I am coming to believe that most if not all forms of abuse are about CONTROL.
-he wants to buy your clothes (so he can control what you wear)
-calls incessantly (you think "he's so into me" naw, it's about control)
-1000 times yes to the mind games (abusers are VERY smart and manipulative)
-Has to go with you EVERYWHERE (again you think it's "cute" till your man is sitting up in the hair salon with you...wth...)
-makes you choose between him and friends/family (doesn't want you to have an "outlet" who will tell you that the behavior he's exhibiting isn't healthy)
-Makes you think you can't do better (major emotional abuse tactic)
-is VERY attached to you really early in the relationship (you and him date once or twice and he's "your man")
-he can do whatever he wants but you have "rules" (a grown woman shouldn't have a bunch of rules she has to adhere to)
And yes, I know too much about abuse..