I am going through a season where men are approaching me trying to be with me. Some are male friends that I have known for some years, all of a sudden are chosing now to tell me their feelings. I have guys that I meet, start actively pursure me. I do like someone a lot, but he hasn't made a move, and it seems like everyone else has. There are 5 men who have told me their feelings towards me and I am not attracted to any of them.
It is my heart's desire to find the right person, to settle down and get married. And I notice that I have had to have the talk lately. I am now scared that I am saying No alot lately, don't want to miss my opportunity
Did anyone go through this, and how did you hang on till the person that you fell for came along?
Did you go through your season on men approaching you that were fundamentally good men, but you knew wasn't the one. I guess my main question is - Were you worried that you were being too picky?
LOL...could I have your "problem" please??
Actually, to be honest with you (to answer your question in bold above), when I was younger I never viewed myself as being "too picky". I just viewed myself as knowing what I WANT. I'm not picky, I just know what I want dag-nabit!!
But the older I get, the more and more I wonder if maybe I AM too picky? Right now I'm going through a temporary "dry spell" on the guy front.
Like you, quite a few guy friends have confessed their feelings for me, and some guys have randomly told my mom or friends that they were "interested" in me, but I am NOT interested in them!
Some not in the least!!
I too am getting over somebody (ironically, a guy friend that I DO love to death), and he's "taken" so he's off-limits, so I'm definitely not trying to hold out "hope".
It may be (like Nicola mentioned) that you're holding out hope for that one that you're really interested in. Don't wait TOO long though!
Try to open your eyes to other guys. Even if you may not be madly in love with them at first sight. But trust me, don't ever settle!
I made the mistake last year of giving two guys that were into me a "chance", and it didn't end well. One dude I just KNEW I could not see myself marrying let alone dating.
Didn't like his personality, and he wasn't even what I would consider a "friend".
The OTHER guy was "decent", but after talking with him, getting to know him, and basically dating him for about 8 months I just never really felt anything for him. I just knew deep down in my gut that he wasn't the one for me. I knew I could do better. After 8 months of dating you want to feel EXCITED about a guy. You know?? He never did it for me. And, I always felt like I was somehow being dishonest with him. I didn't want to lead him on, so I ended up basically breaking things off with him. He was a good guy, but just not for me.
So...please don't settle! You want to really feel GOOD about the person you're dating. Because when those hard times come, you want to be able to remember what it was about that man that you loved. On the same token however,
DO give some guys a chance if they are into you and you are attracted to them at least personality-wise.
Maybe it will lead somewhere, maybe it won't! But at least you will find out what you can handle and what you can't handle in a man.
*Besides...it might take you moving on to another dude for that OTHER guy to finally "wake up" and realize the gem that you are.