C@ssandr@
formerly known as "keyawarren"
Soul Swipe? Anyone on there?
Nope. what's that? Is it a black Tinder?
Soul Swipe? Anyone on there?
Nope. what's that? Is it a black Tinder?
im on break rnRIP to this thread. Looks like online dating has taken a decline in usage or people still do it, but the conversation is repetitive, so there's no talk anymore.
^^A guy on POF told me he's "orally bi".
nonjudgment.What does your vetting process entail @CaraWalker ? It seems pretty effective lol
I love your stealthy approach, great points, it all ties into basic human psychology and what it takes for folks to open upnonjudgment.
im guessing a lot of people cant pull this off because theyre too damn self righteous. but heres the thing - while i am judging the hell out of you in my head, i absolutely do not have the unavoidable urge to tell you about yourself, because then youre not going to be honest with me. self righteous people cut off their noses to spite their face. they just HAVE to let you know what they think about you.
basically i wait for an appropriate subject to be introduced (which is often sex or past relationships, but not always) and start subtly digging. i ask questions, but ones that are easy for him to answer - not open ended, not leading, not accusatory. just questions as if i really want to know - he's interesting and i'm curious. like it's not really a big deal or there is no ulterior motive for me asking. this guy asked if i really wanted to know or if i was just teasing him. i was like hahaha how would i be teasing you? im curious! once they start talking i usually ask a further series of "i just want to understand your perspective" questions... usually you can get away with "how was it?" if you're not that creative. and they talk, because they don't feel like they're walking into a trap.
in my case i might often play it off by being encouraging - that there's nothing weird or strange about this as if its not a problem but i dont know if thats necessary you could probably just as simply be done with it once you heard what you wanted to hear. but the other reason why i dont do that is because i dont want to discourage these men to be dishonest about their behavior. i want to them to keep thinking its ok to have these conversations with women, and even if they have had negative reactions before, my encouraging one (even if its fake and even if they do eventually realize that when things "somehow" just end up not working out) might be enough for them to keep in line with the idea that theyre doing the right thing and the right girl will understand.
How many of y'all would match him
How many of y'all would match him
I'm thinking of going on a break from Okc. I have 3 guys that I've been on just one date with a new first date next week. I'm exhausted.
All 3 guys were pretty good dates too and all have asked me on a 2nd date. One definitely sticks out though. I guess I'm the most attracted to him but check this out. He texts me a days after our date (he'd already texted me that he had a great time, wants to hangout again, blah blah) and he tells me that he went to the doc's the day after our date and they'd just called to let him know that he has strep. He wanted to let me know in case I start feeling sick and that he's sorry for having potentially exposed me.
So we kissed on that date, like tongue action for 3 or so minutes before we parted ways. Initiated by him. So I'm like you knew you were sick and you still put your streppy tongue in my mouth!? I'm kind of pissed but man he's damn fine. I've been giving him grief about it and he's been super apologetic (after the fact!). He just checked in again today to see if I'm still feeling ok. Should I just chop it up as he was really attracted to me and wanted to kiss me or is he gross and crazy?
just got a message on okcupid http://www.okcupid.com/profile/AmazingScooter?cf=profile_quickview
hey look! a redneck!
@fasika, got you one girl! ima look out for you from here on out