Ok so I belong to a few online dating sites. I have met about 3 men from POF. The first guy I actually ended up spending a little time with but, he had trust issues because his wife cheated on him and got pregnant with the other man's baby. The second man I chatted with online, exchanged numbers. He calls me for the first time.....for the 1st minute of the convo, I was really enjoying talking to him. Then he starts to tell me about how he had been married twice, one of the wives he had a affair with while she was married and she got pregnant. They get married and things didn't work out. He says he has two kids, hadn't been around one of them since the child was 4(child is now 22). The second child, he also hadn't really been around since his 2nd divorce. It had been years since he seen the kid, he brings the kid to live with him. The kid only stayed for about 1 year. He starts talking about how the mother never sent him money for the kid, the kid ate all his food, ran up his light bill, etc. So he stops buying food for the house, doesn't pay his light bill for awhile. He didn't like the fact that the child kept asking for spending money. The child starts missing school so he decides that was the best time to send the child back to the mom. He puts the child on a airplane on Mothers Day and tells the child to tell the Mom Happy Mothers Day!!!! He tells me all this while using a whole lot of N-words, MFing and everything else you could imagine. My mouth is hanging open and I'm trying my best to continue to be polite. I'm sorry but all of these just rubbed me the wrong way. He has since sent me a few texts wanting to meet up and have dinner. I just can't do it!!!!!!
My other issue is that I have been trying to be open minded to dating outside my race to give myself more options....but I keep finding men who aren't really serious about dating, they're only interested in what it would be like to sleep with a black woman. SMH....
My other issue is that I have been trying to be open minded to dating outside my race to give myself more options....but I keep finding men who aren't really serious about dating, they're only interested in what it would be like to sleep with a black woman. SMH....
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met 3 guys, all of whom were great. actually dated one for a while, who was AMAZING 
but i unfortunately ****ed that up.
I thought of trying another paid site like Match or Eharmony but I just don't have the energy for online dating anymore, period. I just always seem to attract weirdos or men who aren't really looking for anything serious. I would much rather take my chances meeting someone in person.
