Britt
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I agree and my preference is meeting asap. With one of the dudes above I was wondering why he was so overly cautious. After I hold one convo w/ someone I'm ready to see them face to face.
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DarkJoy
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sounds like hes got an SO. Thats pretty classic of dudes in ltrs just playing to boost their own ego.
Britt
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I just got a chuckle looking at someone's pic and this fool is sitting on a chair .. fine.. next to a lackluster looking bare bed and a night stand and when I look closely it's a can of air freshner and 2 boxes of Magnum's 
.... smdh. He writes in his profile about his dislike of ratchets and the rest of his pics look normal till you get to that one 
.... smdh. He writes in his profile about his dislike of ratchets and the rest of his pics look normal till you get to that one 
RoundEyedGirl504
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When a guy TELLS you he is out of your league, believe him. Most men I find don't lie about that lol!
sweetvi
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he said I was out of his league. you r right I guess. lol ive been " ghosted"
CaraWalker
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ivyness
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@CaraWalker what is your okcupid strategy? I don't know how to make the most use of it and I usually last a day or two before I delete my account.
CaraWalker
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i dont think i have a strategy anymore besides not taking it seriously. i havent met a guy from online in a while.
im in a bad phase where i want a very specific type of guy probably for the wrong reasons so i mainly ignore most of my messages these days. right now im only able to spark up some interest in guys that are top tier who probably dont actually really want to date me. very good looking guys with money. and they come by less frequently. so. bad strategy
idk.I was searching for Agape Match to see if an ladies had experience with that service; my cousin messaged me about it. "Agape" brought up your post about the guy saying he loved your "Agape smile." LOL. Then I saw this post about taller men. I just decided recently to only focus on taller men too. Have you modified that requirement? I'm 5'11" barefoot and men seem to either:after my last few relationships and recent dating experiences, i have pretty much boiled down my requirements to two core things: taller than me and highly educated/very intellectual. everything else can grow out of that and be negotiated. but a guy will automatically be considered if he has those 2 things, and if he doesn't, i'm automatically less excited/open to exploring.
but ive also been thinking lately about male dealbreakers. like how guys always get mad if you want to take them shopping and fix them up a little. so im kinda like, well if guys dont want you to "change them"and their clothes, what if i just stop dating guys who cant dress? then im the *****
got a message from a tall smart guy
a) love me height/be in awe of it (but they're always shorter)
b) get an attitude about it and seem intimidated
However, since I've decided to focus on tall men, they've been magnetically drawn to my profile, however, I'm not feeling any of them yet. I went out on one date with a 6'2" guy who was a bit too neurotic for me.
And, an amazing 5'7" man contacted me, but what can I do with that height?!
I'm sure I'm really passing up on some absolutely amazing men, who happen to be shorter than me, but I just can't. I love being tall, but when it comes to dating, some men just seem like they're not sure how to react.
CaraWalker
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somebody said i have an "agape smile"?
i must have skimmed that message because i dont even know what that means i dont discriminate based on height. i prefer taller obviously but as long as he is not 5'7 if he is good looking and everything else i would probably consider it. tbh though i havent gotten any messages from any short men id be interested in otherwise. so although in theory im open to it in practice its probably removing a lot more of my interest than im thinking it does. i do automatically scroll down to look at height.
im barely taller than 5'7 but guys have had issues before when they are short so i avoid it where possible tbh.
Ivonnovi
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I',m bored so I went online to see my daily matches. While perusing the profiles I ran across the following Brief description of "What he's looking for"; I don't expect to see this lack of decorum from someone in there mid-50's; SMDH:
He's either very upfront or very immature, or both!!! It looks like he's trolling for STD's.
About the one I'm looking for...
Looking for someone who really enjoys having sex, I was deprived by my ex- wife for a very long time thus, my sex drive is very high...no hang-ups.
Looking for someone who really enjoys having sex, I was deprived by my ex- wife for a very long time thus, my sex drive is very high...no hang-ups.
CaraWalker
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JustifiablyMe
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Was corresponding with 2 doctors (both from Nigeria) and I was all woo hoo! Now I'm all 
. First one's never been married but has 2 kids by 2 diff women (who live in Africa) and lives in a not so nice part of town. Second one lives with a roommate. I guess my assumption that doctors live the high life was wrong lol.
. First one's never been married but has 2 kids by 2 diff women (who live in Africa) and lives in a not so nice part of town. Second one lives with a roommate. I guess my assumption that doctors live the high life was wrong lol.
CaraWalker
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well then.
who wants to guess where this is going
CaraWalker
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I got asked out by this thirty six year old guy for tonight. he had been viewing my profile for awhile and I waited to see if he would message but once he did I kinda didnt like him anymore the message was awful (boring and stiff and dull). the last two guys I met were actually okcupid dates and the outcome of both of those was so mixed/troubling emotionally that I dont even know if I want to be doing this right now. so many other things on my plate I care about more.
I dont care about this for me and my daily life but as far as my age and long term goals I feel like I need to be doing this. maybe I could set up a string of only daytime dates and think of it as husband networking and not real dates. idk. trying to find a way to motivate myself to stay in the game.
also messaging with another guy that I dont think is cute enough but at this point I also feel like what I want works against me so I dont trust my judgment there anymore.
the message was awful (boring and stiff and dull). the last two guys I met were actually okcupid dates and the outcome of both of those was so mixed/troubling emotionally that I dont even know if I want to be doing this right now. so many other things on my plate I care about more.I dont care about this for me and my daily life but as far as my age and long term goals I feel like I need to be doing this. maybe I could set up a string of only daytime dates and think of it as husband networking and not real dates. idk. trying to find a way to motivate myself to stay in the game.
also messaging with another guy that I dont think is cute enough but at this point I also feel like what I want works against me so I dont trust my judgment there anymore.
