barbiesocialite
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She's nuts for entertaining this. no ma'am.
Why don't they just calculate their budget and savings needs and deposit equal amounts instead of basing contribution on a percentage.
This reminds me why I'm not into flashy dudes..they see their interest and happiness as a priority. No sir, not me.
I do not like his way of thinking at all. Does not seem family oriented to me
He should be saying our family income will be $9300, bills x, savings x the remainder will be spent on each other. What is this "his and her" mentality from a husband and possible father?
Being fair should be not into play here. They are one (or should be) now. Anyway, she needs to check his controlling trait and somewhat selfish nature before agreeing to marry him. He seems like he would not even want her to stop working if she wanted to after children because it won't be "fair".
I'm like female version of insecure flashy attractive dudes. I want my man as plain, boring and low-maintenance as possible. I'm always the most interesting and costly thing about him. The most important thing he should need to spend money on is me.
Fortunately for me, I'm cheap, stingy and self-entitled. Except with children. If there is another adult involved, I believe my money should be the last priority. I dont care if it's buying a slurpee at 7-11. I dont want to and dont believe in splitting ish with adults. Can't get with the drama. Doesnt matter who it is. Either one person is paying for everything or we will be doing nothing.
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Scenerio (Not me I jacked this from somewhere else)
Me and my girlfriend have some disagreements in how to split bills IF we were to get married. The way I think bills should be split is in the ratio of the incomes. She takes home $3100/month and I take home $6200/month. So, if our joint expenses hypothetically would be $3500/month then this is the way I would do it. 50% of each paycheck would go to savings (this %tage would be adjusted later depending future expenses - kids etc.)
Her contribution to bills: $1150 (around 33%), to savings: $1550, remainder: $400
My contribution to bills: $2350 (67%), to savings: $3100, remainder: $750
The remainder is a discretionary expense for each person to spend on their personal interests/hobbies etc. Now, she takes offense to the fact that I get to have $750 in spending money and she gets only $400. She says it should be equal regardless of who makes more or less IF we were to be married.
What do you guys think? I have many more hobbies than she does.
Well. They're not married. I understand that husbands should be willing to sacrifice for their wives, and its clear that he's not ready to do that. I can relate. But that's why I'm not trying to get married right now
I don't know, I don't get the sense that he really wants to marry her lol. I can see all that "fairness" going out the window once he meets a woman who can inspire that level of devotion in him. This chick isn't the one.
So rent, food, electricity, cell phone, cable can be less than 500?
She's nuts for entertaining this. no ma'am.
Your last paragraph is gospel! You can tell even in the very beginning/dating phase (like that dude who stole his date's cellphone for her half of the date, smh).
Men looking for roommates with a side of sex these days.
I feel if a man can't afford a wife, stay single.
Men looking for roommates with a side of sex these days.
I feel if a man can't afford a wife, stay single.
I thought it was pretty fair Whenever we go out, he'll be paying anyway so.... he needs the bigger budget
I thought it was pretty fair Whenever we go out, he'll be paying anyway so.... he needs the bigger budget
From an objective point of view, I can see it being fair, but he seems like the type to focus on exact numbers and percentages too much. That could pose problems in the future and cause unnecessary headaches and arguments. She isn't going to be your roommate, she's going to be your wife. I don't agree with 50/50, but I also understand that 2 incomes tend to make things easier than 1 and neither party should be stingy with helping if it comes down to where it's needed (provided we're talking about average joe's/jane's who aren't rich).
These two should NOT get married. Marriage is not 50/50 and thinking so will lead straight to divorce.