***Online Dating Support Thread***

JollyGal said:
for the women who are online dating non-black men
what do you put in your profiles to let them know you are interested without saying "black white asian i dont care im interested"?

Are you bold with it or subtle?

TIA
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I put my pic up and they flock :kneel: :lachen: :kiss3:

Like some pics of nonblack dudes send them some messages
 
CaraWalker said:
girl :look: :lol: he is lying his *** off :lol: hes the one trolling YOU

you gone show up and he gone try to distract you with something silly and hope you forget all about this conversation :lol:
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I have never had a man online tell me he had a black card that didn't. The last one that made that declaration had a jet and a Lamborghini. I posted receipts in another thread. It's not something folk usually say. I at least know the house is true because home ownership records are online now :sekret:

I just don't feel like wasting my time trolling was fun Saturday. Now that it's Monday the thrill is kind of gone but my curiosity might get the best of me.

as for being distracted it doesn't happen easily and I have been known to leave folk right where they stand.

this is why I don't give out my real #
 
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Sooo I need to learn how to better express how I am feeling. I felt like I had overcome that part of myself but I clearly have not. Ended up saying something very aggressively when it shouldn't of been at all. Now I have to pay the consequence which is irritating me because I just want want I want
 
PretteePlease said:
I put my pic up and they flock :kneel: :lachen: :kiss3:

Like some pics of nonblack dudes send them some messages
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Thanks for responding. Is that you in your avi? I can see why they flock. You are pretty! :yep:
Im between average looking and attractive :look: not downplaying my looks here just being honest with myself and the lane I'm playing in.

I can't make the first move. Being the aggressor has never worked in my favor. At most what I will do is check out their profile so they know i've looked but I do not feel comfortable messaging them first or liking/winking. :nono:
If The Rules for online dating does not work out then I will strongly consider messaging men first.
 
JollyGal said:
Thanks for responding. Is that you in your avi? I can see why they flock. You are pretty! :yep: Im between average looking and attractive :look: not downplaying my looks here just being honest with myself and the lane I'm playing in. I can't make the first move. Being the aggressor has never worked in my favor. At most what I will do is check out their profile so they know i've looked but I do not feel comfortable messaging them first or liking/winking. :nono: If The Rules for online dating does not work out then I will strongly consider messaging men first.
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i wouldnt recommend being the aggressor. frankly i dont even view first anymore. i follow their lead 100%.
 
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JollyGal said:
Thanks for responding. Is that you in your avi? I can see why they flock. You are pretty! :yep:
Im between average looking and attractive :look: not downplaying my looks here just being honest with myself and the lane I'm playing in.

I can't make the first move. Being the aggressor has never worked in my favor. At most what I will do is check out their profile so they know i've looked but I do not feel comfortable messaging them first or liking/winking. :nono:
If The Rules for online dating does not work out then I will strongly consider messaging men first.
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I was HALF being funny about the flocking. I list very general activities maybe that's what gets them to message me but my inbox from the profile I made on Sat is :

70-black
15-white
10-latino
05-asian
 
I'm trying out Tinder for the first time as of a couple of days ago. Have seen a couple of nice looking men. One of my matches were white. I honestly got a little exicited, because he would definitely be my white guy type lol. But after the initial, "hellos", I haven't heard anything from him.

Been chatting with someone else..

I don't know. I feel kinda crazy for knowing that my face is on these profiles, and I could be walking right past someone in Walmart, who has seen my profile, and I wouldn't even know it.
 
1st okc date was Sun 29 ITengineer driven Cameroon too short 5'4? too young he would make someone a nice boyfriend wonderful French accent :yay: if are in Houston I will pass you his screen name each one reach one

2nd okc date was Tues 42 Dr Pakistani on the short side English not great but we did laugh and have a bit of chemistry. He was a bit tight lipped he said he worked in healthcare, he said he had to give a presentation when I asked on what he said his field :sekret: I only learned he was a Dr. because he had to take a call and seems like he is a surgeon from the 1/2 of the conversation I heard. He could get a 2nd date he loves to travel and dine out but he doesn't make the hooha wet. I like manly men he seems so meek and awkward.

3rd date Tonight I meet Ade. Wait is it Ade, Prince Ade or King Ade because seems like every Ade on Okc has hit me up in the last few days

I think I might have double booked so I might need to push him up and push back the other this is getting confusing so i'm putting things in my calendar

4th date Tomorrow I have a date w/ mrmarcus. Is that a porn reference :roadrunner:

CaraWalker I feel like investigating OldBlackCard just out of curiosity even though I have little to no interest in him i'm texting him now

edited to rant: I have 5 pics up 3 face 1 full body 1 a vacay pic why are folk asking for more pics/my instagram/facebook. If I don't like you, you don't need access to my whole social network.
 
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I'd complete him? And you have 2 kids? They don't complete you?
 

