Im definitely going to strut and be flippin my hair sometimes ...but I already strut, it's just that the hair I flip isn't all mine...yet 
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