I had a conversation with a coworker today where my comments were dismissed because I am young and unmarried. Basically, she was venting because he's not doing what he's supposed to do financially in the household/relationship. I stated that I would make it clear certain things need to be done, if he doesn't want to pay the cell bill, I would disconnect his to send a message.
Her reply was I wouldn't get married with that selfish attitude or I wouldn't be married for long. My reply was I can't see myself in an unbalanced relationship. Her reply, life happens what if the relationship becomes unbalanced financially? I told her it would depend on why it was unbalanced (if he was laid off and actively looking is different than he just doesn't contribute).
Is my age (25) and selfishness the reason that I don't understand these things. I'm not currently dating and its not because I'm not approached, I feel my time is valuable so why spend it with someone who's just ok so I won't be alone? I see no point in that so I date accordingly. But my question is, what is the correct way to handle a relationship with lack of balance?
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Her reply was I wouldn't get married with that selfish attitude or I wouldn't be married for long. My reply was I can't see myself in an unbalanced relationship. Her reply, life happens what if the relationship becomes unbalanced financially? I told her it would depend on why it was unbalanced (if he was laid off and actively looking is different than he just doesn't contribute).
Is my age (25) and selfishness the reason that I don't understand these things. I'm not currently dating and its not because I'm not approached, I feel my time is valuable so why spend it with someone who's just ok so I won't be alone? I see no point in that so I date accordingly. But my question is, what is the correct way to handle a relationship with lack of balance?
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