softblackcotton
Well-Known Member
The more I talk to friends and people who are in relationships now, the more I'm realizing that they slept with their bfs/SOs before their relationship was made official. I thought this was just a college thing. Most of the kids who ended up dating in college had sex or did something sexual before deciding to be in a relationship. I am now realizing that grown adults do the same darn thing. Ok maybe adults who have jobs and little bit of money to spend go out on three to four dates, but four dates is said to be the cut off point to have sex for the first time. I've been told by so many people that adults don't date for months and months on end without sleeping together by the 2nd month tops. What?! I thought maybe this was just black people in Atlanta! However, I'm learning that people of all races everywhere in the Western world are doing the same. At least the majority of people are doing this. In conclusion, people don't court/date in the traditional sense as before. They just have sex and decide whether like each other enough to be in a relationship. Ladies, How true does this hold for you and your past, present and future relationships? Please answer whether you are single, engaged, or married. I would really like to know.
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