Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?

[w332]

Ladies, do you find the old saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" to be true?

 

[Lucie]

No. Anyone can change IF they want to. The hard part is for the cheated to know whether it is true or not.

 

[*CherryPie*]

Yes for the most part. But there are exceptions to the rule....but VERY few exceptions.

 

[LivingInPeace]

No I don't believe that. People can change and everyone is different. If you believe that once somebody cheats they will always cheat then you should believe that about every behavior. Once a liar always a liar. Once a pushover, always a pushover. Once faithful always faithful. Once a bad student, always a bad student. Once a murderer, always a murderer. People make mistakes and often learn from them.

 

[BrownSkinQT]

I have been a cheater before and I DO NOT want to inflict the pain on anyone else again! I told my everything about my my past and what I did and he's too good of a man for me to repeat my past actions.

I cheated on my ex because I resented him for not making a commitment to me. I know I should have just left him but we had a son together and I didn't want to break up the fam. I felt bad afterward and apologized. I'm in a ldr with my everything currently and I don't even feel the urge let alone temptation to stray.

So yes, people can and do change.

 

[tiffers]

I used to cheat back in the day. Matter of fact, I cheated on most of my exes, because they were dumb and got on my nerves.

Been with dh for almost eleven years now and have never felt the urge to stray. He's too awesome for that and anyway, no one would be able to compare.

So no, I don't believe the saying.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

I believe yes but with an asterick.

I think it is possible for someone who cheated in one relationship to not display the same behavior in a relationship with a different person.

But I have zero faith that someone who cheated and is taken back won't repeat the behavior even with therapy.

Cheating is about seeing what you can get away with.

 

[Layluh]

Once a cheater always a cheater, only if you're a woman.

If you're male? You're able to cheat over & over and magically learn how to eventually keep it in your pants one day.

 

[*CherryPie*]

The problem I'm seeing in this thread is, the CHEATERS are the ones who's saying no. Of course y'all are going to say no.

 

[Mortons]

aren't cheaters the best people to answer? That's like asking a square how much weed is in a dime bag versus asking a slinger.