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I think I'm over Tinder. This dude literally asked me the most vulgar and disgusting question.

I had to ask if he was serious, because I was in shock.
 
BGT said:
I'd complete him? And you have 2 kids? They don't complete you?
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My children are my world but they don't complete me....your relationship with your children is just one aspect of who you
are :yep: That "complete me" line is from the movie Jerry Maguire, I've only had it used on me once in a sincere way, the other times it was silly to say considering how little we knew each other :lol:
 
I booked and unbooked several dates yesterday

Ade got on my nerves so I canceled/blocked him

Singapore wanted me to come to his hotel so I made other plans WTF MAN Locals only

Other dude was talking about going home and coming back in Houston traffic so I canceled I'm hungry

Ended up going out with Bluetooth. He said we needed to be on a patio and I jumped up and got in my car :yay: He had his Bluetooth headset around his neck like a necklace all date long I wanted to snatch it off his neck leave that ish in the car. He was shorter than expected since when is 5'10 5'7? I must be taller than 5'1 because everyone seems short to me. He had good boss energy. He was a gentleman and he ordered for me I liked that. He didn't make the hooha wet but he likes to travel and work out an is a fat shamer :look: I like that. He told me he thought I was great but I was a size away from being fat :lachen: I love it, all this you don't need to lose weight is bull I need a workout partner I lose faster that way. He also refused to get me a brownie that he said HE wanted at the beginning of the date at a different restaraunt. I was trying to sober up so I got 2 cake balls. He refused to pay for them :lachen: I actually like that he told me no because I'm always trying people and he wasn't having my nonsense. I drove him to his car.....it was a headless horse :woot: :yay: he just got extra points

Date with somebody tonight that I can't remember have to go back and check the msgs

Friday I'm double booked one for happy hour one for dinner saving all my calories until evening that day

Saturday with some random cowboy. I'm going for stories and giggles for lunch on a patio somewhere
 
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MuziqizLyfe said:
My children are my world but they don't complete me....your relationship with your children is just one aspect of who you are :yep: That "complete me" line is from the movie Jerry Maguire, I've only had it used on me once in a sincere way, the other times it was silly to say considering how little we knew each other :lol:
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Regardless he's ridiculous and lives 3 hours away :lol:
 
ive just rejoined OKC and match with new accounts.

description has been tweaked to include gender neutral hobbies. im having new photos taken after i get a new wig :grin:
Match and OKC give users room for more photo 3-5 should be ok.

CaraWalker you might be on to something. Most of the profiles are atheists. Match is full of Christian men :lol:

i already found two ideal men on match. :blush: One profile gave me butterflies. he has similar interests, love animals, faith, upbringing and education. His profile is quite long so he must be serious about meeting the right woman. I was tempted to wink but i just viewed the profile instead.

silly me for being a hopeless romantic
fingers crossed he looks at my profile and messages me

Its nerve wracking getting yourself out there again after a dry-spell
 
we had been talking off and on all week and every time the conversation stalled he would ask something like that, as if we were texting or something.
 
JollyGal said:
:lachen:I usually ignore messages like that but your response is too good to not use. Is this the extent of your conversational repertoire? :lachen: The "hello how are you?" Or "Hi" is soooooo lazy. The first messenger should make more of an effort. At least pretend to read the profile you are message :nono:
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I like this too and more than likely will be using it very soon. :lol:
 
JustifiablyMe said:
I like this too and more than likely will be using it very soon. :lol:
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:grin: im down for starting a movement.

Used it today during an okc chat. We had been messaging each other for 2 days to exchange pleasantries and to set up a chat time. We had the chat today.
He opened with hi then asked me how are you? (misspelled of course because OKC is the gift that keeps on giving ):lachen:
I said I'm fine then dropped the question. He seemed offended sending me 4 lengthy messages in quick succession.
Seems like "Hi how r u" is NOT the extent of his conversational repertoire.
:lol:
In essence he said it was dumb of me to expect anything more than hi how r u and he was going to compliment me.

I wished him well with his search and moved on

He was cute too. Oh well :spinning: life is too short
 
JollyGal said:
:grin: im down for starting a movement.

Used it today during an okc chat. We had been messaging each other for 2 days to exchange pleasantries and to set up a chat time. We had the chat today.
He opened with hi then asked me how are you? (misspelled of course because OKC is the gift that keeps on giving ):lachen:
I said I'm fine then dropped the question. He seemed offended sending me 4 lengthy messages in quick succession.
Seems like "Hi how r u" is NOT the extent of his conversational repertoire.
:lol:
In essence he said it was dumb of me to expect anything more than hi how r u and he was going to compliment me.

I wished him well with his search and moved on

He was cute too. Oh well :spinning: life is too short
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That is hilarious. :lol::lol:
 
got a handful of messages from some potentials. i get excited about masters degrees :lol: but always soooooooo lazy about replying UGH! get it together!
 
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