quirkydimples
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It's a long article, but so far an interesting one. Thoughts?
The quote does make sense on some level. Most people follow the "look but don't touch rule" when it comes to relationships. Everyone looks at other men/women but no one acts on it. Even when a person practically has neon arrows pointing at their bed. These people don't follow that rule. I don't think I could be in an open relationship but are those that enter into one more...mature (this isn't really the word I'm looking for) in some way? Do they know something we don't? Barring the people that just want an excuse to cheat while their mate is left feeling neglected and unworthy because they want to step out. I'm not talking about those people.I haven't finished reading the article yet, but there was one thing that stood out so far:
The couples did not perceive their desire to see other people as a symptom of dysfunction but rather as a fairly typical human need that they thought they were up to the challenge of navigating.
This is very interesting.
The quote does make sense on some level. Most people follow the "look but don't touch rule" when it comes to relationships. Everyone looks at other men/women but no one acts on it. Even when a person practically has neon arrows pointing at their bed. These people don't follow that rule. I don't think I could be in an open relationship but are those that enter into one more...mature (this isn't really the word I'm looking for) in some way? Do they know something we don't? Barring the people that just want an excuse to cheat while their mate is left feeling neglected and unworthy because they want to step out. I'm not talking about those people.
Regarding the bold:
1) Hmm, how do we actually know this?
2) What does this have to do with the quote? The statement is not condoning nor condemning open relationships.
Also, I'm posting specifically in reference to the article.
The quote does make sense on some level. Most people follow the "look but don't touch rule" when it comes to relationships. Everyone looks at other men/women but no one acts on it. Even when a person practically has neon arrows pointing at their bed. These people don't follow that rule. I don't think I could be in an open relationship but are those that enter into one more...mature (this isn't really the word I'm looking for) in some way? Do they know something we don't? Barring the people that just want an excuse to cheat while their mate is left feeling neglected and unworthy because they want to step out. I'm not talking about those people.
Told ya.Article is long! I still haven't finished it, lol.