I wish i had real life 3c/3b friends. I feel alone in the Real Life natural world. Every single natural i know in real life has 4a/4b hair and they either treat me like an ****** unicorn or give me the rudest attitude.
I used to try not to get into hair typing....but in real life I've been so "othered" its like...like im not welcome amongst type 4 naturals.
I almost feel like i should flipping apologize to them for having loose curls. Im ****** sorry that not all of my curls are the size of pen springs and coffee stirrers! Yes the majority of my curls are the size of pencils and sharpies.
I feel left out often...i love talking hair...but i notice there's a real sisterhood amongst type 4 naturals and i don't have that experience
if i enter the conversation or am part of it...Type 4s are adamant about telling me what i should/could do to my hair bc i have "that type of hair"...or they want to see it straightened. Or they will just
I don't tell them what to do and oftentimes i give a compliment.
Another thing that grinds my ****** gears about being a type 3 natural...is that ive seen numerous times ppl throwing shade bc a type 3 acknowledges this crap and says something about it....its real outchere! Its even hard to find t shirts that celebrate curly hair. I have only seen about 4 shirts i like amongst the THOUSANDS of shirts and accessories made to celebrate fros and kinky hair.
I guess im just frustrated bc i don't know any other Black women in real life with 3b/3c hair. All i relate to are the few i find on Youtube. Nobody in my family has hair like mine either. I was even thinking of trying to form a FB group or something.
I know the saying is "it wouldn't be an issue if you didn't make it one"...but i didn't.. its just things I've noticed as my hair gets longer. Once again in life im an outcast.