Online dating

[scarcity21]

you don't~~~
unless you are asked for another date

first date...a coffee date..is a good screener
super casual...you have a time boundary in mind ahead...
and you use it.... .
...oh my look at the time...gotta go...

if he pushes for a future second date during the coffee
you don't have to specific or blunt unless you want to be
{{sorry ..you're real nice,but it's not a match for me }}}

and or
..I'm glad we met..but I'm going to have to say no.....I am seeing other people...
so...I'm sorry..but thank you!
it was nice to meet and good luck with school or work

I soooooo miss the thank you button...Thanks Kayte

 

[scarcity21]

No, I wouldn't use the word superficial at all.

To me, it's not about being superficial or not. Attraction IS important. I will say this all day.

I just also believe that attraction doesn't have to be instant for a relationship to be fulfilling, and I do think that people are possibly missing out on some great partners because they dismiss them too quickly.

Again, you don't have to wait forever to decide if you're attracted, and there are certain qualities that I NEVER will be attracted to... but lack of immediate attraction as a reason for dismissal might be a hasty move if one is serious in looking for a long-term partner.

I totally agree!!!

 

[Zaynab]

Oh you haven't gone yet. Ok then, well go out with him and have an open mind