***Online Dating Support Thread***

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34? but black people age so much slower than white people and you could not possibly be 34 unless...

*realization dawns*

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

#dudeisobviously53
 
do y'all entertain coffee dates? going on one tomorrow with someone from okcupid but one of my friends was like this is an early sign of him being cheap lol. but idk..maybe for the first meet up this could be considered acceptable
 
NaturallyBri87 said:
do y'all entertain coffee dates? going on one tomorrow with someone from okcupid but one of my friends was like this is an early sign of him being cheap lol. but idk..maybe for the first meet up this could be considered acceptable
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It seems that the Coffee arrangement is used as a Meet & Greet, or can be used as a non-committal way to "see" each without him growing broke. I'm not fond of it, but I've learned that this is a common request.
 
i dont think its about being cheap necessarily, not without other warning signs. a lot of people, men and women, don't want to put a lot of pressure on a first meet so they just meet for coffee to get it out of the way. i personally am not a fan of it, but since i am moving away from formal dates i would probably be less strict about them. and dont dress up for them. if he wants to meet for coffee, you being dressed up will probably work against you (why is she dressed up just to meet for coffee)

i hate coffee meets tbh idk.
 
Ok so just left my coffee date. It was at 5:00 and he chose a Starbucks in the middle of downtown atl=no parking. So after finally finding a parking spot I walk in at like 5:10. At about 5:40 he's like "so I have to had out I have somewhere to be at 6" bih whet? So I'm like if you only had a small window of time why did you suggest we meet today? He talkin bout he thought I was gonna get there right at 5. Smh. And he didn't even ask if I wanted any coffee. Smh. He was cute tho. And tall...so if we go out again we better be going to dinner in Buckhead to make up for that waste of time.
 
^girl stop. i would advise you not to go out with him again, but him getting up to leave after spending 30 minutes with you (and didnt even bother to actually have coffee) is a pretty big hint that you will not be hearing from him again. he didnt have anything to do directly an hour after scheduling a social event :lol:
 
CaraWalker said:
^girl stop. i would advise you not to go out with him again, but him getting up to leave after spending 30 minutes with you (and didnt even bother to actually have coffee) is a pretty big hint that you will not be hearing from him again. he didnt have anything to do directly an hour after scheduling a social event :lol:
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Haha. I was thinking the same thing. Like okay he clearly grant interested. But he did say that he Couldnr push the time past 5 cuz he had plans. But then when I was about to go to my car he was like "do you like dancing? We're gonna go dancing next time." Then he was all like "give me a hug" Sooo idk what he's on. But it was a waste of time. Luckily he was cute
 
NaturallyBri87 said:
Haha. I was thinking the same thing. Like okay he clearly grant interested. But he did say that he Couldnr push the time past 5 cuz he had plans. But then when I was about to go to my car he was like "do you like dancing? We're gonna go dancing next time." Then he was all like "give me a hug" Sooo idk what he's on. But it was a waste of time. Luckily he was cute
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9 times out of 10 my dates end with fake "plans" to get together again :lol: most men do not have the balls, or just dont think its worth bothering, saying "i dont think we're a match take care," which i get, but at this point im like, stop pretending like youre going to call me again cause youre not. i am coming to the conclusion that guys are just looking to get laid in that one shot and if they dont get it, they didnt want to actually date you in the first place, and meeting you didnt change their mind, so they ghost. we think if we sleep with him on the first night we're not going to hear from him again, but the truth is you were never going to hear from him again after that first night anyway, and you figure it makes sense to blame it on the sex. in reality, he was only in for that one night either way.

expect a "what you doing" text at 3am :lol:
 
Ivonnovi said:
I wish I could post this without swinging a sword.

Have you all ever had a date, that made you go back and look at the pictures :brainfog:to see if this was a "bait and switch"?

I had a lunch date recently, it had been rescheduled 2x. I agreed to the 3rd offer because I was going to be on that side of town anyway. We've corresponded several times since October and always had brief and polite conversations so I figured ....what the heck.

His online pictures were mainly closeup headshots, and he's wearing a suit. One picture is grainy and appears more than 10 years old...[now that I look back]. I selected the restaurant and arrived a little early so I went ahead and grabbed a booth. When he arrived I restrained myself from immediately revisiting his profile to compare him to the photo's. :eek: He looked different from his photo's, and in an he's-not-that-photogenic kind of way. BTW Marlow's Tavern is dimly lit.

And to boot, he LITERALLY , had to squeeze himself into the booth, "S-Q-U-E-E-Z-E". :blush2:I immediately asked him if we should get a table and he declined. He looked uncomfortable for the entire 1.5 hours we were there.

Because he is a nice guy, I remained, doesn't quite have a butt-his-face; and I am a bit of a chubby chaser but DAMN SON..... I assume that he has a medical issue for the weight; I'm a compassionate person but .....[I can't with the weight, which I guess explains the odd camera angled pic's in his profile....

Unfortunately for him, I am not willing to put any effort into unraveling any tomfoolery regarding profiles, profile pics, waddeling, and the like. Especially when this individual stayed requesting photo's of me...which I declined......again DAMN SoN!!!! No Bueno...:stop:
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Talk about a Catfish! That is so not ok. :lol:
 
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