ScorpioLove
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I just signed up for okcupid. Is there a way to filter messages?
CaraWalker
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#as$hole
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CaraWalker
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the guy I lost my virginity to viewed my profile but he was calling himself by a different name. I was like wait a minute. but thats him though right? dont tell me I dont remember what the guy I lost my virginity to looks like? then I remembered that his family called him by that other name so it wasnt weird anymore. womp though
but he was calling himself by a different name. I was like wait a minute. but thats him though right? dont tell me I dont remember what the guy I lost my virginity to looks like? then I remembered that his family called him by that other name so it wasnt weird anymore. womp though has anyone tried this dating app called Happn? My friend in NYC told me that she downloaded yesterday and was amazed by the many cute guys that constantly cross her path, but hadn't noticed. I've never heard of it prior to yesterday. She said it's better than Tinder.
I guess it lets you know or see all the men who just crossed your path or who are near you who are single (if they have a profile on the site). It alerts you somehow and then you can heart them or send them a charm. She said the heart is kind of like a "like" and the charm is more "urgent."
I'm in LA, so we're mostly in our cars, but I'd like to see who in my super large company that's basically a campus, might have the app. There's lots of cute men here, but many are married.
I'm downloading the app right now. Its description says, "Every time you cross paths with someone in real life, their profile shows up on your timeline!"
I guess it lets you know or see all the men who just crossed your path or who are near you who are single (if they have a profile on the site). It alerts you somehow and then you can heart them or send them a charm. She said the heart is kind of like a "like" and the charm is more "urgent."
I'm in LA, so we're mostly in our cars, but I'd like to see who in my super large company that's basically a campus, might have the app. There's lots of cute men here, but many are married.
I'm downloading the app right now. Its description says, "Every time you cross paths with someone in real life, their profile shows up on your timeline!"
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CaraWalker
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the guy I lost my virginity to viewed my profile
fool messaged me talking bout I think I know you
not today, satan.
Britt
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After reading your post I decided to sign up for it last night.
Well, well, well... If I were interested in swirling I'd sure have my pickings! I work in the financial district and there are TONS of white men that work in Finance on my feed this morning. Some of them are some lookers too I must say. Ughhhh, my first, second, and third preference is Black though.
Oh cool! Glad you tried it. It's fun, right? I found a guy that works in my immediate building, though it's a large company and I've never seen him. All the men in my feed are white or other, no black men at all thus far. I have two mutual likes.
Britt
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I think the idea of it is really pretty cool actually. So far all I see are white men. Very very very few blacks.
CaraWalker
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also what is up with guys and all these power dynamic issues? if theyre not asking you to dominate over them they want to dominate over you. nobody is content to have unassigned roles in a relationship/bed anymore?
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CaraWalker
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what is this dude even doing visiting my profile
i RGIS'd the pics and they dont appear anywhere else, so if this is a real person you get out of here. you dont want to date me. i dont have time for this
making me feel bad about myself
i RGIS'd the pics and they dont appear anywhere else, so if this is a real person you get out of here. you dont want to date me. i dont have time for this
making me feel bad about myself
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MuziqizLyfe
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what is this dude even doing visiting my profile
i RGIS'd the pics and they dont appear anywhere else, so if this is a real person you get out of here. you dont want to date me. i dont have time for this
making me feel bad about myself
I never trust profiles where men say they aren't looking for casual sex and really want something meaningful...so transparent
he is good looking though 
CaraWalker
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ok you listed yourself as straight but do you not realize you posted a photo of yourself with two shirtless men inside of a gay bar? yes i actually googled the name on the poster wondering why anyone would do anything this blatant
why are you liking my profile
get out of here
CaraWalker
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MamitaLolita
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Whew! Talk about a long hiatus. So let's catch up on my ventures...
Basically nothing new, lots of guys who didn't last, and then I met HIM. It's been 3 months now. It started out casual because I was supposed to be moving overseas, and he agreed that we would have a long distance relationship. I was a little skeptical, but I went with it. Then the move got cancelled and we've been together since. Things got bad lately because I let my previous trust issues get the best of me. out of nowhere the other day he asked if I had gone through his phone before (he leaves it unlocked). Because I can't lie to him, I told him yes, and he was not happy. Now we're kind of in some limbo where I'm not sure if I should stay with him and he's not sure if he should stay with me. Not sure if I should cut my losses and move on and try to start with a trusting relationship or just stop being so paranoid and trust him. Hmm....
Basically nothing new, lots of guys who didn't last, and then I met HIM. It's been 3 months now. It started out casual because I was supposed to be moving overseas, and he agreed that we would have a long distance relationship. I was a little skeptical, but I went with it. Then the move got cancelled and we've been together since. Things got bad lately because I let my previous trust issues get the best of me. out of nowhere the other day he asked if I had gone through his phone before (he leaves it unlocked). Because I can't lie to him, I told him yes, and he was not happy. Now we're kind of in some limbo where I'm not sure if I should stay with him and he's not sure if he should stay with me. Not sure if I should cut my losses and move on and try to start with a trusting relationship or just stop being so paranoid and trust him. Hmm....
